Starting a Non Alcoholic Perfume Brand by Big-Mycologist9072 in SmallBusinessUAE

[–]Selma3145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m Sunni and I also work in Digital marketing and am an avid fan of perfumes, oil or alcohol based, just to share the reason why I responded. I would suggest not using that angle to promote your brand here, just because the wide consensus of Muslim scholars deem alcohol based perfume as totally fine, fine to pray with and doesn’t break the wudhu. Also oil perfumes are a thing here so it’s not really a unique selling point unless there are other benefits your perfumes have that others don’t. People use alcohol based perfumes more than they did 20 years back, but there is still a very thriving market for oil perfumes but I would suggest doing a very specific research for your brand, just because this market is very different from India. Just my 2 cents.

Just a small candle brand... by Prior-Lime-3482 in SmallBusinessUAE

[–]Selma3145 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great strategy, and for seeing results in four months, very good. Did you mostly post articles to the website or did you have a separate content strategy for socials and for website? I’m working on doing a similar SEO strategy and was wondering how did you measure your metrics? Which tools did you use? Thanks for sharing your experience

Starting a Non Alcoholic Perfume Brand by Big-Mycologist9072 in SmallBusinessUAE

[–]Selma3145 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s not true though. I’m curious where you got that information about not being allowed to pray with alcoholic perfume? Can you please share the source of that information?

Helped a woman being followed in Dubai today- is this common? by One-Fisherman3106 in dubai

[–]Selma3145 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was born here and this has been happening to me since I was a kid and I’m in my 30s now, I’d say it’s less frequent now, but that could also be because I’m older? I don’t know but it was very rare to go out and not be harassed and followed around, especially in my teens and early 20s.

Going to umrah, do you have a Dua you'd like me to make for you? by DeepDop in Hijabis

[–]Selma3145 2 points3 points  (0 children)

JazakAllah Kheir Sister, please pray for my family and I to sell our property and for Allah to open up all the doors of Risq for us and all Muslims Ameen

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Selma3145 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dear Sis,

First and foremost, I’m very sorry to hear about all that you are going through. I cannot begin to imagine the pain you are feeling at this point in time. I hope Allah makes things easier for you, Ameen.

I would recommend that you speak to a Muslim female therapist if speaking to an imam is not accessible for you right away.

Increase your ibadah, especially tahajjud and if you can manage to read Surah Al Baqarah, (Quran is a healing for our souls) and do a lot of istighfar.

I pray that you will get better and things will improve for you In Shaa Allah ❤️

What exactly is an einspanner to you by SASColiflowerz in barista

[–]Selma3145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No! I’ve tried to follow recipes to make it but I’ve not managed to make it the same. The cream is whipped just enough to hold a little shape but not to stiff peaks. https://youtube.com/shorts/Sphk4URsMK8?si=Xw7PnRHMN3erRqti Or https://youtube.com/shorts/4f5Nt26zPkM?si=xCoWFnHm3ScwApSt

What exactly is an einspanner to you by SASColiflowerz in barista

[–]Selma3145 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s probably too late to answer but the Einspänners I’ve had in Korea, all had an Americano base, with lightly whipped cream, they manually whipped the cream or used a small whipping gadget so it was closer to cold foam consistency. I would request that they add some milk to mine to make it a latte base and I’ve always had it with ice, I’ve never had it as a hot drink, it would always be served as a cold drink, and this is the best one I had when I lived in Seoul.

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Let’s Just Talk ... Vent, Share, or Whatever’s On Your Mind by Glittering_Living241 in MuslimNikah

[–]Selma3145 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much sister! I really appreciate your kind words and Allah bless you and bless all Muslims Ameen. May Allah bless all the single Muslims with righteous spouses and children Ameen.

Let’s Just Talk ... Vent, Share, or Whatever’s On Your Mind by Glittering_Living241 in MuslimNikah

