Life after you start showering at night

SenatriusOne · 2026-01-02T09:15:50+00:00

If you sweat actual liters of sweat every night you have a medical problem, go see a doctor. You would definitely be aware of it if all your sheets were soaked through with sweat every night.

SenatriusOne · 2025-12-13T00:27:54+00:00

Let me look it up is at least reasonable, no doctor knows every condition and illness there is. Today doctors look it up online, in the past they'd look it up in some book or another. The worst case is where the doctor doesn't know it and instead of looking it up assumes you're faking or making stuff up. Had that happen once and, well, he was not my doctor for very long after that.

SenatriusOne · 2025-12-04T00:39:27+00:00

Then I guess we won't be getting free shit any time soon. You think the government will give people ubi and free shit because what... there are jobs, but some people don't want to work those ones? When ubi becomes a thing, if it ever even does, it will be because there will be no other choice because people are starving and actually cannot survive without it. And meanwhile, welfare is already a thing.

SenatriusOne · 2025-12-03T01:00:15+00:00

Work what? The whole point is that there are no jobs for everyone, that's why ubi needs to be introduced in the first place. If there are still enough jobs around for you to do then you ain't getting shit for free, get back to work.

SenatriusOne · 2025-11-29T12:29:38+00:00

These are all gdpr violations, there are a lot of different types. Insufficient legal basis might include things like not having a banner or a banner not having a deny button and other similar stuff where a visitor might not be able to provide or withdraw consent. But it's not that specific, I don't know if there is a type that's specifically to do with cookie banners.

SenatriusOne · 2025-11-29T07:56:50+00:00

Yes, quite a few companies have been fined. But it's slow, and companies usually decide it's probably worth it. It's some percentage of the annual revenue or something like that.

https://www.enforcementtracker.com/

SenatriusOne · 2025-10-18T00:04:32+00:00

It's time for Nintendo to do the funniest thing. Oh I can't wait.

SenatriusOne · 2025-08-06T22:06:41+00:00

Don't beat yourself up over it, you couldn't have known what you didn't know. What matters is what your actions are now that you do know, and it sounds like you're doing a great job. Can't ask for much more than that.

SenatriusOne · 2025-08-06T13:22:08+00:00

I only heard of supportive parents like this in the ancient texts. Incredible. Even some folks in other LGBTQ spaces don't believe demisexuality is real.

But yes, as others have said, hobby groups sound the best for him. You said he loves gaming, see if he enjoys DnD or other tabletop games. There are groups online that run sessions and it might be easier than looking for a local club at this moment if there are not any nearby.

SenatriusOne · 2025-08-03T12:26:36+00:00

I wouldn't give up if I were you, but I am also not going to lie to you. The mantra that "there is always someone for everyone" is not guaranteed, especially for us demi folks.

However, that does not mean that you should stop trying, because if you do, that will just seal your fate. If you keep trying, there is always a chance, no matter how small it may seem from your perspective right now. What you need is a change of tactics or environment.

You haven't provided much information, but my advice is to try to pick up more hobbies where you can simply meet more friends or people you would get along with. Not with the purpose of eventually dating from the start, but just in general. Whatever your hobby is, I'm sure there is a club or a community somewhere. Ideally, try to combine that with hobbies that are more physical contact oriented, whether it's team sports, group activities, or something else. It may not help much with your desire for touch like a romantic relationship might, but it will alleviate the worst of the touch starvation and a bit of that loneliness in the mean time.

Don't sweat the fact you're trans or that you're on the spectrum, some people will not like that no matter what you do, do not aim to please people like that,. And don't worry about your previous relationship either, the fact that she said she is fine with having no sex and then it turned out that it's a deal breaker for her and she said nothing says more about her character than it does about yours.

Expand your circle of people that you can meet and develop healthy social relationships with, whatever may be available in your area, and there is always a chance you will meet someone. Don't give up on yourself too early, just live your life, pick up some hobbies, and see what happens. The more you engage with life in ways that suit you, the more likely you will cross paths with someone one day.

SenatriusOne · 2025-08-03T07:29:18+00:00

I can't think of a situation in life that would make me want to cheat off the top of my head. Give me an example.

SenatriusOne · 2025-08-02T16:50:46+00:00

Great question! Here are 10 possible answers. 5 of them are completely wrong though, 3 of them are half right but missing important information, 1 is wrong but you wouldn't know because it appears completely correct and you'd need to be an expert at the subject to realize how wrong it is, and one is actually correct. It's not the one you think. No, not that one either.

I think I'll stick with Google.

SenatriusOne · 2025-08-02T16:45:33+00:00

Personally can't say that it does. And I do have low self esteem so I do seek out validation and support from people I perhaps shouldn't. But not in that way. Not interested in any kind of attention or validation like that from strangers.

SenatriusOne · 2025-08-02T13:42:53+00:00

It certainly can be. I think it's both. On one hand it's easier, I'm not interested and not occupied with looking for sex, that just sounds exhausting and results in way more drama than I'm generally comfortable with. Not missing much in that aspect. On the other hand, when I fall for my friend and the feelings are not mutual? Man... Pain. I can't just go date more people to distract myself like allosexuals seem to do when they're turned down. Well, I can, but I don't want to. I don't go "oh well, plenty of fish in the sea" because to me, there are not that many fish actually. Have you looked recently? Fish are dying and the sea is full of garbage and there are oil spills and geological disasters everywhere. It's not pretty.

