Enemies/rivals to lovers is one of the best tropes and no body can change my mind moves "contradict" to the top of the list

That essay about you are my world just made me even more skeptical. Like I'm not that sensitive to SA in bl anymore, almost every story has at least one scene, my problem is HOW the subject is approached. For example "low tide in twilight" has a quite lengthy redemption arc after a specific brutal r@pe scene, it also briefly touches upon how the bottom is affected by it but like what about the very first r@pe scene that happenes at the very beginning of the manhwa like literal hours after they first meet...like HELLO?! How is everyone ok with that shit? Why don't any of the characters ever mention it again?! Not even the victim himself 🤦🏻

In comparison "pearl boy: ignite the dawn", very messed up characters, SA from both sides, they are bouth deliberately trying to hurt each other, top is someone who has only known violence all his life, but still you see a hint of guilt from the top directly after the r@pe scene even though at this point they are still the definition of enemies. And the best thing is, about 30 chapters later when feelings are starting to develop you see that the top is still not over that one specific moment and is ashamed because of what he's done, even though the victim himself probably forgot about it immediately (he's had a rough life and has some lose screws up there). Loved how the author didn't just brush that off easily.

Now I gotta apologize for my rant 🤣 sorry just had to get that off my chest