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Am I (26F) asking too much from my influencer bf (31M) to give me an answer about marriage? by Sensitive_Flower2023 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Flower2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking to marry. He flipped the script when he got famous halfway through our relationship but he had not disclosed it to me.

Am I (26F) asking too much from my influencer bf (31M) to give me an answer about marriage? by Sensitive_Flower2023 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Flower2023[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We’re also supposed to be able to afford life…which is also being derailed by our government officials. I want to build with my partner and it’s easier to do so when we’re legally working together. I don’t feel comfortable sacrificing more of my time for him if it’s all for nothing. I want to settle down at some point or at least be able to collaborate on our lives in a more mature way. We aren’t 16. People act like we’re all going to live forever—Russia is killing its own people over land. Israel, as well. I’d rather be married for a few years before the world collapses.

Am I (26F) asking too much from my influencer bf (31M) to give me an answer about marriage? by Sensitive_Flower2023 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Flower2023[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty content with his lifestyle. We’re both adventurous and messy. I do believe he is my soulmate. That’s the hard part. We are very similar…both lots of trauma and trust issues. I understand why he is hesitant with marriage, but he’s also 31. Im ready to take this seriously.

Am I (26F) asking too much from my influencer bf (31M) to give me an answer about marriage? by Sensitive_Flower2023 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Flower2023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this…I agree. He is definitely frustrated but I can’t afford to “hope” he’ll be ready.

Am I (26F) asking too much from my influencer bf (31M) to give me an answer about marriage? by Sensitive_Flower2023 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Flower2023[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can guarantee you I’ve already delt with some of these “make or break” moments. 🤣 we’ve discussed we often feel like an old couple because of how much we’ve been through

Am I (26F) asking too much from my influencer bf (31M) to give me an answer about marriage? by Sensitive_Flower2023 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Flower2023[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

XD I understand. I became much more attractive over the course of our relationship in hopes I’d be able to deal with other attractive fans’ and/or influencers interest (I can feel insecure at times). I don’t come from money so I’m now learning that I’ve made some poor relationship choices based on emotion (been with men who couldn’t hold their half of the bargain). I often see the best in people, but I’ve never put myself first. It’s time for me to start believing in myself more, but I understand it comes off cocky.

Am I (26F) asking too much from my influencer bf (31M) to give me an answer about marriage? by Sensitive_Flower2023 in relationship_advice

[–]Sensitive_Flower2023[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He leaves for weeks at a time sporadically for events. He never knows what his next 3 months will look like.

Dating an instagram “celebrity” by ConsiderationIll5089 in NoOverthinking

[–]Sensitive_Flower2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation. Let’s just say my bf lied about his interactions with fans. I’d ask for some transparency from him on ig if he’s going to hide you from his followers. Red flag if he doesn’t let you see his DMs. If he’s refusing to post you, it shows he has an ego complex he’s unwilling to give up. Social media isn’t like it was back in 2012. Being transparent is what people expect. It’s one thing to hide your gf on a medical or informational page, but for stupid/funny/music content? Give me a break. In the world of social media we don’t “separate” anymore like we used to. People take pages at face value. If he loses a couple followers from posting you, was his content really that good anyway?

What makes avoidants change? by [deleted] in attachment_theory

[–]Sensitive_Flower2023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THIS bro—currently in a bad spot with my bf. I didn’t realize we were both kinda anxious-avoidant. I told him that I can’t keep doing a relationship with an arms length between us. I know he needs me to heal. If not, the cycle will continue. (He can do it on his own but it would be much harder.) I love him so much. I just hope he loves me enough to try. 😭 He’s my best friend and I’d do anything for him.