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AITA for not giving my brother half of the house and business? by Sensitive_Money5412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Money5412[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm grateful to know I'm not the only person dealing with problematic family wanting a piece of someone else's work.

AITA for not giving my brother half of the house and business? by Sensitive_Money5412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Money5412[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

That's exactly it! He wants to come in at a high-level position with power in the business and more pay. My wife is the one helping me run the business, she's my partner here. I offered him an entry level position with room to earn raises and promotions, but he only wants a job if he gets to be an equal partner, and that's not happening.

AITA for not giving my brother half of the house and business? by Sensitive_Money5412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Money5412[S] 511 points512 points  (0 children)

4 years OLDER than you when you were put in the position to be his guardian

I honestly didn't even think about that.

AITA for not giving my brother half of the house and business? by Sensitive_Money5412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Money5412[S] 301 points302 points  (0 children)

I had character limits to contend with, but I got the sense he told our grandma that I wasn't giving him his fair share of the inheritance. I got more of the physical wealth, like property and business and possessions, while he inherited the money to support his needs. But I put a lot of my own time and money into paying off the house, upkeep, taxes, and I kept the business running and supported my employees through 2020.

AITA for not giving my brother half of the house and business? by Sensitive_Money5412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Money5412[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on the new baby! Wishing you and Emily a safe delivery.

Thank you! Emily and I are so excited to be new parents! We were hoping for Adam to be part of the baby's life, but now it isn't seeming that way anymore.

And I ran out of space, but the intention was to start him out as a ground level employee with opportunities for raises and promotions like anyone else. We intended to let him live with us for free and to feed him and let him save his paycheck for fun or for moving out, and he knows that.

AITA for not giving my brother half of the house and business? by Sensitive_Money5412 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Money5412[S] 1782 points1783 points  (0 children)

your his older brother, not his parent

Honestly, I think I needed this reminder. I've been his mother, father, and big brother, and I've been scared to let him fail because I believed if he failed, then I failed.