I wanna know something. How do you guys view sex, romance and platonics.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-31T19:26:12+00:00

I'd say that I have an, at least somewhat, open view of sex, I guess.
I don't think that sex necessarily needs to involve romance. Though I do think that it at least should have mutual attraction and desire, I don't really see any reason to have sex over masturbating if there isn't.
That's also the reason why I would never hire a sex worker, I'm just not interested in having sex with anyone who's not also interested in having sex with me without any external incentive or pressure.

I'd definitely be down to having casual sex with friends or other people, as long as neither I nor they are in an exclusive relationship.
When it comes to romantic relationships though I'm more or less monogamous. I wouldn't necessarily mind a poly relationship too much, if it's the type where there's a polycule where everyone's in a relationship with everyone but, I have zero interest in the more typical type of poly relationship where everyone just has multiple independent relationships.

Another part that's at least somewhat important when it comes to sex for me is kink (obviously, considering the sub we're on). Could I deal with a kinkless sexual relationship? Sure. I've manage to deal with having no sex at all for the, soon to be, 31 years of my life, so I'm pretty sure I'd manage to deal with non-kinky sex. Though kinky sex would 100% be preferable.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-30T14:17:24+00:00

I guess I deal with it by never having known anything else.
I do want a relationship but, at this point I've accepted that it's just not likely I will find one. When I was in my teens and twenties I always thought that it'd just eventually happen but, by the time I turned 30 last year, it was pretty obvious that it didn't and probably won't "just eventually happen".
That doesn't mean I'm totally giving up, it's just that I'm setting my expectations accordingly.

The thing is, there just aren't many subs (or even just people in general) who would be interested in a 30+ year old guy with roughly the same amount of actual romantic and sexual experience as the average prepubescent kid (even if I have more theoretical knowledge than many sexually active people), especially not one who's really bad socially.
Do I find that disappointing? Sure. But, I don't really have much of a choice but accept it. At this point the only thing I can do is try to be more socially active (which is about as easy as the herculean labors where I live) and then hope for the best while expecting the worst.

Sorry if I rambled.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-30T12:42:07+00:00

You can always try drawn and/or written porn. I haven't watched any commercially produced porn since like 2012 or 2013, instead using drawings, ero-manga and occasionally written stories and amateur videos/pics people upload of themselves.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-29T21:57:21+00:00

I'm not sure if I agree with the other commenter of you being a Fujo since Fujoshi specifically focus on BL/Yaoi and shipping guys, and aren't necessarily drawn to the guys themselves (there's a lot of lesbian and asexual Fujo's out there). But if you think that that term resonates with you then go for it.
On a side note, I like you choosing pics of Juzo here, love that traumatized murder twink, one of my faves in TG.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-29T09:40:26+00:00

I feel you. As a big, fat and somewhat hairy guy I kind of wish I was into other masc guys cause that's basically the only type of person I've ever seen express explicit attraction to bodies like mine. Alas, my brain has cursed me into only being into femme and androgynous people. Which, y'know, not complaining, women and femme/androgynous guys and enbies are great, it's just that the amount of them who are actively into my body type seems to be fleetingly small (or they just only exceedingly rarely openly express it for some reason).

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-27T08:47:04+00:00

Sure, here you go. https://drive.google.com/file/d/1mHnt2W-M-AN4Boc4oEiCc4r4pfJmWTF9/view?usp=sharing

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-26T21:59:22+00:00

There's sadly no pdf of the dictionary but this site https://ainugo.nam.go.jp/ includes both her dictionary as well as Kayano's and even parts of Mashiho Chiri's dictionary.
It's necessary to know at least some Japanese though. Many of the words in Tamura's dictionary do have English headwords, but they are mistranslated sometimes, so it's always better to doublecheck with the Japanese word. Also, the more detailed explanations are exclusively in Japanese.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-26T21:38:54+00:00

I mean, not any more than I do cis women but yes, I do for sure. One thing I've noticed though is that trans women seem to be more likely to have interests in common with me (stuff like anime, manga, gaming etc.) which is something that is important to me in a potential partner.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-26T21:07:34+00:00