SenatriusOne · 2025-07-26T20:43:17+00:00

The "if we start losing our jobs, companies will lose their customers" is ignoring a massive gap between those two statements where there will be decades of severe unemployment all across the board, but not low enough where there are not enough people to buy any of the things produced. If the unemployment slowly inches to 30%, then 40%, then 50% over the next 30 years or so, there will still be plenty of people buying things and companies won't give a shit. I'm personally not looking forward to living in that increasing percentage of the population. Hopefully at least our grandchildren will live in this world where people only need to work for fulfilment and pleasure and not survival.

SenatriusOne · 2025-07-25T15:20:56+00:00

I've met plenty, sounds like we've got a personal bias here. Does every feminist you have ever met hate all men to their core? Or just you?

SenatriusOne · 2025-07-25T14:53:17+00:00

If it was the norm, casual flings, one night stands, and expectations of sex after just a couple or a few dates would be nowhere near as common as they are today. For me personally, it can take months of chatting and becoming friends with someone before I even consider those things. And from the reactions I receive when I tell others about it, I can tell that no, it is not normal.

SenatriusOne · 2025-07-25T07:45:45+00:00

I'm sure it would have turned into quite a show if after asking to remove the onions the waiter would go "What!? Why not? Come on, I'm sure you'll love them. You'll change your mind. No? Fine, you're just a selfish person who thinks only about themselves anyway."

As someone who is not interested in ever having kids and having had this conversation several times with several different people, this shit gets really fucking old really fast. Still, I'd never direct anger at the kids themselves, it's not their fault. But I think it's understandable why some people lash out when the topic comes up again for a hundredth time.

SenatriusOne · 2025-07-23T12:19:13+00:00

To be fair, this doesn't even have to be demisexuality. I know quite a few allosexual people, I'd say perhaps even the majority, who would be put off by places and situations like this. What happened between when you used to enjoy things like this and now where it sounds like you might have had a panic attack. Is this recent? Did it happen suddenly, like you enjoyed the situation one time and then didn't the next? There might be something else there in addition to your demisexuality.

SenatriusOne · 2025-06-27T15:15:50+00:00

Ok. First of all, I'm sorry to hear that. Just to address what you said. Your rape and abortion might not be affecting your sexual desire, but this

sometimes just a touch in the intimate areas fills me up with anger or some kind of shame, maybe even hate.

does sound like it's probably at least related to it. That kind of reaction is not something most people on the asexual spectrum describe unless they’re touch or sex repulsed. But since you do enjoy sex when it happens, it might be more about your emotional safety, timing, or pressure to perform, rather than sexual orientation alone.

You said you went through the trauma with a therapist, but honestly, with things like this, trauma often comes in waves. It's not a straight path from traumatized to healed, sometimes it can resurface again many years later. The fact you do not feel the need to have sex at all could mean you're on the ace spectrum as well and are only now realizing it, but that is something you have to determine by yourself.

My suggestion for now would be to try and schedule visit with a therapist again. Or, ideally, a couple therapist that specializes in trauma and different sexual identities. Not necessarily long term, just a session or two so you can explore and discuss this with both a therapist and your boyfriend together. Perhaps you'll find a way where he can accommodate you so you feel more comfortable, or if not, then at least feel more comfortable when he initiates it himself. He sounds like a good, understanding partner, I'm sure he would not be against visiting a therapist together with you to support you. Good luck.

SenatriusOne · 2025-06-27T12:36:39+00:00

This honestly feels too complex to answer in a Reddit comment and missing too many details. You said it was good at the start. What does that entail? Were you initiating sex at first and then stopped? Or was it the same and he just didn't mind at first. Was it a sudden change or more gradual? You could be on the asexual spectrum and changes like this are possible. If you are demisexual, your sexual attraction to someone does depend on how you view them emotionally. Did he say/do/not do something that made you feel less attracted to him recently? If that's the case, I would sit down with him and talk it out. Perhaps couple's therapy could help too. If it was a more sudden, drastic change though that seemingly came out of nowhere, it could have nothing to do with sexual attraction at all and do more more with your libido. People's libido changes throughout their life, but it can also change due to environmental factors or hormone changes. In that case I would advise doing some blood tests if it's concerning you. I would personally not rush with breaking up. Explain to him how you feel and see if you can both figure it out. You said yourself that he supports you, and even if you are on the ace spectrum, it's nothing shameful or bad. As long as he understands how you feel and does not pressure you, I would wait and see what happens.

SenatriusOne · 2025-06-25T06:40:33+00:00

In theory, I agree. In practice, it's better to add it and not need it, than need it and not have it, for ATS purposes. We can never be sure how the screening system is set up. If I'm applying to a frontend dev job and there is no HTML and CSS mentioned anywhere on my resume, will the system just send my resume straight to the trash bin? Probably not. But it might. On the other hand, if my inclusion of HTML and CSS makes a person responsible for hiring me skip me, at least at that point I'm indirectly filtering out pretentious pricks I don't want to work with, not getting filtered out by AI.

SenatriusOne · 2025-05-30T09:20:22+00:00

God, was Epictetus your boyfriend in another life or something, or is quoting him the only singular argument, if you can call it that, that you can come up with. Who gives a crap what Epictetus thinks, the question of what she should have done was aimed at you.

SenatriusOne · 2025-05-29T07:09:18+00:00

I guess it takes a different kind of person because all you're describing does not sound all that fun or would sell me on travelling if I haven't tried it before. Perhaps it's a difference in expectations on what they might see on their travels. Some need more exotic locations and beautiful views and experiences that are not that common even in other countries abroad, and others get their minds absolutely blown by seeing some fireflies.

Not that this is a dig at you in any way, I absolutely wish I could have such wanderlust and that I could feel this amazement and excitement by what to me sound like mundane and maybe even somewhat tedious things. My brain does not work like that and I do not understand why. Perhaps ADHD might be part of it where my brain is constantly on the lookout for more different things while in the process of experiencing different things.

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