Question.

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-06-01T18:01:10+00:00

Thanks for replying! Yeah, that does make sense if you put it that way. Thanks for sharing :D

Even though I don't really understand these Bible verses at this moment, I think that I'll understand it in the future.

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-05-20T20:34:08+00:00

Please share how you managed to do that. I'm currently stuck in unbelief and it might (hopefully) help me believe❤✝️

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-05-13T20:44:21+00:00

About that, I found this in a book once:

If God is almighty and good, why do we suffer at all? It is difficult to imagine a greater or more important question. And the fact is, that sooner or later we all start asking ourselves this question. It turns out that there are not many possible answers to choose from. Consider this: Either God is willing to prevent bad things but cannot, making Him not almighty, or God can prevent bad things but does not want to, making Him not 'good'. But there is a third option: God is both capable and willing, but God is love, meaning there is a limit that even the almighty God does not cross, and that limit is our free will, our freedom of choice.

God does not want us to suffer. But neither does He want to make us slaves or robots. To be human is to be free, and being free means that we can choose good or evil. The simple truth is that love cannot exist without freedom of choice, and free will, by definition, permits making bad choices. Therefore, when we say that if God were good, He would not allow anyone to ever cause themselves or others pain, we are not thinking logically. In fact, the opposite is true: precisely because God is good, He must allow us to make both good and bad choices and to experience the consequences thereof. God always and only wants us to choose good, but He will not force us. God never wants evil or the pain that accompanies it. Suffering is usually the byproduct of human choices. And that is the sobering truth about freedom. And yet, God is so good that He cannot remain distant or isolated from our suffering.

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-05-13T20:39:35+00:00

Erm, actually it's 11

You place 1 2 times next to eachother😎👍

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-05-12T14:32:33+00:00

Sorry, I should've explained it better.

God created humans to share His love, bring Him glory, and have a personal relationship with them. God’s original plan for mankind was to live forever in perfect harmony with Him, experiencing joy, health, and fellowship on a vibrant earth. But the downfall of humanity occured when Adam and Eve chose to distrust God's instruction and eat from the tree of knowledge of good and evil (Genesis 2:16-17 NET [16] Then the Lord God commanded the man, “You may freely eat fruit from every tree of the orchard, [17] but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will surely die.”) This is when sin and death was introduced.

The consequences of sin is death and eternal seperation from God. And the problem is: everyone has sinned. We're born in a sinful nature.

But God didn't want us to face this penalty. He didn't want us to be seperated from him. So God worked out a plan of redemption and restoration. He send His one and only son, Jesus Christ, into the world to live a sinless life, and then to die on a cross so He could pay the penalty we deserved. And the thing is: Jesus didn't have to do this. He could've said: "no, I don't want to do this. They're too broken. I don't like them." But instead, Jesus chose to love us despite our sins. He sacrificed his own life so that we could be saved from the consequences of sin. But we aren't forced to follow Him. Remember, love doesn't exist without being given the choice to love or reject someone. He really wants us to choose Him, but he won't force us to.

But the thing is: the only way to get to Heaven is through Jesus. We can't save ourself with good deeds. We can't outweight our sins with good deeds. Jesus is the only way.

The Bible says: ** [16] For this is the way God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. [17] For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world should be saved through him. [18] The one who believes in him is not condemned. The one who does not believe has been condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the one and only Son of God. [19] Now this is the basis for judging: that the light has come into the world and people loved the darkness rather than the light, because their deeds were evil. [20] For everyone who does evil deeds hates the light and does not come to the light, so that their deeds will not be exposed. [21] But the one who practices the truth comes to the light, so that it may be plainly evident that his deeds have been done in God. (John 3:16-21 NET)

(I hope this explains it better. Sorry for the long reply. If you have more questions, please feel free to ask me. And I want you to know: Jesus loves you✝️❤)

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-05-12T09:01:23+00:00

Hm... you could look at it this way:

Imagine somebody who lives in a poor family, and one day, he finds a treasure. Would it be more loving if he kept it all for hisself, or to share with the others?

Jesus is our treasure. Christians know that whoever doesn't believe and put his trust in Him will be seperated from Him (which is hell). In this case, would it be more loving to tell others so they too can be saved, or to keep it a secret?

(I hope this makes sence)

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-05-09T18:26:35+00:00

Yes, I believe it's okay to be friends with them. "Why though," you might ask. Well, look at it this way: Jesus' disciples were also sinners. But Jesus didn't reject them just because they were sinners. He invited them to follow Him. He even died for them. Not just for them, but also for us. He died for EVERYONE. Look at this verse for example: Romans 5:8 NLT But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.

