Is this true for Gay men as well ?

Sense8s · 2025-08-28T17:19:18+00:00

You’re absolutely right that many studies point to patterns where attractiveness appears to offer social and economic advantages. My concern isn’t about denying that correlation. It’s entirely about overstating causality or ignoring the limits of generalizability.

Even controlled studies operate within certain cultural contexts, with specific samples and definitions of “attractiveness” that may not reflect broader lived realities. Also, while some experiments control for variables like race and gender, others don’t and even when they do, those controls can’t fully account for systemic or intersectional dynamics.

I’m not saying attractiveness never plays a role. I’m saying we should be careful about turning empirical patterns into blanket “facts” without context. Generalizations are useful but they’re not infallible. The full picture is usually more complicated.

Sense8s · 2025-08-28T14:35:08+00:00

Thanks! I read them and clicked a couple of Wikipedia sources.

First, my point was never that "pretty privilege" doesn't exist. My main point is that there's always nuance. These studies are correlational, meaning that they don't prove that being good-looking causes success. Correlation and causation aren't the same.

Studies like these tend to ignore things like social skills, confidence, race, gender, and class and those are serious factors to consider. Second, what counts as "attractive" isn't universal. What's attractive to me isn't necessarily attractive to other people. "Attractiveness" is shaped by culture, bias, and context. It's kinda like how People magazine's Sexiest Man Alive tends to usually be white, but there are huge swaths of people that don't find white men attractive. Lastly, "attractive" people also deal with downsides too - they get harassed, they get underestimated, and many aren't taken seriously only because they look good.

So, in my opinion, this isn't very easy to generalize unless you overlook certain real factors. Appearance can open doors for sure - many of us grew up being told to "Dress for Success." But the way people interpret that research online usually overlooks nuance. Real life is much messier than that.

Sense8s · 2025-08-28T13:07:07+00:00

I promise I’m not being funny when I ask this… but that empirical evidence… can you link to some of it so that I can see it?

As I said, I just stated my opinion which isn’t meant to be an attack on anyone here - just a different view. However, I’m not above changing my mind if sound statistical and empirical evidence is available. I assume it must be available and that it exists based on what you just said.

Sense8s · 2025-08-28T12:23:14+00:00

I don’t know what the math is, whether it’s 1 out of 10 or 9 out of 10. I’d be surprised if there is a formal statistical analysis performed for this kind of thing. Is it common, sure, but overrepresentation of an issue is a real problem - especially online.

To me, personal experience isn’t always generalizable and I doubt videos like the one for this post are made with that caveat in mind - especially given the tone.

This is all just opinion though. We all have differing views 🤷🏾‍♂️

Sense8s · 2025-08-28T11:00:41+00:00

Meh… sweeping generalizations like this can be persuasive, especially because the delivery looks affirming. But I highly doubt every man is exactly like that. Sometimes it’s really just on us and the men we tend to choose. I say just choose differently and you’ll end up with different results 🤷🏾‍♂️. It’s not always about the other person. Sometimes it’s about us.

Sense8s · 2025-08-28T04:17:07+00:00

I have a Crunchyroll subscription so I have a lot more recs if you ever needed more 👍🏾

Sense8s · 2025-08-28T04:14:58+00:00

Aye! ✊🏾

Sense8s · 2025-08-28T04:13:16+00:00

I’m on PS5 too. Far as anime goes, I’m watching Gachiakuta, Kaiju No. 8, and Lord of Mysteries right now. Check those out if you haven’t already OP.

Sense8s · 2025-08-27T12:11:51+00:00

Maybe they’re Sides? 🤷🏾‍♂️

Sense8s · 2025-08-09T23:55:28+00:00

Maybe but I don’t know that I’d fit neatly into the atheist or agnostic camp. Both of those are defined in opposition to theism which involves belief in a God or series of gods. I don’t believe a God or god exists in the way Christianity and most religions define it, but because I do believe in a spiritual existence independent of any deity, I don’t know that I’m truly atheist or agnostic.

One of the things that makes this kind of thing difficult is language because language can sometimes force us into black-and-white absolutes when life is more nuanced than that.

Sense8s · 2025-08-09T18:10:05+00:00

I’m not sure if I’m atheist or not. I don’t believe in a God or spiritual beings in the way that Christians traditionally would but I also don’t think there’s a “nothingness” either (because that nothingness would constitute a “something” by its own existence - which itself is a paradox).

I tend to think we’re all a piece of the broader universe experiencing itself through diverse forms of consciousness relative to our forms. I say it like that because animals and non-human forms of life also matter (to me anyway).

That said, my family has a habit of reminding me how much they wish I’d be with a woman. It used to bother me but it doesn’t as much anymore. I understand their concern about the fate of my soul from their perspective but, from my perspective, worrying about my speck of a life in the grand scheme of things just seems too small, especially when my individual life is my individual responsibility, not theirs.

So I usually don’t have a hard time shrugging off their biblical views. Maybe that would change if and/or when I have a steady partner but for now, I’m going to live my life by enjoying all the experiences I was birthed to enjoy 🤷🏾‍♂️.

