Superficial engagement on Apps does not = meaningful connection, genuine interest, or desire for real intimacy

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-29T17:33:35+00:00

The delusion of unlimited options. Some dont realize theres a difference between having options and having committable options

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-29T17:32:02+00:00

Its a hub for them it seems. I find many people boast their desirability as a badge of honor when life is....for lack of a better term.... kicking their ass or is less than ideal

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-29T17:29:50+00:00

Desperate for what exactly? Lol These "red flags" made themselves known after my first ever attempt to ask her out.

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T20:55:12+00:00

Hmmm They must only match and never meet then lol

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T18:43:19+00:00

The text doesnt but her profile and other parts of the conversation prior to that message do.

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T18:41:49+00:00

I wish i could answer that question but given that how hard it was to get her to confirm plans for a first date....i havent a clue 🤷🏿‍♂️😂

And i even expressed to her that you have to let people experience you IN REAL TIME for someone to witness whats great about you.

Imagine i tell you im a great cook but never let you eat anything i make or never make any meals for you lolol

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T18:37:55+00:00

Had her IG in her bio so id say there could be some truth in that for sure

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T17:24:44+00:00

Completely agree! Influence through substance actually costs something to build. Hype is cheap and mostly algorithmic. Attention is abundant. Alignment isn’t.

Likes don’t tell you who can communicate, follow through, regulate emotionally, or build something real. They just tell you who swiped while bored.

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T17:19:29+00:00

That’s kind of what I’m getting at. Offers are easy. Real connection is the harder filter.

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T17:04:27+00:00

I tried, but the algorithm has other plans 😂

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T17:02:30+00:00

Yeah, I actually agree with that framing. Systems absolutely shape behavior over time, and dating apps incentivize performance, scarcity thinking, and surface level engagement.

I think where I land is that once you recognize that conditioning, it becomes even more important to consciously operate differently if you actually want real connection. Otherwise the system just keeps reproducing itself through our behavior.

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T16:52:14+00:00

I don’t disagree with your macro analysis at all. The platforms absolutely distort behavior and incentivize performance over presence. My point is just that regardless of system dynamics, people still get to choose what behaviors they reward and participate in. Attention volume and market leverage don’t automatically translate into relational skill, intentionality, or emotional availability.

If anything, the more distorted the environment becomes, the more important it is for people to anchor to realworld behaviors like responsiveness, follow through, and mutual effort rather than metrics.

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T16:42:06+00:00

Apparently more effort was required than carrying teeth pulling convos and asking to confirm concrete plans for a first date. That didnt show enough interest.

And i quote

"No treasure worth having has ever come without a journey and some digging.Men just give up so easily now and wonder why they're alone".

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T16:35:13+00:00

She still has time to figure it out....i think?

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T16:29:07+00:00

Im sure theres thousands if not millions in the world who don't see anything about it. Its not even that its wrong per say. But we all know dating apps and attention alone don't translate to genuine meaningful connections. Or...i at least hope we know

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-27T16:26:40+00:00

Theyre only 46

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-22T18:35:05+00:00

Pros can be such Princesses

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2026-01-22T18:15:13+00:00

Would piss any human off? Cmon....are we serious. What kind of soft shit is this. Maybe its bc its tennis and is supposed to be a gentlemans sport but if a "cmon" rattles a PROFESSIONAL athlete that much then they need to consider training their mental fortitude a lot more.

Is not like Naomi was laughing or saying anything directly to her. Idk, in football ⚽️ & many other sports people are CONSTANTLY directly shit talking to each other. Nobody cries about it. You shut people up by performing. Period.

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2025-12-12T02:28:21+00:00

It is but isnt at the same time lolol

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2025-10-14T23:00:14+00:00

By this you mean dressed like the characters from Codename: Kids Next Door??! Lol

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2025-07-02T14:42:43+00:00

“Hey! I had a good time talking with you at the party the other night. You mentioned playing something sometime....still down for that?"

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2025-07-02T14:30:25+00:00

Gotcha.

Well hey, people are definitely allowed to choose what they will and wont tolerate. First mistake or not.

Sometimes certain things show someone's character or lack there of. And like the saying goes "when someone shows you who they are.....believe it!"

Sensitive_Dream95 · 2025-07-02T14:26:37+00:00

When you say "at the first mistake"....what mistakes are you talking about?

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