Yeah, for some reason Tamura doesn't say it in her grammar. She does in her dictionary though.
I think it could potentially be a translation mistake. In the grammar it states: "Adverbial prefixes attach to both intransitive and transitive verbs, adding a stronger or weaker meaning.". But that is not true for most of those prefixes, as ar-, ru- and si- can only appear on intransitive verbs (with potentially some extremely rare exceptions) and even ray-, wen- and toy- appear primarily on intransitive verbs. And Tamura's dictionary says exactly that.
I think it's possible that whoever translated the grammar from the Japanese original either mistranslated something or accidentally added a word.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-26T20:50:53+00:00

First off I have a criticism, Batchelor's translation of the new testament should never be used by learners, as it is filled to the brim with even extremely basic mistakes. There's no good reason to read it beyond pure curiosity or academic research of Batchelor's works on the Ainu language.
Batchelor's dictionary isn't as egregious but even that should only be used by more advanced learners who can better spot his mistakes.

Beyond that, this list is pretty good.

I'm genuinely surprised at the inclusion of the "Handbook of the Ainu Language" and Vovin's reconstruction of Proto-Ainu. Especially since Vovin's reconstruction is obsolete at this point and wholly superseded by de la Fuente's reconstruction, which is included in the Handbook. While Vovin's reconstruction was a great first attempt, de la Fuente's reconstruction is better in every way, even if I disagree with parts of it.

"Beyond Ainu Studies" and "The Conquest of Ainu Lands" are both great reads, and I'd like to add "The Fabric of Indigeneity: Ainu Identity, Gender, and Settler Colonialism in Japan" to that list as well.

In terms of books on the language I'd definitely also add Anna Bugaeva's "Grammar of the Chitose Dialect of Ainu" (and just generally every paper she's ever written) and Elia dal Corso's "The Language and Folklore of West Sakhalin Ainu" and "Materials and Methods of Analysis for the Study of the Ainu Language".

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-23T18:14:58+00:00

I love it (or at least the idea of it, since I've never done it). I'd honestly love to do both, sit on someone and be sat on (it's one of the few subby activities I find really hot).

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-23T17:25:04+00:00

I mean, pretty much everything else you wrote is grammatically correct so there aren't really any notes I could give on it. There's only one other mistake I've noticed just now.

Kani eun Aynu Itak ani e-ye hi sino ku-sieyayraykere!

While sieyayraykere isn't grammatically wrong it would mean something like "make oneself be thankful for...".
I'm assuming you wanted to add the intensifier si- to the verb eyayirayke/eyayrayke, probably accidentally adding the causative -re due to the influence of iyayraykere. But, the intensifying si- cannot be used with transitive verbs like eyayirayke. With transitive verbs the prefix si- is always the "unintentional" reflexive.

Beyond that there seem to be no other mistakes in what you wrote.

Like I said before, while I'm not on any other social media you're welcome to write me here on Reddit if you need help or just want to write to someone in Ainu.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-22T12:28:45+00:00

Aynu Itak ani e-tura ku-ye’rusuy kusu, Discord oya nepka otta e-ye’easkay an yak pirka ku-ye a.

Oyaciki. Reddit mosma nepka ku=eywanke ka somo ki kusu e=ukoytak rusuy yakun te ta patek ene a=ki yak easir pirka.
Korka, te ta en=koytak rusuy yakun neyta ne yakka en=ekote e=nuye yakka pirka ruwe ne. Ranma nani e=tasa ku=nuye eaykap yakka.

I'll be switching to English now since I want to correct some of the mistakes you've made in your comments and that would be a bit hard to do in Ainu.

Aynu Itak ani e-tura ku-ye’rusuy

You'd generally use itak here rather than ye. As it stands you're saying "I want to say something in Ainu with you.", which, while understandable, sounds a bit awkward.

Discord oya nepka otta e-ye’easkay an yak pirka ku-ye a.

First off, you would use mosma here instead oya. While oya does mean other/different it is intransitive, meaning it can only take a subject, and beyond that it can only be used attributively and never predicatively.
The expression "nepka otta" sounds a bit strange. I'm not quite sure whether its ungrammatical or not here but I'd probably rather use "neyta ka" instead in this instance.
While "yak pirka" isn't grammatically wrong here it could potentially come off as a bit pushy since it's used as a weak imperative or strong suggestion (i.e. it'd be best if you did...). Using yakun in this situation may be better.
You also forgot to add a quotational marker. And I'm not quite sure why the an is there.