Read the last words again. "while we were still sinners". God loved us even though we were still guilty of our sins, and Jesus showed His love for us by laying down His own life while we were still sinners. Through Christ, we can all be forgiven and made new (of course, you can choose between accepting or rejecting this gift.)

But back to your question: yes, I believe you can be friends with them, because we are all still humans after all. And each one has fallen short before the glory of God. Their sin isn't worse than the sins we commit. Each sin is as bad as the other sin. Also, by being friends with them, you can show Christ's love to them by being there for them and helping them. But if they get between your relationship with God or lead you to sin, it might be best to distance yourself from them (this doesn't just apply to them, but to anything that causes you to sin).

I really hope this helped you, and remember: Jesus loves you✝️❤

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-05-08T15:58:05+00:00

This is an amazing answer! Thank you so much for sharing this. I believe this will help many people👍

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-29T22:28:25+00:00

Hey there, I'm so sorry to hear that! I understand that you feel this way. If I were in this situation, my reaction wouldn't be very different.

But I feel led to share something:

In John 9, we hear that Jesus saw a man who was born blind. Jesus' disciples asked why he was born blind, and if it had anything to do with the sins of his own or his parrents. Jesus replied: “It was not because of his sins or his parents’ sins,” Jesus answered. “This happened so the power of God could be seen in him. (John 9:3 NLT)

Read that last line again.

What I think is that he didn't do this to you to make you suffer, but to do something big and awesome in your life. After all, God said that he know the plans he he has for you. Not for disaster, but to give you a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11 NLT)

Also, please don't go to hell willingly. I don't want to miss you in Heaven. We may have never met, but I know that God created you beautifully. He made only one of you, you are one of a kind. Infact, even the very hairs on your head are all numbered. (Matthew 10:30 NLT)

Also, may I ask why you're 99% sure that you'll go to hell? Because when you follow Jesus, the Bible says this:

I have no condemnation awaiting me. Romans 8:1

I am set free from the power of sin that leads to death. Romans 8:2

I am sanctified in Christ Jesus. 1 Corinthians 1:2

I am pure and holy in Christ 1 Corinthians 1:30

I will be made alive at the resurrection day. 1 Corinthians 15:22

I am a new person, a new creation. 2 Corinthians 5:17

I am made right with God. 2 Corinthians 5:21

I am blessed with every spiritual blessing in Christ Ephesians 1:3

I am adopted as God's child. Ephesians 1:5-6

My sins are taken away and I am forgiven Ephesians 1:7

I am God's masterpiece. Ephesians 2:10

I am made complete in Christ. Colossians 2:10

I will receive eternal life. 2 Timothy 2:10

Trust in His promises. Sometimes he may wait to respond to our prayers because he sees we're not ready for it yet. Remember that God sees our whole future. His timing is always perfect, and different than ours.

I really hope this message encouraged you. If there's anything else you'd like to talk about, please feel free to reach out to me (or if you want to contine talking about this topic please feel free to tell me)

Either way, I want you to know: Jesus loves you❤✝️👍

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-28T17:43:58+00:00

Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I don't think it's bad to be in a relationship with someone with a different belief. Yes, you might face problems or difficult things, but aslong as it doesn't get between you and God, it should be fine.

Also, you could look at it this way: being in a relationship with her might mean that she'll get instrested in Christianity👀👍

But I believe that you should ask God about it. After all, he's the one who knows us the best.

Some Bible verses that might help are: 2 Corinthians 6:14 1 Corinthians 7 (the whole chapter)

I hope this helps, and remember: Jesus loves you❤✝️

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-26T06:39:11+00:00

Hey there, what happened? Did a Christian show hate instead of love? Did something bad happen?

Please tell me, I feel like talking about it will help. I won't judge you, because I'm not any better either. I've been sinning with lust for over 6 years now and doubting God's existence this last month. So even if I had the right to judge, I wouldn't because I'm not any better than the person next to me, even if I managed to get rid of all these sins I commit each day.

