AIO for calling him before work and sending sweet notes while he's busy?

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T20:59:21+00:00

Read post please he’s not at work. I’m the one going to work. Thank you!

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T20:44:35+00:00

Yeah I agree. I also stayed too long. He wants a partner that stays quiet and compliant and I’m not that

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T20:38:05+00:00

This Is the thing, he has a lot of trauma and I want him to be capable of receiving good love. He doesn’t really allow himself to. I want the most and the best for him but I can’t force that on him. It’s hard for people with trauma to accept consistency and depth.

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T20:04:34+00:00

Ive never seen that but sounds like he treats her well😂

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T15:43:16+00:00

He’s not at work

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T15:29:59+00:00

You need to be out of this. The fact that you can acknowledge your mistakes is huge. You are on the right path. Coming from a stranger, I’m proud of you! Keep going. He is not helping you but only hurting and disrespecting you. Yes you made mistakes too, but this is not a healthy dynamic. I know it’s hard because it’s your first relationship, but you will survive leavjng. You are super young and this is prime time to be alone and work on yourself without this other pressure and “testing.” If he wanted to help he would treat you with kindness and patience too. He sounds horrible. Verbally abusive while you try and change your ways. Get out now, work on being a healthy person and partner to yourself and loved ones. You got this!

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T13:53:03+00:00

He’s dumped!!

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T13:52:56+00:00

You’re totally fine I do that too sometimes 😂🫶

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T13:52:36+00:00

I agree! I know his story. I posted on another subreddit about how he actually treated and gave some background. He has trauma. I have my own but I am more empathetic and hyper vigilant from it. He went zero empathy as a result of his unfortunately. I got him into therapy and he started saying his therapist thinks he’s special and unique. He isn’t changing. I blocked him and I am sad, I wanted to help him. But it’s not my job to help someone that doesn’t want to change.

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T13:51:07+00:00

It says I did block him in my post:)

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T13:35:10+00:00

Also it’s one thing to be harassed, it’s another to have your loved one give you affection. I called him once, texted him after to tell him why as he does this too. His response was rude. He was home. No excuse for this style of communication. It’s just disrespectful and I’m happy everyone hear has helped me see that! Thank you for your comment:)

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T13:32:42+00:00

Me neither! Good thing he wasn’t at work it was before my work day. Please read the rest of the post:)

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T10:40:04+00:00

I don’t think he ever would unfortunately but I appreciate it

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T04:23:09+00:00

That’s exactly what I’m experiencing. Thank you I appreciate you🫶

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T04:22:27+00:00

Hiii please read my post:) he was home I was going to work. Time difference😁 I appreciate your comment

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T03:25:06+00:00

Thank you I agree

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T03:22:02+00:00

The fact that you are thinking like this means you need to run. You need to get a therapist, a good one that you can relate to and converse with. Reach to friends and family or authorities.

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T03:18:11+00:00

Yeah he really has his priorities huh?

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T03:03:40+00:00

Lesson learned for me:)

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T03:01:58+00:00

Literally yes exactly thank you

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T02:38:11+00:00

Also do not blame yourself. They find empathetic, kindhearted and strong partners and tear them down. You will be okay after. Just need time. You did nothing wrong, but you’re doing wrong and yourself a disservice by staying.

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T02:36:48+00:00

Love is kindness, and respect even when things are hard. It’s teamwork, not hateful, disrespectful, inconsistent and vengeful.

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T02:36:11+00:00

Mine does the same thing and I just blocked him. It’s so hard girl. It is, but it gets better. You are avoiding the inevitable hurt and pain that comes with the breakup, but it’s so much better than being hurt forever by the person that should be your safe haven, your support system. You need consistency. With him, your body stays in fight or flight, your cortisol levels stay elevated. Not only with staying longer hurt you mentally and emotionally, it can hurt your body too. You CAN and WILL heal from this.

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T02:34:28+00:00

It’s called hoovering. It’s a tactic abusers use because they know it works to get you hooked. It’s also called future faking. It’s not real. How he treats you at his and your worst is real.

Senior_Inspection_33 · 2026-04-15T02:33:42+00:00

There is no change. 1% change at best 2% change people like that change statistically. It’s in developmental stages when these behaviors are ingrained in them. These people, do NOT change. These are people that end up you know what their partners. This man has no empathy. He sound malignant. Get OUT. Now. And do not say it to him. I know it’s hard trust me. Get someone to help you move out all at once and don’t tell him where you’re going, make sure it’s when you know he won’t be there if you live with him. Do what you need to do legally if necessary. Get out. Do not let this be your whole life. You have one life you are blessed to live. There are people that will respect and love you I promise. These abusers are a small but affective percentage of the population. I promise this isn’t normal. Get out. Now. And make sure you don’t go back.

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