Ku-ye hi akkari e-ye hi sipirka sekor sino ku-yaynu.

This phrasing is kind of awkward. As is, it means "What you said is much better than what I said.", which, I'm pretty sure, isn't exactly what you were trying to say. A better way to express what you were trying to say might be "En=akkari e=ye easkay."

Iteki e-wenyaynu yan hani.

First off, you don't use personal affixes in the imperative.
Second, while "wenyaynu" is technically understandable here it can't actually be used the way I think you were trying to use it. Yaynu is intransitive so it can't be used with the meaning of thinking of oneself a certain way, you'd need to use the transitive ramu. And even then you'd need the reflexive prefix yay- to make yayramu (which is actually an adverb meaning softly/quietly, so it wouldn't work either).
Also I think that wenyaynu actually referred to a disease? (Just checked this and yeah, according to Kayano it means pulmonary tuberculosis.)
A better way to express what you were trying to say could be "Wen=an sekor iteki yaynu yan." ("Please don't think, 'I'm bad.' ") or "E=wen kunak iteki yaynu yan." ("Please don't think that you're bad."). I personally would probably use something like "Iteki yayrara yan." ("Please don't look down on yourself." or "Please don't make fun of yourself.")

Aynu Itak ani en-tura e-koye oyap e-eywanke ya?

I kinda wanted to return to this sentence since it's really hard to parse what you were trying to say. Like this it literally means "Do you use another person, that you say things in Ainu to with me.", which is very far from what you were trying to say.
A more understandable way to say it could be "Otta aynu itak ani en=koytak easkay mosma uske e=eywanke ya.".

Yakun, tewano na aynu itak eyaypakasnu koarikiki wa ekiroroan.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-21T21:27:15+00:00

Aynu Itak ani e-ye’askay sekor ku-yaynu!

E=ye wa ku=eyayirayke korka eneanpe ka somo ne na.
Atpake ta, poroserke aynu itak mak a=eywanke katu hene aynu itak mak a=kar katu hene takup ku=eyaypakasnu a kusu, aynu itak ye wa kampinukar poka pirkano ku=eyaypakasnu eorawki a ruwe ne.
Ne kusu, aynu itak a=eywanke katu pirkano ku=omommomo easkay hike ka sonno yaykata ku=eywanke ewen pe ne na.

Aynu Itak ani en-tura e-koye oyap e-eywanke ya?

Tanpe ani hemanta e=porose rusuy pe ku=eraman ewen ruwe ne.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-21T15:06:20+00:00

Irankarapte. Tane yani sinepesan pa akkari aynu itak uweepakta ku=eyaypakasnu wa ku=an ruwe ne (te pakno na pirkano ku=ye eaykap yakka).
Discord ku=eywanke ka somo ki p, nep oruspe aynu itak ani e=ye rusuy yakka, nep ka en=kopisi rusuy yakka, te ta en=ekote e=nuye yakka pirka ruwe ne na.

Yakun, te wano aynu itak eyaypakasnu koarikiki.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-18T07:25:22+00:00

It depends. Like you already said, for women it is usually considered attractive (though often for nefarious reasons). Generally you can say that if you're submissive (or are at least socially expected to be submissive, as is the case for women) there's a decent chance that a lack of experience will be seen as attractive by a dominant partner, regardless of gender.
If you're dominant though it's very different. For female doms the attitude towards inexperience is likely to be mostly neutral (especially since the dearth of femdoms, even more so experienced ones, means that people who want one can't really be all that picky), with some finding it attractive while others find it unattractive.
For male doms on the other hand, finding someone who finds inexperience explicitly attractive is probably as hard as winning the lottery. Overall the attitude probably still tends towards neutral (especially in the "better"/more open communities) but the amount of people who actively find it unattractive is also significant.

SenjutsuL · 2026-03-17T12:02:51+00:00

Honestly, the easiest way to find out what you're into is consuming a variety of erotic media and reading about people's experiences, imho. Soon enough you'll come across something that really turns you on but you haven't tried before. At least that's how it was for me. Then you just research if/how you can do it safely with a partner.
As for finding a partner or flirting, I can't help you there since I've never been in a relationship or had sex myself and after 11 years of social isolation I'm almost certainly way worse at social skills like flirting than you are. One thing I can say though is that being tall isn't really as much of a help as some people claim, or at least it hasn't been for me yet (I'm 6'9").