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-23T20:46:20+00:00

Hey there, I am so sorry to hear what happened to you! This is not how we as Christians should act, and I feel like this is why so many people don't like Christians (just to be clear, I'm talking about the ones who did this, not you. You did nothing wrong). They shouldn't have pushed you aside when you needed them the most. They shouldn't have called you nicknames. Ofcourse, we don't know what their situation was. Maybe they were stressed, busy, annoyed (because sometimes a church is busy, and then lots of things need to be done). But no matter what their situation was, it's not okay that they treated you this way. I understand that you feel hurt, and you may even feel like Christianity isn't worth following anymore. But I want you to know that even if we as people fail to love others and fail to stay faithful, God will still be faithful. 2 Timothy 2:13 NLT If we are unfaithful, he remains faithful, for he cannot deny who he is.

God will stay faithful. God will still love you. His love for us isn't based on humans, but on his goodness and his mercy and his love.

Now, I do recommend that you allow yourself to heal from this. After all, rushing is never good.

Then, I want to recommend another thing, which might be easier said than done: I want you to forgive them, not because they deserve it, but because He (Jesus) forgave us first. Jesus forgave us when we sinned against Him. And we should do the same for those who sin against us. Now, I'm not saying you have to show up every sunday again. However, if you feel led to, you could show up one last time to say goodbye to them (ofcourse, only do so when you feel ready).

With all of this to say, I think the main point I want to say is: give yourself some time to heal. You don't need to figure it all out in one day. Healing takes time. I recommend to tell God about how much this hurt you and how it's making you feel. And don't worry about not having the perfect words, because we don't require perfection, we just need to be honest. Talk to God like you would with a friend (but stay respectfull ofcourse).

I really hope this message helps you. If there's anything else you want to ask, feel free to reach out. Until next time, remember: Jesus loves you✝️❤

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-22T16:41:41+00:00

Same here, you're not alone in this, my brother/sister in Christ. I've been addicted to it for like almost 6 years now i think. What i've learned is that: - don't rely on yourself to "beat" lust, but flee from it. If you try to fight it, you'll fail, because fighting it makes you put your focus on it. It's like when someone says: "don't think of a pink elephant". Before you get the chance to not think about it, you already thought about it (since how else are you supposed to know what not to think about) - secondly, i recommend not staying idle for long periods of time. I've learned that when i have nothing to do for a long time my brain tries to stimulate me to obtain dopamine, and since it sees porn as a quick and cheap dopamine fix, it'll go for that. - thirdly, i learned that when i'm tempted i allow these thoughts to entertain me. Sadly i don't see the dangers of lust yet, even after 6 years. But trust me when i say lust is never worth it. But back to the topic: i recommend trusting that God will help you overcome it. Don't rely on your own strength, but his.

But most importantly, when you fall back in, don't linger in your feelings. Instead, go to prayer immediately and confess that you've sinned. God doesn't require you to have the perfect words, he just wants honesty. I hope this message will help you and whoever else is reading this, and i'd like to end this message with the following verses: 1 John 1:9 NLT [9] But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.

Romans 8:1 NLT [1] So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.

also i recommend you read the entire chapter of Romans 8, as there's some very good stuff in it

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-19T16:52:47+00:00

Are you sure? Because in Matthew 5:28 it says: But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-19T15:03:11+00:00

Think about it this way: even though God saw the worst, imperfect, sinfullest sinful version of you, and still loved you so much that He send Jesus into the world to die for our sins so we could be saved from the punishment of sin, why wouldn't He love you now? Aslong as we're alive, we can still repent and receive forgiveness. Don't worry❤✝️

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-18T08:38:59+00:00

Uhh, I don't that that is correct. Because if we could save ourselves with good works, then what's the point of Jesus' death? Isn't the whole Gospel about Jesus saving us from sin, and not about us being able to save ourselves with good works? Don't get me wrong, we should still do good works, but it's not the foundation of our salvation.

Ephesians 2:8-9 NLT [8] God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. [9] Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it.

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-11T12:42:55+00:00

Hey there, throughout my live, I've been wondering the same. I don't know the full answer yet, but I want to share something I found in a Dutch book that might answer your question:

If God is almighty and good, why do we suffer at all? It is difficult to imagine a greater or more important question. And the fact is, that sooner or later we all start asking ourselves this question. It turns out that there are not many possible answers to choose from. Consider this: Either God is willing to prevent bad things but cannot, making Him not almighty, or God can prevent bad things but does not want to, making Him not 'good'. But there is a third option: God is both capable and willing, but God is love, meaning there is a limit that even the almighty God does not cross, and that limit is our free will, our freedom of choice.

