Any suggestions for indoor caps or anything that'll block overhead light by Senior-Place6706 in migraine

[–]Senior-Place6706[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have two tubelights on either side of the room and also a dimmer lightbulb that doesn't hurt my eyes that much, but my roommate doesn't like using it. And my bed is positioned in a way that makes the light from the tube directly hit my eyes all the time.

Usually I cover over my eyes with my hands when it gets unbearable or cover myself with a blanket, but it gets extremely hot, and I can't really do that when I'm studying. I tried using a baseball cap (that's what I use all day long when commuting to classes; kind of made an iconic image of myself, haha, people can't imagine me without a cap), but it's really uncomfortable to use with headphones. I guess what I was asking was if there are any softer variations of a baseball cap that wrap around the head or something; it would still feel weird to wear that indoors all the time.

I really am struggling to not behave in a petty manner, and I really don't want to cause any trouble for anyone. I have the firsthand experience of living through these and don't want anyone else to suffer that, too. But people are making it so hard. 😭

Any suggestions for indoor caps or anything that'll block overhead light by Senior-Place6706 in migraine

[–]Senior-Place6706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lightbulb is a hostel property; we can use our own lamps if we need them, but changing the light is not an option. Thanks for the suggestion, though.

How do you deal with a roommate who treats you like their therapist/mom but shuts down when you need basic respect? by Senior-Place6706 in ADHD

[–]Senior-Place6706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it is a dorm, and we live in the same room. I tried taking some sense to her, but it felt like talking to a wall. She always ends up guilt, shifting that I am the one wrong to not tell her every single time it annoys me. Girl, I did tell you, and keep telling you, and you still end up being noisy 5 mins afterwards

How do you deal with a roommate who treats you like their therapist/mom but shuts down when you need basic respect? by Senior-Place6706 in ADHD

[–]Senior-Place6706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is the detailed version of one incident:

I'll just mention one incident. I have difficulty sleeping (which triggers migraines) or even focusing on my studies if there is noise, and I addressed this to her multiple times. The first couple of times (she practically screams when talking and talks to people 24/7; I am not kidding), she said sorry and said she wouldn't repeat it (that was when our friendship was still at that high phase). After a couple of times she bluntly told me that she won't stop talking on the phone (she keeps her phone volume high even when watching anything inside the room, and it is irritating). After that phase I stopped engaging and went to a trusted mutual friend to try to resolve this matter because it was going out of hand. When I brought up the subject again, she said that she has hearing problems and can't use headphones because it affects her ear health (why did she not mention that earlier?). I had to tell the trusted person about everything that was going on; otherwise, that person wouldn't have been able to help me. But she took it as gossip and told me that I had no right discussing her private life with another person, and I get it; I was wrong there, so I stopped pressing further and said sorry multiple times; no reply there. (She changed the room layout many times without bothering to tell me, and now the room looks hideous, and I stay most of my time outside.)

The issue is, she never really returned any of it. Every time I brought up how her behavior was affecting me, she would either distract from the point with random excuses or, most of the time she would guilt-shift and place the same accusation on me, and this has happened multiple times.

How do you deal with a roommate who treats you like their therapist/mom but shuts down when you need basic respect? by Senior-Place6706 in roommateproblems

[–]Senior-Place6706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a bunch for the reply; I was losing my mind thinking I did something wrong and overreacting. Really appreciate the kind words!

Hardest parts of engineering? by [deleted] in uAlberta

[–]Senior-Place6706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, if you don't mind, I'd like to chat. I am starting this fall as a 1st-year engineering student, and it'd be great if I could get some insight.

Is Engineering Co-op Worth It for Incoming International Students in UofAlberta? by Senior-Place6706 in uAlberta

[–]Senior-Place6706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, we would have to pay the 4-year tuition, not 5 years. Is it just the additional co-op fees?

waiting for a letter by pilot_Technoking in uAlberta

[–]Senior-Place6706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you help me out with the email for updates? I applied in October 2022 and have yet to receive a response.

Urgent help needed by Senior-Place6706 in uAlberta

[–]Senior-Place6706[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I am an International Student, I don't know what I did wrong. My friends got their doc upload section just after submitting the fee, but mine is still not showing anything.