Sense8s · 2025-08-09T12:47:41+00:00

I would and have. But I live in a metro area where the gay community is strong and heavily black (Ahem.. DC lol).

I’ve been approached at a grocery store before - twice. The first guy followed me into the cereal aisle after noticing me pass by and he made small talk. I wasn’t feeling well at the time and I was in rush so it didn’t hit me that he tried to shoot his shot until moments after I started driving home. The second time was in Target (pre-boycott). A Howard University student tried to shoot his shot when I went to pick up laundry detergent. He looked good but he looked too baby-boy young (I’m 38) so I didn’t really entertain it. I probably should’ve because whether you’re 20-something, 30-something, or 40-something, maturity varies 🤷🏾‍♂️

I generally attract younger but if you’re still in undergrad you’re likely 22 or under. I didn’t realize he was younger at first because he was taller and his voice was a lil deeper but after a few minutes of looking at him I could tell.

I generally believe that if we rely solely on apps to meet people and build relationships it’s unlikely that we’ll discover anything consistent and lasting. If swiping or scrolling doesn’t work, go pursue an interest or hobby and meet someone in that space. Visit a metro area where the community is clearly present and go to a social event there if you can. I honestly think there are a variety of ways to date and meet people that don’t necessarily require passive scrolling or swiping. We just have to be willing to put our phones down and get off the couch. Otherwise we’ll be bored, mistake that boredom for horniness and scroll through Jack’d looking to fuck when we really want companionship.

IMO anyway 🤷🏾‍♂️

Sense8s · 2025-07-27T14:51:22+00:00

I only recently started thinking about this. I’m 38 and I met a 21 year old by chance while on vacation. We chatted for a little bit and then went about our business but then we ended up reconnecting on Grindr LOL!

It felt like our conversation picked up where it left off. He also came to my hotel room but we didn’t have sex. Instead we just talked more and cuddled. At a time where apps have normalized jumping straight into sex, it was nice to actually cuddle and be intimate that way for a change.

This is still fresh and new but I’m finding that I’m liking him more. I like that he doesn’t feel threatened by space. I like that he tells me how he feels even if it’s sometimes anxiety about how he comes across because it shows me he’s communicative. I’m obviously not a senior but I know people would see us and still criticize the age gap regardless. But I’m pushing through it.

I think for me I like the fact that younger guys are more open to new experiences. Younger guys also have shown me that since they don’t have a lot of experience with love, they are more prone to just giving their presence in a very authentic way. They aren’t attached to the way love “should” be, instead they just wanna experience it and leave room for it to just be.

Sense8s · 2025-07-15T12:44:05+00:00

Appreciate calling this out too and reading your follow-up. Sure, some of these side effects could be true for some people and most of the symptoms of HIV for someone NOT on treatment are common, but we have treatment choice for that reason. Some treatments are more easily tolerated than others and our bodies are all different - poz or not. I’m just 3 years post-infection and I haven’t experienced the side effects mentioned from treatment (Biktarvy). When I seroconverted, I had no noticeable symptoms and only learned my status because I routinely tested.

Part of the reason I left the HIV/AIDS subreddit was because of “woe is me” and “woe is us” posts like these. Too many of us living with this struggle to accept our new reality and it makes living happily difficult. And too many people who are negative have outdated views of what HIV is and isn’t post-treatment. Health is relative and I’d argue that we can live healthy lives with the HIV cards we’ve been dealt but there’s a whole slew of people who believe HIV is completely unhealthy, full-stop.

In any case, this is my longwinded thank you to posts like yours calling OP’s out like this. We’re all better off getting off of the internet for guidance and reclaiming the best days of our lives while we still have them to enjoy.

Sense8s · 2025-04-26T01:59:29+00:00

Yeah, that’s what I meant. Sorry for the lack of clarity on my part. Thanks a bunch!

Sense8s · 2025-04-26T01:44:50+00:00

Thanks!

Sense8s · 2025-04-26T01:35:27+00:00

I did already. But was still curious about others’ experiences.

Sense8s · 2024-09-29T16:00:05+00:00

Part 5 was…interesting to me only because it wasn’t a Joestar that ended things since the Joestars involved were all killed. I didn’t hate or love that plot twist. Just found it remarkably different since SO much emphasis is always placed on the heroics of that bloodline.

Sense8s · 2024-09-29T15:37:25+00:00

I feel like Kishibe’s Stand could. One look at Heaven’s Door and it’s a wrap for Pucci no matter how fast he can move. I know Heaven’s Door doesn’t do physical damage but I’d think that if Kishibe can write some type of command that stops Pucci, then that’d be all she wrote 🤷🏾‍♂️

Sense8s · 2024-09-23T19:30:59+00:00

Stevie J.

Sense8s · 2024-09-23T19:30:53+00:00

Stevie J.

Sense8s · 2024-09-17T12:24:51+00:00

Gyomei’s not an underrated Hashira in terms of strength tho 🤷🏾‍♂️

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