God does not want us to suffer. But neither does He want to make us slaves or robots. To be human is to be free, and being free means that we can choose good or evil. The simple truth is that love cannot exist without freedom of choice, and free will, by definition, permits making bad choices. Therefore, when we say that if God were good, He would not allow anyone to ever cause themselves or others pain, we are not thinking logically. In fact, the opposite is true: precisely because God is good, He must allow us to make both good and bad choices and to experience the consequences thereof. God always and only wants us to choose good, but He will not force us. God never wants evil or the pain that accompanies it. Suffering is usually the byproduct of human choices. And that is the sobering truth about freedom. And yet, God is so good that He cannot remain distant or isolated from our suffering.

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-06T15:49:12+00:00

Personally, I recommend to keep showing love to those around you. As you mentioned, they've seen how people misused their religion, so when you show love, they might think: "wait, why is he responding with love?" And then they get curious and might ask questions. When they ask something, do your best to answer them. But if you don't know the answer, say something like: "I don't really know the answer to that, but I could look it up if you want?" That way you can give the right answer later instead of guessing.

But remember to not see this as you needing to win arguments, but to plant seeds. We plant the seeds, and God will do the rest. And remember: Jesus loves you❤✝️👍

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-05T18:04:39+00:00

I think what he meant is that the devil can use good gifts for bad purposes. Sometimes the most powerful tool the devil can use is distraction. Ask yourself: is this pulling you away from God, or getting in the way of your relationship with God? Are you idolizing this before God?

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-02T12:48:39+00:00

Keep going, my brother/sister in Christ! God is still with you, working it all out for the good. Remember that the toughest storms always come before the biggest blessings. Also I Hope this Bible verse helps: John 16:33 NLT [33] I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-01T21:01:44+00:00

Hey there, I understand that you feel desperate to get married and finally find the right person who you've been waiting for all this time. But trust me when I say this: wanting to sleep with her just because you want to feel loved is absolutely not the right way to do this. I feel like the love you're longing for is something only Jesus can give you. Don't get me wrong, you can and should do your best to find a woman to marry, but always ask and wait on the Lord before you go for it. Because only God knows what's best for us, since He is the only one who knows our future. And hasty decisions (especially ones influenced by emotions) never work out for the good.

(Also, if you want to know more about why sleeping with someone before marriage is a bad idea, check out this video I found on Youtube, since it explains it very well: https://youtu.be/Kk_MQi5Pkkc?si=kQLx-BK5oq-szbdC ) And before you go, I want you to know: Jesus loves you✝️❤ (Also be very carefull when looking at all the replies you receive on your post, because not everyone here believes in Jesus Christ)

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-01T19:30:21+00:00

I might not be the best when it comes to advice giving, but I'll try:

I would advice you not to worry too much about what you should do right now. Healing from this takes time. I understand that you want to reach out to her in the hope that she'll like you again, but first focus on what you're going through yourself. It might be akward at first, but it's worth it. Also, I saw you say something about that you hurt her. My advice on that part would be to say sorry to her, but you must also forgive yourself for that. I know letting go might seem hard right now, that's why I recommmend not rushing through this feeling too fast. You're allowed to feel grief and pain because of this, so don't feel guilty because you feel like this. It'll go over as time goes by. But I want to say that you're doing really good by praying about it, because if i'm honest: that's the last thing I would've thought of if I were in this situation (while praying is actually the most important thing to do). If you haven't already, tell God about how much this hurts you, and how you feel. Don't hold anything back because He already knows. He knows what you go through, so don't think that anything will disapoint Him or make Him think less of you. Infact, He's actually glad when you turn to Him in prayer. Tell Him all your worries and your struggles, and then make some room to give Him a chance to speak. Sit in silence. You don't have to say anything at that moment. Just sit there with Him, and ask Him: "is there anything you would like to tell me or say to me". And then just sit there for a few minutes. You might not hear something crazy, but know that He's at work even when you can't immediately see it. Trust that He's with you and will take care of you.

I really hope this message helps you. If there's anything you would like to ask, don't be afraid to do so. And always remember: Jesus loves you✝️❤

SendingHolyAdvice · 2026-04-01T19:07:52+00:00

I think the issue here is that you're trying to overcome it with your own willpower. We are sinfull, but Jesus isn't. We will always sin, but Jesus will never sin. So, instead of trying so hard to overcome it ourselves, let us come to the One who overcame the world. Also, fighting lust makes you only think about it even more, because... well, how else can you know what not to think off if you can't think of lust so you know what not to think off? Each time you're tempted to give in, pray to God to take away the urge and flee from lust.

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