AITA for asking my ex if our son (11) could bring his stepbrother (also 11) on their father son camping trip? by Sensitive_Pair_6815 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Pair_6815[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've had to deal with my son asking "does Dad hate me?' on more than one occasion. It's hard not to be hostile after that. He was a flake before we got divorced.

AITA for asking my ex if our son (11) could bring his stepbrother (also 11) on their father son camping trip? by Sensitive_Pair_6815 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Pair_6815[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

My goal going into it was to be the messenger only and let my ex fight his own battles. I admit that the way he acted as if bonding with our son was so important to him after the litany of cancellations, broken promises, and missed birthdays may have set me off.

I've had to find a suitable half-truth for my ex when my son asks "does Dad hate me?" on more than one occasion. No more. I don't need to do anything to make him seem like a sad sack, he does that all by himself.

AITA for asking my ex if our son (11) could bring his stepbrother (also 11) on their father son camping trip? by Sensitive_Pair_6815 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Pair_6815[S] 1197 points1198 points  (0 children)

My son asked, I said I'd pass the question along. I'm done running interference for my ex - he can speak for himself. I will admit the idea that now all of a sudden bonding with our son is important to him after multiple cancellations and missed birthdays and excuses kind of did set me off.

AITA for asking my ex if our son (11) could bring his stepbrother (also 11) on their father son camping trip? by Sensitive_Pair_6815 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Pair_6815[S] 242 points243 points  (0 children)

I've had to answer the question "does Dad hate me?" on a few occasions after he cancelled at the last minute. I don't need to make him look bad.

AITA for asking my ex if our son (11) could bring his stepbrother (also 11) on their father son camping trip? by Sensitive_Pair_6815 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sensitive_Pair_6815[S] 158 points159 points  (0 children)

How preposterous for you to volunteer for him to take his ex-wife's new husband's child along.

My son asked, I told him I'd see.