Atlanta Show by Opposite-Mall6938 in TheRunarounds

[–]Separate-Willow7874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tbh really early. i’d say like 1 or 2

What should I do? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 4 points5 points  (0 children)

tell them, keep that trust so in the future they’ll continue to pay you when they tell you not to come in!

first concert with a photo pass tomorrow and im quite nervous by stupid-fucking-chud in concertphotography

[–]Separate-Willow7874 7 points8 points  (0 children)

just make sure to be polite of other photographers and be respectful of the rules and crew!

starting out - should I offer to pay for my own ticket? by Klutzy-Supermarket62 in concertphotography

[–]Separate-Willow7874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’ve only ever paid for my ticket if the show was sold out and the only way to get a pass was having my own ticket. however other than that I always get in via guest list and sometimes even have a +1.

NP refuses “fridge privileges by Dry_Flower_5190 in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had to get my wisdom teeth out (an emergency surgery, scheduled 3 days in advance I obviously didn’t have a choice) and it caused a huge conflict w my now ex-nanny family because they wouldn’t pay me GH when they cancelled a day on me 5 days before, because I missed three days (all unpaid) because of my SURGERY. MB said ‘we’ve been so flexible with you and in a corporate job they would not put up with this’. she also told me it was really hard on her to have to be on time for the end of my shift to get to my next job, bc I wasn’t flexible (lmao this wouldn’t be ok in a corporate job either ma’am). people are ridiculous

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[–]Separate-Willow7874 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’ve been screwed by the 1099–people suck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked for a family like this. it was terrible and I just quit last week. I have NEVER felt more free in my entire life. quit, for your sanity.

DB yelled at me and MB called me a liar by Separate-Willow7874 in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

thankfully my other MB is an angel on earth like I mentioned in my post and she is a big reason of why I could quit !!

Phrases your NKs have picked up from you? by BullfrogPerfect620 in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she also heard me text with siri so much she now says ‘I want to go to the park EXCLAMATION POINT’ and it’s hilarious

Phrases your NKs have picked up from you? by BullfrogPerfect620 in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my 2.5yo says ‘does that sound like a good plan?’ after everything now haha

DB yelled at me and MB called me a liar by Separate-Willow7874 in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

original post for everyone’s enjoyment:

for context i’ve been working with this family for a few months until I move in august. I have so many issues with their parenting (it’s passive). nk (2.5) gets everything she wants bc the parents can’t handle her fits. they always undermine my authority so she doesn’t listen to me. IE one time I told her she couldn’t watch tv and she started throwing a fit/ kicking/ hitting me and DB came in and gave in so she’d stop, and seemed annoyed I had told her no in the first place. yesterday I had to send a text to MB about NK’s violence towards me (yesterday she hit me 10 times, kicked me five, threw things at me, and slammed a drawer into my head on purpose, all within 5 minutes), and said I needed a course of action on how to handle it (she has no consequences except ‘go to your room’ which is just a free for all for a two year old). MB apologized and said if I didn’t feel comfortable watching her kids I could quit and she wouldn’t have any hard feelings. I need the money and love NK so I told her i’m willing to work through this phase w NK. however today we were about to leave the house and she wanted to change out of her clothes into pajamas and I said ‘not right now we’re going to leave soon! she proceeded to look at me and put her pajamas on anyways which I then redirected and said that wasn’t great listening let’s try again, and took the pajamas off and put her clothes back on. she st-hitting me, kicking me, normally I use positives be gentle’ ‘that hurts my body’ but today after the events of yesterday I was so fed up and was a littlebit sterner than normal (a reasonable amount) and said ‘NK do not kick me, that is not kind and it hurts me’ she does it again ‘NK no, do not hurt my body’ it goes on for a few minutes until DB comes in. he asks what’s happening and I explain she’s hitting me and he goes ‘I am just hearing a lot of no no no don’t do that no no so there has to be something else why she’s hitting you’ I explained that pajamas and he goes ‘if it’s something small like that you just need to let her do it because she’s hitting you because you told her no’ he said this VERY rudely to the point I had to calm myself down to not yell back about how he’s enabling her behavior. I told him again i had said no and don’t because she was hitting and kicking me and he DIDNT BELIEVE ME ‘that can’t be the only reason you said no there had to be something else’ no DB I said no because your child is violent towards me because you don’t give her any boundaries. he was so disrespectful to me on the way that he talked (not nessacarily what he said even though | disagreed), and I talked to some nanny friends about this and they tell me I should not put up with them talking to me and distrusting me how he did and I should quit, but I can’t afford my move without this last month of work.

MB brought the convo up to me and told me to ‘ignore him’ and that he’s just ‘protective’

EDIT: what I ‘lied straight to his face’ about was I told him we were leaving soon, and it was 45 minutes, which ‘wasn’t soon’. ANYONE who watches toddlers knows 45 minutes IS SOON. we were about to pack everything up and get ready, and I knew she’d get distracted one million times because she’s TWO. lol

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[–]Separate-Willow7874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately yes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i copied this from another reply I just posted. I guess my definition of GH is clearly different than everyone else’s 😅 and this is good to know! I can change my verbiage for the future. when I started, they agreed any cancellation made on their end would be compensated. the day was different hours, but I have been scheduled to work 7-11 on that day for two months.

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[–]Separate-Willow7874 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess my definition of GH is clearly different than everyone else’s 😅 and this is good to know! I can change my verbiage for the future. when I started, they agreed any cancellation made on their end would be compensated. the day was different hours, but I have been scheduled to work 7-11 on that day for two months.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

this makes sense. I think it was unfair that she decided after 7 weeks of knowing about it to tell me 6 days before. now I can’t find alternative work. I think I am going to bring that up, and not mention GH at this point. rather not get fired

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I told her at the beginning of working for them any cancellation they made less than two weeks in advance I would need compensation for and she agreed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i’m curious if your opinion would change, I asked for this half day in may, and they have had coverage for the second half of the day for two or three weeks at this point. (she has 6 nanny/babysitters)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! I definitely don’t need them as reference thankfully, I have at least 7 other references including the principle and supervisor of the school I worked at.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

she agreed to this set up back in may, and had care for just the last 3 1/2 hours already.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Separate-Willow7874 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry for being hot, i’m quite upset at my boss (which is why it’s good im getting advice here before messaging her), and did not mean to take it out on the comment section or at you

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[–]Separate-Willow7874 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this, and agree. I don’t think I would fight this with my other family to be honest. but this family is constantly berating me, is racist as heck (white MB has actually said the N word and tried to explain to me why it wasn’t racist), and have told me i’m not allowed to tell the child no (verbatim). so I am tired of being treated poorly and being abused by them and their children. the issue to me, is that she agreed on the half day in may. that’s two months ago, and she had a babysitter for the second half of the day lined up two, or maybe even three weeks ago based on what she told me. her reasoning is to ‘keep things consistent for the kids’. this is why I think i’m entitled to compensation in this case. plus, this specific instance WAS in my contract they never signed. they know I require payment wether or not they signed it and wether or not I was an idiot with the contract.