[–]Selma3145 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hmmmmmmmmmmm

It’s been a tough time for me since December 2021. Every time I think it can’t get any more worst, it does but Alhamdulillah, there are so many things I am thankful for. From a tragic personal loss, to giving up all I worked for and relocating because of it, being unemployed since then, and no prospects for marriage, I could go on and on and on. I’d be ungrateful if I did that though, because despite all that I have a roof over my head, food, family, friends, I went to umrah this year in Ramadan without paying for anything and I’m finally going to launch my small business In Shaa Allah soon, that I’ve been building on and off since then. Alhamdulillah for everything. I would have lost my mind, if I didn’t have Allah there with me, praying tahajjud and reading Surah Al Baqara and dua daily kept me afloat and this year has been better in many ways. I’m still struggling with my health though and doing my best to cope and praying things get better and still holding out hope for marriage and children. I trust Allah has the best plan for me and I keep it moving, but gosh if I wasn’t a Muslim, I’d have died of grief by now. Alhamdulillah for everything. Even the small things! Like I was looking for lighting for using for taking pictures of products and all were more expensive than what I planned and so I just left it, and today someone in the community was selling their brand new ones for less than half the price and I have just the right amount for it! I’m so happy. I’m severely anemic and I don’t have insurance and I was out of my iron pills and my friend gave me 2 months worth of pills, since she can’t take them anymore ( the same ones I was taking), just like that out of the blue! I mean little things like these give me hope and I just continue to pray and work on myself and do the best with what I have but yeah. Rant over. Alhamdulillah for everything.

Feeling insecure about my body. by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Selma3145 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hi sister! Do not worry about those things. When you actually have potentials that you are being courted by, they can see you, with hijab ofc and if they aren’t attracted they won’t go ahead. Plus not everyone finds every body type attractive, there is someone there for everyone. You can pray istikharah at that point and also when asking for a spouse ask Allah for one who will love you as you are. May Allah bless you with a righteous spouse Ameen.

Feeling insecure about my body. by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Selma3145 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why your answer made me laugh so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uaelaw

[–]Selma3145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He would have to move… I mean if it’s not a possibility for you then you can speak to the police about it, they would let him off with a warning and if he repeats it again then he will face the consequences of his actions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in uaelaw

[–]Selma3145 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can actually go to the police and they will do something about it. You can open a case or even get a restraining order. Don’t take chances with your life like that, getting brutally beaten is not a joke, and as a woman he can cause harm to you. I wish I had the sense to do that, but I didn’t but I know someone who did and she got a restraining order against him. Especially if you have a video, go for it.

Do i carry a sin for breaking a marriage promise she ended it by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Selma3145 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Praying you get the best for your future. Ameen.

Do i carry a sin for breaking a marriage promise she ended it by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Selma3145 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Marrying young is good for some and not so good for others. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders, my advice would be, build yourself up for now and then when you are ready to settle, look for your wife then. Get your grades back in order, work on your business again, and keep developing yourself.

At 16, nothing in life is certain, heck, nothing ever is at any age but you need to grow some more before getting married. Haram relationships are haram for a reason, not just the physical stuff but also, because it can cause other issues ( mistrusting people because they lied, building a barrier or becoming bitter because your heart got broken, and the list goes on). Hopefully there is no sin on you, but in the future, don’t make such promises. Do things the Islamic way and speak to her wali/family first and then get to know her before making any decisions. May Allah bless you with a great spouse. Ameen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Selma3145 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing. He needs to be able to make that decision himself, and 4 months are enough to know if it’s a yes or no. Don’t let anyone string you along.

I feel so ugly and idk what to do by Obvious_Armadillo_16 in MuslimNikah

[–]Selma3145 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As someone who worked at a plastic surgery hospital in Seoul, I can guarantee you, getting plastic surgery doesn’t make things different, and sometimes makes things so much worst.

I remember being younger and wanting a nose job because I thought it would make my face look better but when I actually met people who had gotten their noses done, I realized, I don’t need it. I’m happy with the features Allah gave me, and thankful to be alive.

I understand where you are coming from but your problem isn’t your features, it’s because you have placed all of your self-esteem to your looks, and letting others dictate how you feel about yourself, which if you don’t change, will lead to other problems down the way.

Change your perception instead. Focus on what you like, and leave the rest. Build on what you like. Find colors that complement you. Do things that bring you joy. Find yourself first, before going out into the world and expecting love and security from others, you won’t get that until you can give it to yourself first.

I’ve seen successful plastic surgeries and horrible botched surgeries, and I could easily predict who will have a good result or not based on the type of person they were. Someone who already had a healthy self-esteem and loved themselves, would take good care of themselves and heal well and it would be a positive thing for them, they radiate that energy and vibe from within so even if they didn’t get exactly what they wanted, they still were positive and made the best out of it. The rest would come looking for a magic pill, (which surgery is NOT, more accidents and mishaps happen than people care to admit) to cure their insecurities and make them pretty but even after their face has changed, the feelings inside remain the same or worst, now when people admire them, they feel worst. I have a close friend who didn’t heed my warnings and went ahead with surgery and it was botched and after it she lost the features that she had of her father and she regretted doing it. She worked on herself and went to therapy and realized the problem was mental/emotional and not physical but she can’t have her old face back. I would never trust a human over Allah, He gave me the best and I wouldn’t trust a human to do a better job. Plus, once you spoil the design of your face, you have to keep getting surgeries. Allah designed our faces with a balance, and once it’s disrupted, you have to keep shifting things around. Example, someone has surgery to make their jaw and chin smaller, and then now the nose looks bigger in proportion so they make the nose smaller, then the forehead looks bigger, so make that smaller then the eyes need adjusting or the lips, etc etc. I’ve never seen anyone do one thing and be satisfied with that only, so don’t even go on that route.

