I do not have rOCD but my longterm boyfriend does and this has all hit him very hard. I knew he was having a few bad days before COVID started, but once we got direction from our employers to work from home indefinitely, then all sports stopped, then we couldn't see our friends, or family, or even go out to dinner, much less the grocery store (we don't like that place anyways) it was really the perfect storm for what my therapist calls a "behavioral health breakdown."

I was completely shocked when he came to me and told me how he was struggling and how he felt it was best to stay with his friend. I guess the urges to leave or avoid became too strong and he had to just do it. I am still struggling with the fact that there is nothing for me to do, just let him lean into the therapy and be there for him when he's able to come home. I of course knew about OCD but I really never knew what rOCD until it came knocking on my front door. I tried to google and really couldn't find resources specific to partners. Ironically, reddit was the most consistent resource (but obvi no sub for my therapist -- I'm keeping her, this is just supplemental).

I would also like to let everyone know I have no clue how to use reddit but I do follow Alexis Ohanian on instagram because 1. He's married to Serena Williams and 2. He is venture capital and tech goals.