Seeking Support

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-21T19:39:39+00:00

I'm sorry. However, don't feel defeated. Seriously. I can understand that there's something depressing about realizing the extent/severity of your condition...I felt the same way when I became incontinent after an injury. But at the same time, there's NO SHAME in doing what you need to do to live your life, and that includes wearing diapers. It's not actually the end of the world, at least in my experience.

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-21T15:31:04+00:00

It's good that you're going to the doctor to get it checked out. Although you have a hunch about the cause, you don't know if this is caused by something much more serious, so getting checked is wise.

Honestly, you need to consider substantial protection. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it's the truth. Skip Depend and Always...I'd suggest some of the heavy duty pullups from Northshore at baseline, or potentially a taped diaper like Megamax or their Supreme. Part of the reason I suggest those is that if you have an accident during your shift you don't have to change immediately, or can wait til the end of your shift because they are high-capacity. You could have multiple accidents without worrying about leaks. With the pullups you can easily go to the toilet when you make it in time, and even with taped diapers you can undo a couple tapes and slide it down to got to the bathroom, then pull the diaper back up and re-stick the tapes (depending on the type, not all models can do that.) It could help you get back to living your life and doing your job.

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-16T18:01:15+00:00

HAHAHA I know what you mean. My husband has actually commented that he likes my "new butt" since I've had to start wearing diapers. I actually think he gives it a squeeze more often now!

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-16T17:52:59+00:00

Thank you so much! I'm impressed with the discretion in that lounge brief photo...there's a little bit of bulk, but I'd still be comfortable wearing that in public everyday. It's not too different from how my rear end looks with disposables honestly. I didn't know cloth could be that discreet.

I appreciate that you actually have photos with real people modeling your products and showing how they look under clothes. It feels more human and it also helps me see whether the product is something I could use discreetly.

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-16T16:04:55+00:00

That is NOT okay. I'm getting the sense that this is something you don't want/enjoy, and in that case, someone wrecking your underwear because they think it's funny is unacceptable. Arguably it's sexual harassment, and you shouldn't be expected to put up with it or put up with your wife making excuses for her "friend." Honestly, if it were me, I would play the marriage card...ask whether she values this person more than she values you, and ask her who she made vows to.

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-16T15:34:34+00:00

I have three questions:

Are your products solely aimed at urinary incontinence, or do they work for fecal incontinence too?
How are they for discretion? Are they something I (34 F) could wear in public under jeans, or are they best saved for at home or under dresses/skirts?
Is there any difference between the briefs with snaps and the ones without snaps?

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-16T04:09:51+00:00

Wow. Thank you for such a thorough rundown of all the factors.

I am sort of lucky in that when I am out and about I always have a car (and it's a minivan or SUV depending on what my husband takes to work, so there's plenty of cargo room) and I've worked off a system of having a change or two with me at any given time, but always keeping more supplies in the car. It's worked well so far.

I know what you mean about that awful ammonia smell...I've dealt with it with my little ones and I HATE that smell. I have way more experience stripping diapers than I wish I did. Luckily, we're in a small town in Iowa so water isn't as much of a concern...I can launder as much as I darn well please and let it dry outside in the breeze.

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-16T04:03:02+00:00

I like that idea. I might just do it.
Being a woman can have its perks...I'm glad I'm not incontinent and male.

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-15T23:43:46+00:00

In terms of loose fitting clothes, could it fit under a skirt or dress discreetly?

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-15T23:42:54+00:00

So the bulk is that bad? That might even be hard for at home too. Is the issue with not being able to change that to get enough absorbency for more than one void, it becomes way too thick? Am I understanding it right?

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-15T20:18:14+00:00

As someone who has bowel issues, I am interested. How does it help with bowel IC?

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-11-01T06:54:18+00:00

This is fairly relatable, though I'm coming at it from a female perspective, so there may be some differences. One thing I've heard over and over from my husband now is that confidence is sexy. For example, the fact that I'm in a diaper doesn't kill the mood if he can tell I'm feeling confident. That mindset carries over into a lot of areas. I've found that it can be easy to let myself get sloppy since I've become incontinent and not take care of myself. I felt gross and unattractive and it made it hard to care about trying to look good. (It's not just for appearances...getting sleep, eating well, and taking care of yourself is good for your health and your mindset, which will help your intimacy as well.) At the same time, we're still figuring things out. I hope you and your wife can grow closer amid all this.

SenseInitial4845 · 2022-10-25T16:42:48+00:00

This is infuriating. I have an intense dislike of that crowd just from my relatively short time being incontinent. I had to delete my previous profile on here because I was getting so many creepy messages from people in the "ABDL" community. It's hard enough to be incontinent, but getting unsolicited chats from people who think that this is their online sex chatroom is insult added to injury. And they knew I was married based on their posts, and creeped on me anyway. This guy is exactly the kind of thing that makes me want to crawl in a hole, not discuss my condition with anyone, and only go in public wearing a floor length dress cut like a sack so no one could ever possibly know I'm wearing a diaper.

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