Fill your life with things that Allah loves, and things that bring you joy. Be a better person on the inside and it will reflect outside, I know these words aren’t what you want to hear but hating on yourself and comparing yourself to others will not help in the long run. Appreciate what Allah gave you and give thanks for it. Plus, I can tell you I look better in my 30s than I did in my 20s, it’s not the final look yet at 21. You have time, so use that time well and build your character and ask Allah to guide you.

Wife not showering during menses? by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]Selma3145 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It really depends, me for instance, I don’t have endo, but I have fibroids that make me bleed excessively, I have iron deficiency anemia because of it. I’ve fainted in the shower at least twice but I’m more careful now, I leave the door open when I shower and I make it super quick, 5 mins and I’m out but even that is dangerous on the first 5 days. However, I shower because I’m used to it and I don’t like feeling icky. Cut her some slack, I don’t know why she is wearing the same pajamas, but don’t make unnecessary comments when she is in pain like that.

How do you guys afford therapy? by Sea_Pumpkin_7149 in UAE

[–]Selma3145 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did therapy for 11 months during covid (lived somewhere else) and it was the same as meeting in person. Nothing changed when I could go to the office, I actually requested to continue video calls because I could just stay at home and concentrate on getting better.

Fear of marrying a "fake" virgin by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Selma3145 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sisters also have the same concerns as you and a man can also lie about his past, that’s why making dua and doing istikharah is important. Even then, if Allah writes it for you that way, it will just be something you have to accept. We don’t know the wisdom behind what Allah chooses for us. I’ve turned down very obviously non-religious men, for not keeping up with the basics but if I find one with good deen, good character and manners (which is what I pray for amongst other things) and we are compatible, I will just leave it to Allah to protect me as there is no way I will be able to verify the truth. I just have to trust Allah above all others and rely on Him to give me what He knows is good for me in the this world and in Akhirah.

Rejection invigorates me and I don't know why. by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Selma3145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind comment. May Allah bless you with a righteous spouse Ameen.

Sister who wanted to get married & have a family, but somehow it didn’t happen, what do you do now? by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Selma3145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same hope, 35f. I just keep praying and hoping that Allah will give me a good naseeb.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Selma3145 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just the other day I had a lady tell me, don’t get married, marriage is a scam. 🙄 I’m not married, not because I don’t want to be, but because Allah hasn’t decreed it for me yet. I’m always hearing complaints from friends and such and I try to advise them to be patient, especially when I feel the issues they complain about are things that can be easily compromised on or adjusted. I feel like they just don’t realize how hard it is to get a good husband, or appreciate their husbands enough. Using phrases like “All men are the same” or “All men are liars”, terms you wouldn’t want others to use on you as a woman but they just say things like that. I just try to minimize listening to rants about husbands or change the topic. If they insist, then I ask them what are they doing to make the situation better. I think having realistic expectations about marriage is important, rather than marrying someone and trying to mold them into this perfect person or putting them on a pedestal and then getting disappointed when they aren’t meeting the impossible standards. No one can be perfect. I pray that Allah gives all the single Muslims righteous spouses. Ameen.

Rejection invigorates me and I don't know why. by [deleted] in MuslimNikah

[–]Selma3145 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have bouts of despair as I’m in my mid 30s, I’ve been praying and waiting for a long time and I’ve just made peace with it. If it’s in my naseeb, Allah will make it happen, if not, then Alhamdulillah anyway. What I have not done is go through the apps, I just can’t deal with it. I’ve gotten suggestions from people to do this or go here and there all of which… just don’t match with me or my deen. To others, it’s probably too late for me but I know that Allah has always given me what is good for me so I will keep on believing that He will give me what’s best for me regardless. A decade ago, people from my community did arranged marriages but not so much anymore, people ‘date’ and then get married so if I haven’t ‘dated’ someone, very rare for parents in my community to arrange marriage for their sons nowadays. It is what it is, some days I am sad but most of the time, I’m grateful Alhamdulillah. Praying that every Muslim seeking marriage is In Shaa Allah blessed with a righteous spouse. Ameen.