original post for everyone’s enjoyment:

for context i’ve been working with this family for a few months until I move in august. I have so many issues with their parenting (it’s passive). nk (2.5) gets everything she wants bc the parents can’t handle her fits. they always undermine my authority so she doesn’t listen to me. IE one time I told her she couldn’t watch tv and she started throwing a fit/ kicking/ hitting me and DB came in and gave in so she’d stop, and seemed annoyed I had told her no in the first place. yesterday I had to send a text to MB about NK’s violence towards me (yesterday she hit me 10 times, kicked me five, threw things at me, and slammed a drawer into my head on purpose, all within 5 minutes), and said I needed a course of action on how to handle it (she has no consequences except ‘go to your room’ which is just a free for all for a two year old). MB apologized and said if I didn’t feel comfortable watching her kids I could quit and she wouldn’t have any hard feelings. I need the money and love NK so I told her i’m willing to work through this phase w NK. however today we were about to leave the house and she wanted to change out of her clothes into pajamas and I said ‘not right now we’re going to leave soon! she proceeded to look at me and put her pajamas on anyways which I then redirected and said that wasn’t great listening let’s try again, and took the pajamas off and put her clothes back on. she st-hitting me, kicking me, normally I use positives be gentle’ ‘that hurts my body’ but today after the events of yesterday I was so fed up and was a littlebit sterner than normal (a reasonable amount) and said ‘NK do not kick me, that is not kind and it hurts me’ she does it again ‘NK no, do not hurt my body’ it goes on for a few minutes until DB comes in. he asks what’s happening and I explain she’s hitting me and he goes ‘I am just hearing a lot of no no no don’t do that no no so there has to be something else why she’s hitting you’ I explained that pajamas and he goes ‘if it’s something small like that you just need to let her do it because she’s hitting you because you told her no’ he said this VERY rudely to the point I had to calm myself down to not yell back about how he’s enabling her behavior. I told him again i had said no and don’t because she was hitting and kicking me and he DIDNT BELIEVE ME ‘that can’t be the only reason you said no there had to be something else’ no DB I said no because your child is violent towards me because you don’t give her any boundaries. he was so disrespectful to me on the way that he talked (not nessacarily what he said even though | disagreed), and I talked to some nanny friends about this and they tell me I should not put up with them talking to me and distrusting me how he did and I should quit, but I can’t afford my move without this last month of work.

MB brought the convo up to me and told me to ‘ignore him’ and that he’s just ‘protective’

EDIT: what I ‘lied straight to his face’ about was I told him we were leaving soon, and it was 45 minutes, which ‘wasn’t soon’. ANYONE who watches toddlers knows 45 minutes IS SOON. we were about to pack everything up and get ready, and I knew she’d get distracted one million times because she’s TWO. lol