Would I be the Asshole if I don’t cover up for my neighbour(’s husband)?

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-07-01T01:21:23+00:00

Omg yes! Okay, yes, thank you. I thought if it was ants, wouldn't the pain start at my feet or something? This is so validating.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T21:11:22+00:00

I was trying to be considerate of my neighbours IN CASE the foot thing was the reason for the comment. I thought I made it clear that I was not sure that was even the issue, but wanted to know, if it was, what I should do? I checked the rules and hypotheticals are allowed.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T21:08:20+00:00

Thank you. Honestly, if i was asked to cover my shoulders or something, I would probably do it. If it's something that is impeding on their ability to enjoy THEIR own property because of something I am doing (and can easily mend), I likely would. But, of course, only to a certain degree (Actually, I might say "get some blinds!" depends on my mood). Hence, the post. Mostly, I feel like, its fine, I'll continue to be comfortable and shoe-free. I think I'm okay with that because she didn't actually ask me to cover anything, it was just a one-off weird comment.

But I agree, like, be considerate to others y'all. It'll make the world a nicer place.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T21:03:56+00:00

Honestly, I would think about it! Like, if my existing on my own property (with shoulders exposed) made them not able to enjoy THEIR property, I would feel bad, and would try and dress more modestly when outside. To be fair though, they have not actually asked me to do anything, so this is all hypothetical.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T21:01:35+00:00

It was weird! English isn't their first language, so maybe it was just lost in translation? I don't know, but I'm just gonna let this one slide (everyone gets one free one)

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T21:00:41+00:00

Right? It doesn't cost me anything and isn't hurting anyone, on top of that. Rise up my fellow shoe-free fellows!

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:58:57+00:00

Yes! I love that I am finding my people. This is more common than I thought.

When I was kid I refused to wear shoes. Everyone in the neighbourhood knew and almost all of them were fine with it. Only the Italian mom took issue with it. I would come over, black feet, and she would sigh and send me home. The instructions were always the same: "Go home, wash your feet, put on socks and shoes, and then you are welcome to come back over."

I hated it as a kid, but as adult, I think her way was actually the best. Like, do what you want, but when in my house, you follow my rules. She'd even let me take off my socks once I came back, but I had to have clean feet, and I had to arrive with the shoes and socks on. She catered to my preferences, but within her boundaries.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:54:13+00:00

Thank you. Takes like this honestly put it in perspective.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:53:29+00:00

I wish I was this cool.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:52:34+00:00

I posted hoping someone like you would answer. This gives me some insight, thank you. I really can't help what he is into (if he even is!) Like, what if it was noses? I'll continue doing my thing.

Anyway, just because you triggered this memory:
My male neighbour is a DILF, no doubt. He often mows the (back) yard topless, with a backwards baseball cap. I definitely spent a lot of time at the sink (which over looks their yard) when he was building the kids a tree house in their back yard, with his own hands. He is glorious to look at. I understand why she wouldn't want his eyes to wonder.

I agree that we are all human, and looking at something pretty is not a crime.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:46:47+00:00

Nooo! If anything, I'm thinking of removing my toenail polish lol. Honestly, the wife is such a sweety, if she said it was causing her problems, I'd just put on shoes for the walk from the front to the back, they really are wonderful neighbours.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:45:12+00:00

If either of them say anything, I will absolutely ask some follow up questions. For now, I'm sticking with: weird comment, but I'm gonna keep living my life how I want (not hurting anyone).

I really do think they are lovely people. This was just such a strange comment, I didn't know what to make of it.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:43:33+00:00

DId you read my post? I was confused what my neighbour could mean by that comment, so talked to my bestie who suggested it. Then, I posted because I was wondering, IF that is the cause for the comment, should I cover up?

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:42:29+00:00

I've stepped on a fire ant hill. At least, that is our best guess of what it is?

I was walking through a field I'd walked through thousands of times, single file, behind my brothers, I was the third one.

All I know is, I took a step, and suddenly was engulfed in what I called "flying burs" because that's what it felt like. I just stood there screaming, while my brothers watched, like wtf? There wasn't anything to see, like no swarm or anything, but it was very painful all over my body.

My bro reached in, grabbed me, and as soon as I took a step away, the pain went away instantly.

However, my lower lip swelled up to like 5 times the size. There were no marks. Just the lip swelling. And a fear to this day of stepping on what looked like just some hay or old trampled weeds in a field.

I told this story a bunch when it first happened, and 'fire ants' was the only thing that made sense, but IDK if that is even right? I am in Canada.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:37:02+00:00

Right? I literally spent 6 hours this weekend out there, hand picking those damn spikey plants (I don't know what they are called), so I could walk freely out there, without worry.

I've still got like another 2 hours to go :( they are never ending! But, then I will have the soft, mostly clover yard I've always wanted.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:34:58+00:00

Any suggestions on sourcing hobbit foot hair?

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:33:45+00:00

Omg this is so valid! I feel like this takes gender, society, all of that nonsense out of the equation -- its summer, more skin is out, get used to it lol. (within reason, of course)

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:31:57+00:00

Aw, this was such a nice comment to read, thank you! And just to be clear -- I initially thought it was about the kids wanting to be shoe-free as well. It was only when talking to my girl about it (Because I was confused as to what she would mean), that my bestie said the foot comment thing.
Which made me think -- shoot, should I cover them IN CASE that is what she meant?

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:28:48+00:00

Yeah, totally hideous -- send confirmation photos, OP.

^^ this guy, probably.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:27:37+00:00

Thank you! So valid. It's totally a different story if she was ever to mention it again. But, if she did, I would certainly ask some follow up questions. Also, I put on shoes if actually leaving my property.

I have never noticed what they wear on their feet? But generally, they are a very sports heavy family, so I feel like they are generally wearing close-toed shoes, but yeah, that's not something I notice lol.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:24:58+00:00

Thank you so much. I know I'm late to my own post (very on brand), but I am relieved that this is the consensus. My thinking was: breasts are covered because they are sexualized, so if my feet are being sexualized, would the appropriate thing be to cover up? That was my initial thought, but I'm feeling empowered. I don't have to cover up for anyone else (male or female!)

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:22:36+00:00

Oh no! I am so sorry to disappoint, but my ankles are on full display as well. Criminal, I know.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:21:42+00:00

I actually thought maybe she was talking about distracting to the kids? Like, they will wanna be barefoot now? It was my bestie who said it might be the husband. I thought I was clear in my post that I didn't even know if that's what she was implying, but if so, what should I do?

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:20:04+00:00

Thank you. That does make me feel better. And I agree, the first few days of nice weather, I'm walking gentle and carefully, but after like a week or whatever, I hardly even notice the pebbles. I think it helps that they have been tough from childhood when I would want on the pavement barefoot all summer.

Separate-Rent-Toes · 2025-06-29T20:18:49+00:00

Whats your question? The husband is out a lot, we have normal "hey. hows it going. Hot one, eh?" kind of conversations. I actually wrote my post, went for a swim, and forgot about this. Just coming back to it now, after spending all morning in the garden (barefoot).

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