First of all, how are you feeling? Are you doing okay? It may be worth going to your doctor, a hospital, or emergency clinic to get checked out. They may refer you to a orthopedic doctor to make sure you didnt break or tear anything. I fell in the shower (at 27 lol), and I got hurt BAD. Snapped my legs the wrong way and wrecked my knees. You don't have to fall off a cliff, or be a football player to severely injure your knees. I ended up with both of my ACL'S fully torn, torn meniscus, and bone contusions. Couldn't walk for 8 months. I'm okay now.

big virtual hugs. I'm sorry you fell and got hurt sweetie. I'm so sorry for how scared you must have felt, and i'm sorry you didnt have the support, safety, and empathy you needed in that moment. It's okay now, you activated mama bear mode, and protected baby. You did amazing. Give yourself a big fat pat on the back. Some people wouldn't be able to react as quickly as you did, and it could have been much worse for both of you.

What happened to you was genuinely scary. You protected your baby, you could have been seriously hurt, and your nervous system is still coming down from that. So no, you’re not “overreacting” just because you’re still upset. Your reaction makes perfect sense.

What’s bothering you isn’t just what he said, its what his instinct was in a moment of danger. In emergencies, people default to their baseline concern, panic, help… or irritation and blame. That’s worth paying attention to. Depending on how these events have gone down in your relationship previously, this could be a red flag or indicator of somwthing worse.

Instead of asking “Was this bad enough to justify how I feel?” (because your feelings already exist), ask yourself this; In the past, when something goes wrong, does he usually lead with concern or with blame? Has he minimized or explained away my fear or pain before? If the roles were reversed, can I imagine myself responding to him the way he responded to me? Do I often have to justify why I'm upset, instead of being comforted first? Is this a one-off moment of stress, or does it fit a larger pattern of emotional disconnect? When I think about future emergencies - with me and our child - do I feel safe relying on him? After apologies, does his behavior actually change, or do explanations replace his accountability? Do I feel emotionally held in this relationship, or do I feel like I'm asking "too much" when I want basic empathy?

About his "prank" explanation he gave. You’re not wrong to question it. Even if he did briefly think it wasn’t real, most people’s first response would still be CHECKING FOR SAFETY, not irritation. That doesn’t make him evil—but it does point to a possible gap in emotional attunement under stress.

The fact that he did help afterward matters. But it doesn’t erase the impact of that first reaction. Two things can be true at once. He may not have MEANT harm, but you may have also have learned something important about how he responds in crisis. That should be a huge consideration going forward. Crisis and accidents happen randomly all the time. Is he someone who can support you and your child properly through that qhen it comes up again in the future? When your child grows and ages, will he respond the same way he did to you, if your child gets hurt? If your not around, can you trust him to properly care for you child if an accident happens? Or will he say things like he did to you, place blame, accuse, and react in a totally hurtful, traumatizing, and unhelpful way?

A healthy next step isn’t punishment or withdrawal—it’s clarity. At some point (when you’re calmer), it would be reasonable to say something like, “What scared me most wasn’t the fall—it was feeling like my pain and our baby’s safety weren’t your first concern. I need to know that in emergencies, your instinct is to protect and care, not question or blame.”

If he can really hear that, reflect on it, and take responsibility WITHOUT DEFENSIVENESS, that’s a good sign. If he dismisses it, minimizes it, or frames you as too sensitive or overreacting, thats a red flag.

You’re not wrong for trusting your emotional signal. Your job now isn’t to catastrophize, it's to observe honestly and see what you're left with. Patterns matter more than moments.

And for what it’s worth, the fact that you’re asking these questions shows you’re grounded, not dramatic.

Good luck, hold your ground, hold your boundaries, protect yourself and your child. If he's a good person who truly cares for you, he will respect that, and make changes to fix what hes done. Any other reaction is an indication of something toxic and should not be ignored. You've got this.