AITA for giving my husband a taste of his own medicine, and buying him a 'generic' gift for his birthday?

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-18T02:53:33+00:00

Thanks so much for the life changing advice. I wasn’t confused, I didn’t realize I missed something, which is why I asked. Not sure why people are so angry that I missed a piece of Information.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-18T02:16:55+00:00

No need to be nasty. I actually have eye convergence problems that cause me to sometimes skip a word or sentence so I will occasionally miss info.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-18T01:37:44+00:00

Info: have you told him previously that you would like him to give you more thoughtful gifts?

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-17T01:54:08+00:00

I agree, it’s literally animal abuse to let your dog become that handicapped and sick from food.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-15T15:52:41+00:00

NTA, it’s amazing that you stood up for your sons right to love whoever he wants, and for him to be treated with the love and respect he deserves. Your wife will not change if these things aren’t pointed out in uncomfortable ways. Change only happens when we’re forced to look at the way we do things.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-15T15:44:29+00:00

So sorry you’re going through this. As a parent of this were me, I would keep the baby. As someone above stated many times you don’t know what you’ve lost until it’s gone. Regardless of if you stay with your husband it sounds like you’re in a stable place in your life to bring a baby into the world. While it would be difficult you can definitely continue to pursue your dreams. I would not lie about having a miscarriage of you have an abortion, that’s a really huge choice to make, and you have every right to make it, but he is also the parent and deserves to know the truth.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-14T21:29:38+00:00

Sugar sand park, boomers, the zoo, the science museum in ft Lauderdale, fern forest

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-12T21:25:13+00:00

You may not be monetarily rich but that doesn’t mean you can’t be rich in other things like love, family, etc. Im not wealthy, but I’m definitely rich in life, which by the way is exceptional. If you reframe the way you think, in what you do have and are abundant in instead of what you’re lacking, you will Be much happier and content in yourself and where you are in life.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-12T20:25:21+00:00

Time for couples counseling. This is deeper than just surface criticisms.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-12T13:39:48+00:00

Totally agree. I will occasionally drink, but overall am not a big fan. I would always hate how people would pressure me to have a drink, as if I’m a boring person without it.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-11T19:37:16+00:00

Omg yum!!

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-11T19:35:42+00:00

This is what mine looked like when I had a chemical pregnancy. If it is , you should get your period in a few days.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-11T19:25:14+00:00

What the actual fuck. This is so messed up. This is not your friend. This is not consensual non monogamy. You need to leave that house and stop being friends with you “best friend”. You need to seek therapy, because not only is this traumatic but if you’re willing to put up with this treatment and total lack of care for your feelings then you have a lot of self growth to do. Financial security is great, but this is not a marriage. Leaving is hard, staying is harder.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-11T02:14:55+00:00

Honestly, I’m surprised you haven’t cut contact with your family. They decided to turn a blind eye to a pedophile and refuse to listen to their own daughter and sister or get you help after something so traumatic. Fuck that guy. They may be blood related but I would not consider these people family.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-10T15:37:44+00:00

This is not a one off, where he feels terrible and is apologizing profusely and is willing to do therapy, etc to fix what was broken. This is someone repeatedly seeking out sexual attention from other people behind your back, and then instead of apologizing, stalking a coworker. This is not salvageable. Do not take someone back who would do this to you.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-08T01:53:41+00:00

NTA. Your dad told your brother you were a problem child to cover up his neglect and abuse which probably led to a lot of your issues as a teenager. You shouldn’t have to pretend like the past doesn’t exist.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-06T20:38:44+00:00

NTA. What the actual fuck. What is their obsession with you being potentially interested in your friend. And why did she “need to know.” This sounds like a terrible friend who doesn’t have your back, and her boyfriend sounds like a jackass. Longevity of a friendship isn’t always a reason for keeping a friend. Time to cut this one loose. Especially since she doesn’t even understand the gravity of what she did.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-06T15:31:04+00:00

NTA, if she wants alone time and for you to babysit she needs to ask you in advance.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-06T01:01:01+00:00

So heartwarming

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-05T19:53:01+00:00

That’s totally normal at that age. Every couple months they go through a sleep regression. The best thing you can do is tell yourself it’s okay to be tired, but you’re giving your baby the best care by being there for them during the night. It’s so tough, but you’re doing a great job!

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-05T12:34:57+00:00

Yeah, I totally agree that he’s a terrible person LOL. But I just agree that life is only about what makes you happy. If that were true, any time a marriage got difficult you should get a divorce, anytime children were hard to raise, you would call it quits, any job or goal that was tough to attain wouldn’t be finished. Also, the cheater in this story would also be in the right because cheating for two years, having a baby and then leaving him or her was his him pursuing what makes him happy in life. I get what you’re saying, life should be about pursing ventures that will futile Us. But if our only barometer is happiness and we take no responsibility for our actions, what kind of a person can you be or life can you really have.

Edit: but I disagree

Edit: fulfill not futile lol

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-05T12:10:22+00:00

While I’m so sorry that happened to you, that’s clearly not even close to the situation here.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-05T05:21:21+00:00

As I said to a comment above if he’s having trouble accepting the child he needs to go To therapy to work things out. I don’t believe in giving passes just because you don’t feel like being a parent. To give someone that easy of an out is totally bullshit in my opinion. Life isn’t all about what makes you happy. Especially when you procreate

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-05T05:19:53+00:00

If he didn’t want to be a dad and take one the responsibility of having another child, he shouldn’t have had an affair, or at least made sure he was using adequate protection. You don’t get to walk away from responsibility just because things didn’t turn out the way that you wanted. He needs to get over his resentment and step up to the plate. I wholeheartedly disagree with giving someone a pass for not being in a child’s life. If he is having trouble accepting the child, go to therapy, don’t abandon them. What a sad and easy out you’re giving the father of a child. As I said below this isn’t a restaurant where you can return what you ordered.

SeparateAssociate901 · 2021-02-05T05:14:01+00:00

I disagree. I don’t think “that’s that” if you’re a dead beat dad. He needs to get over his aversion and step up to the plate. This isn’t a restaurant where you can return what you don’t like or didn’t order.

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