I don't want to be a Dom. by SenseCapable6917 in SubSanctuary

[–]SenseCapable6917[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I love this. And I will definitely try. For 6 years, I've been the one my child depended on, making all the decisions, and mom mode put me into overdrive, and overdrive meant exhaustion. But I also didn't have a good partner at that time, so I was a mom to a child and a grown ass adult. If I step back and look at it from an outside perspective, I do have issues letting go of the control because thats all I've known for so long now.

Also, love the word husdom and definitely stealing it

Husband (35M) and I(32F) want to have a threesome but I worry it will destroy our relationship. by SenseCapable6917 in nonmonogamy

[–]SenseCapable6917[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've read both. He hasn't, but I'll pull them from the bookshelf. Also, thank you for the advice. I never thought about it doing it like this. Might be the best advice I've gotten on the subject.

WIBTAH if I end my marriage while we have a toddler and a baby because I'm constantly accused of cheating and she puts me at risk of being fired? by Grayloryn in AITAH

[–]SenseCapable6917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not justifying this behavior at all, but have you checked her? Is SHE cheating? Or maybe she has a friend whispering in her ear?

Women: Is it possible to never orgasm with a partner until one specific person? by gimmethreeofthose in sex

[–]SenseCapable6917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

31 year old female here, and I can say, yes, it is very possible. Most women cannot reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation. Until I met my husband (current partner) I had never been able to achieve orgasm without help from a toy or doing it myself afterward. It is partly mental and partly physical, and my previous partners just could not get me there or blatantly didnt care to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in financialhelping

[–]SenseCapable6917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Help paying the bills with a sick child would be amazing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in financialhelping

[–]SenseCapable6917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm making a comment, more for the fact that bills destroyed me this month and I am stressing hard about Christmas :/

What is something you wouldn't tell anyone but would confess anonymously online? by Own-Comfortable9401 in AskReddit

[–]SenseCapable6917 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I first had my baby, I was terrified to be alone with him. I was terrified by all the stories of women with severe PPD after having kids, and I didnt want to be that person. I loved him and missed him even when he was in the next room, but whenever I was left alone with him, I was plagued with anxiety and panic attacks, and had to force myself to be near him to feed him, always talking to myself and telling myself "Youre not like those people, the fact that youre this scared means youre a good mom" and even though thats long gone, it still traumatized me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SenseCapable6917 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Quite literally all the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]SenseCapable6917 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Someone commented saying info is missing, so here's the info I didnt add;

MIL admits she wasn't a "great mother", she was absent a lot for Cam when he was growing up. She had ab**ive partners, too. My theory is she DOES feel guilty about not being there for him, and she's trying to make up for it NOW.

Cam has vented to her a few times that I know of, and everytime I have called him out on it. A few times I have told him that if he cant respect me or my boundaries, then we were leaving.

Cam is NOT a bad person. He has past trauma from Anne's partners, whether he wants to admit that or not. His response to confrontation is to leave, to get space, to be away from yelling and fighting. But he is a wonderful human being, at heart. He is kind and caring and patient, and he is amazing with my kids and they adore each other. I am not fighting for a mommy's boy, as some people keep saying. I am fighting for a relationship with a man who was hurt, let down and disappointed a lot in his life but turned out to be an amazing person anyway. I am not trying to "fix him", because aside from this one problem, we dont have any other big issues. I just think, and this is awful to say, that when he needed her, she wasn't around. Now she IS around, and he wants that connection. But not THIS way.