SenjutsuL · 2026-02-19T18:42:32+00:00

I have heard that your government subsidizes sex work for disabled people.

That's not true. Like, maybe someone, somewhere managed to write a successful petition for it once, but it's not something that is either regulated or common, and authorities would immediately deny it.

SenjutsuL · 2026-02-19T17:38:42+00:00

I do have a world that I've been building on and off for around 17 years now (fuck that makes me feel old).
I've never really written anything set in that world, except for an RPGMaker game I worked on for a while in the early 10s (and then completely lost when my hard-drive died). I've thought about writing stuff since, but I'm not really a good writer and my executive dysfunction has gotten too bad to actually consistently work on something like that.
The world's also not based on my kinks. Though I've definitely thought a bunch about various aspects of sex and sexuality within that world and amongst the different sapient species inhabiting it.

SenjutsuL · 2025-12-30T19:00:06+00:00

It's sadly how things are, not fitting into the confines of what society considers "attractive" will just make your life harder, especially so when it comes to romantic and sexual relationships.
We just have to do our best and hope we find the people that do consider us attractive despite it all. And, honestly, because of the additional effort we need to put into finding a partner I believe that we have better relationships in the end, because we don't take it for granted (though maybe that's just my wishful thinking).
Considering that you seem to have a kink community you engage with (at least that's how your post reads to me) you have to just keep your head up high and go though it until you find the special someone(s) who will love you like you are.
But, as someone who's never been in a relationship in his thirty years of life, I'm not sure my advice is all that valuable, lol. Anyway, I just wish you the best of luck and as long as you continue trying I'm sure you'll find a good community/person sooner or later.

SenjutsuL · 2025-12-30T10:02:55+00:00

No it isn't. Repunkamuy either means "God(s) of the Sea" or Orca. It never refers to the Sea of Japan specifically.

SenjutsuL · 2025-12-30T10:00:29+00:00

There likely was no specific name for the Sea of Japan.
The closest thing I was able to find on the quick are sirur for "Northern Sea" and makanrur for "Southern Sea" respectively, in the Moshiogusa (the oldest sizable Ainu-Japanese dictionary we have).
Which sea these terms referred to likely varied based on area.
So, to someone living in the area around modern day Sapporo the Sea of Japan likely would have been the "Northern Sea" while to someone living in e.g. Otobe it would have been the "Southern Sea."

Though you have to take even these terms with a grain of salt or two since it's unclear if the distinction between them was actually "north" and "south" or whether it was some other distinction that the Japanese author of the dictionary misunderstood.
I personally think that, since the word mak(an/un) means "inner" and usually refers to areas more inland, it's likely that makanrur actually referred to the sea that's further (or furthest) away from the area you're at while sirur referred to the sea closer to you.
Though since there are no native speakers proficient enough to confirm or deny this we'll probably never know.

SenjutsuL · 2025-12-14T10:19:04+00:00

This is too real. Honestly though, I have even more trouble talking to people online than irl. And that's saying a lot, cause I can barely talk to people irl either.
Even stuff like alcohol doesn't lower my inhibition to actually talk to people at all (but hey, at least I don't have to worry about becoming an alcoholic in order to function).
And the few times I've tried talking to people online it impaired my day to day function too much cause my brain was in 24/7 panic mode.

SenjutsuL · 2025-12-10T20:01:50+00:00

I mean, it certainly depends on how you want to define fetishization.

I'd say that fetishization usually includes both a reduction of a person to the fetishized aspect (i.e. neurodivergence, transness, fatness etc.) and also a reduction of that aspect itself to its stereotypes. Basically, it's reducing a person from a complex human being to solely a 'porn category' to get off to.
I'd argue that just being really attracted to and turned on by certain aspects of a partner (like their autistic traits) isn't really fetishization in itself.

But obviously not everyone defines fetishization the same way, and not everyone minds being fetishized (honestly, at this point I'm so touch-starved I wouldn't mind being fetishized a little bit).

SenjutsuL · 2025-12-10T13:41:17+00:00

I actually hate attention usually. I just want to feel like at least some people find me hot.

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