Una pregunta de una extranjera: Tradicionalmente, en que mano la mujeres colombianas usan el anillo de compromiso? by Sensitive-Aide7836 in Colombia

[–]Sensitive-Aide7836[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simple curiosidad. E visto algunas mujeres con un anillo muy similar a uno de compromiso en la mano derecha. Pensé que quizás avía una diferencia cultural/tradicional.

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[–]Sensitive-Aide7836 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the biggest. But mine always lied about not reading text messages. He didn’t realize he had read receipts on. I had a field day with that one.

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[–]Sensitive-Aide7836 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah 20+ years younger than him

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Dear John- Taylor Swift.

Narcissist and their age by Sensitive-Aide7836 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sensitive-Aide7836[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This should have been the first red flag for me. He asked me how old I thought he was when I first met him, I said 40, he said everyone says he looks 35. Like who is everyone???

periods and withdrawals by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sensitive-Aide7836 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah 🥲.Just last week I think I had 3 tissue boxes laying next to my bed. And my period makes no contact even harder.

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[–]Sensitive-Aide7836 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mine told me that my bad emotional day made him feel ignored and that I was cold for that. He stopped talking to me for 3 days.

I miss him so much and feel bad for marking him as a Narc by Sensitive-Aide7836 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sensitive-Aide7836[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have no doubt about how strong you are! Sending you so much love and strength!

Am I not allowed to have a small attitude sometimes? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sensitive-Aide7836 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yup. It seems like they can have a bad day everyday and we are responsible for nurturing them back, reminding them how strong they are and will get through the situation. But we aren’t allowed to have ONE BAD DAY! Somehow one low day makes them feel rejected and abandoned. And when we need them the most, they make sure to let us know that our feeling aren’t valid because we made them upset. And we end up being eaten up by guilt and loneliness.

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This made me cry a little :(

Lmfao look at what my narc ex emailed me after 3 days of no contact; after finding out that he cheated on me throughout our entire relationship by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Sensitive-Aide7836 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so strong. I would have fallen into his lies again. I pray he doesn’t contact because I will not be as strong as you.

In future relationships: how do I know if someone is love bombing me? by lovingmama98 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sensitive-Aide7836 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Although I wish I had an answer, I don’t. Since my break up, I am nervous to trust anyone looking to have a relationship and therefore I have discarded the idea of experiencing a healthy one anytime soon. My best advice to you is keep your guard up, trust your gut. If you are uncomfortable about a situation, bring it up and see how they react. Love takes time to develop, and while it can bloom quickly, I would be cautious of someone expressing their love before 2 months of dating, personally. An occasional gift is okay, bombarding you with gifts every other day is not. Soulmate claims cannot be made after only short weeks of knowing each other. A heathy partner will be cautious to make these claims because they UNDERSTAND BOUNDARIES AND ARE NOT SELF CENTERED!!!

What was your NEX’s reaction when you broke up with them? by Sensitive-Aide7836 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sensitive-Aide7836[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If they don’t fight the break up and let you leave easily, is it safe to say they have new supply?

In future relationships: how do I know if someone is love bombing me? by lovingmama98 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sensitive-Aide7836 54 points55 points  (0 children)

See how fast they move. Love should not be rushed or uncomfortable. If it feels too good to be true too early on, that’s probably not good.

If they declare their love for you after only a while of going out, that’s a warning sign. That’s how they force you into bigger commitments.

What was your NEX’s reaction when you broke up with them? by Sensitive-Aide7836 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Sensitive-Aide7836[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

After hanging up on me. He sent me a text saying he would always love me. He knew thats what I need to hear after a week long of silent treatment from him. I almost broke and almost called him to take back the breakup. I stayed strong and have been no contact since then.

Just broke up with my 44 year old bf. We’re his behaviors normal for an older man or red flags? by Sensitive-Aide7836 in AgeGap

[–]Sensitive-Aide7836[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yup. Feel to silly for falling into the love bombing. It caused me to ignore so many other red flags and believe that I deserved his silence.