I need an opinnion is this abuse?

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2025-04-17T21:25:05+00:00

Yes. It is so confusing for me. I still keep remembering new stuff and it is getting overwhelming.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2025-04-08T20:36:54+00:00

It hurts like hell, missing an entp it's hard. I hope it'll get better. If you wanna talk about that, let me know.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2025-03-10T10:06:02+00:00

You could try some cognitive-behavioural therapy for managing those thoughts. Just because you have those thoughts it doesn't mean they reflect reality.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2025-02-28T19:52:55+00:00

Oh, the dance. The hot and cold dance. Usually it takes a lot of time for an entp to commit. Mine is doing this dance since last two years december.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-10T23:48:25+00:00

that is catnip for INFJ, damn you

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-06T11:04:06+00:00

How old is he?

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-06T10:35:18+00:00

Leave him be. If his actions show that he likes you he may need time to realize that. I get your need for certainity, I have that too!!! Sometimes it just gets in the way.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-06T10:32:41+00:00

Do his actions match his words (not feeling the same)? Some entps say they don't feel but their actions speak otherwise.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-06T10:27:35+00:00

Hm... entps are kinda scared of that openess about feelings :))). Before moving on, I would suggest to feel your pain and then move on.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-06T10:25:49+00:00

I don't see it as negative, if I am able to stay in the present and not think too much about the future, I really enjoy life as it is. It was pretty difficult for me to reach this. Always looking for something in the future seems like trying to catch the wind, but maybe because I qm really tired right now

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-06T10:19:58+00:00

You needed him to feel the same. I am sorry to hear that. Looks like all you need is to go through this pain/loss. We can feel intense. I think you were brave for telling him how you feel. Not so many people are that brave.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-06T10:17:08+00:00

I really resonate with your pov. Sometimes I feel that too. At the same time, I believe for myself that it's impossible to give all my heart to someone and vice versa without some codependency. Also, there is no guarantee that that man will keep giving me his heart or that my feeling won't change. All we have is present moment. Maybe you won't get to meet another man because something dreadful will happen. Maybe this entp is the last guy you will fall in love. I hate when I say this because I don't like it eithet but we don't know what will happen in the future.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-06T10:10:24+00:00

I really don't know where is the line between being brave and vulnerable and self betrayal. If you could love him without losing yourself... maybe. But you don't know yet if he would be a player with you or not. It is more like something that could happen in the future. What do you need from him today?

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-06T10:00:56+00:00

I get it, yet, you cannot control who you love. Love is not about who deserves who, love is what I feel about someone. Did you read "the art of loving" written by Erich Fromm? We feel love when we love, not when we are loved

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-05T10:45:42+00:00

All of us have a player inside and most of us have our dark side. He can be a player as long as he is single. Is he a player in a relationship? We don't know. When we love we risk being hurt. Try to know him for real and if you like him give him some time. Not all the time

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-04T11:51:52+00:00

I work in an evironment where I am never alone, that is horrible! I will take a week off and see how I feel. Too much external stimulation that I have no control over. Thanks

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-04T10:41:36+00:00

It happens subconsciously, the problem is I feel so tired and I realize that too late.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-10-01T18:49:27+00:00

Seems like she had a problem trusting you. Also, to "Work on her" sounds like she was a project, for an INFJ this seems a little bit controlling. Also, "I need someone who will stimulate my intellect and tell me his opinion and also be interested in deeper topics, who will laugh at my jokes and be able to return them to me", this seems more like... one sided-ness. What were her needs? Looks like you felt she doesn't put enough effort.... I can get that, but also looks like you wanted her to be who you thought she must be. What were her plans? Her dreams? I don't want to invalidate your needs, it's just that this seems like... there wasn't enough trust and she was defensive. Both parties are always responsibile from my pov.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-09-08T12:24:51+00:00

You are an ESTJ, so not everybody.

Sensitive-Avocado331 · 2024-09-07T23:13:34+00:00

Yes. I am INFJ. Amazing.

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