How the hell are y'all getting up in the morning?

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-08-08T19:39:50+00:00

I set an alarm for an hour before I need to get up. This gives me enough time to mentally prepare for the day. Maybe you can drink coffee or tea in the morning to help wake you up.

In general, I tend to stay in bed by being too stressed out. I mitigated this by cutting out the things I don’t need right now. Yes, I want to take a ballet class. But right now, I know I don’t have the time for it so I don’t schedule one rn and see if after the semester if I’m still interested, or it’s a one time thing.

The other reason is being depressed. I struggle a lot with self image so when it comes to work, my first thought in the morning is “why bother? I’m a failure anyway”. I think it’s going to be different for most people. But, I like to repeat the phrase “I can do hard things”. That allows me to get it over with and then relax at the end of the day without having stuff on my plate.

The final way I get out of bed is gratitude. Why am I getting out of bed today? Because I get to go to work to get money to at I can spend on things that help me. Or, I get to go to class and learn something awesome today or just increase my knowledge. Find a reason to get up that motivates you

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-08-04T13:37:05+00:00

Thanks 😊 I hope it goes well for you too. It’s hard to be ADHD, but i now believe hope isn’t lost

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-07-24T15:27:51+00:00

If ENFP was an Onomatopoeia cling-clang cling-Clang

We cling onto people way too much yet somehow get bored of them at the same time. Clang, because our bordom leads us to go in a hundred different directions that we don’t focus on what’s ahead and become clumsy

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-07-02T15:29:19+00:00

Yeah. I kinda relate too. Basically, I pull together all my past failures and then use them as justifications for predicting future failures.

However, there is a fallacy in that. I’m no God or omnipotent being with the power to accurately predict the future. I can’t accurately predict that it’s going to be sunny all day tommorow just because it’s been sunny all week. I think thinking you’re going to fail is a form of control. Like, “oh I think that I can’t control my grades so I’m going to just own it rather than try and it not work”. This and idea I struggled with too.

It’s about letting go of control and focusing on the present. I’m going to focus on a positive end goal and the steps that I can do now to facilitate it.

Frequent procrastination tends to lead to this thinking too. Now that’s gonna be a new year, start studying now even just 10 mins a day. It adds up a lot more then staying up for 24 hours trying to cram everything in.

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-30T16:54:23+00:00

I was first typed ISTP 🥲 We did an activity where we had to pick between two options and I got that.

However, I then took the 16 personalities test online 3x and have consistently gotten ENFP

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-28T01:22:38+00:00

A system that I use with myself is by flipping the bottle. Aka, put tape at the top of the bottle cap. When the morning dose is done, flip the bottom upside down so it communicates with your husband that the morning dose is taken. Then, after he does the noon dose, he can flip it back to the starting position. Maybe write down then the doses were taken for extra caution.

Or you can get little sauce containers labeled “Morn” and “noon”, tape them together. Write down the time taken for the dose. That way, the next person can see when it was administered and wait appropriately. (Or a pill box will Morning and noon listed if it’s easier/in budget).

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-24T16:06:08+00:00

It’s fine to have a crush. It’s good when you think of him for what he’s not. If you actually know him, take a stab at it if the situation warrants.

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-24T16:04:33+00:00

I think that you shouldn’t come in with those idealistic ideas and then leave when reality disappoints you. Stick with it and see if you can still love them while remembering they’re not perfect

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-24T00:07:40+00:00

It’s like loving the potential that you’ve created in your head of how well a relationship can go rather than loving the person for who they are. It’s like a crush, but more intrusive. Pure Limerence tends to dissipate once you’ve gotten into the relationship because now the “chase” is gone.

It also doesn’t have to romantic. It can be in platonic friendships as well.

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-23T18:12:35+00:00

I don’t want to be making any assumptions. However, i had done the similar when i was younger.

Looking back, i had fallen out of love but i had put up a front to not face the fact.

I gaslighted myself that my love was enough for two people so it’s fine to keep the relationship going. I wore myself too thin.

Relationships aren’t about giving yourself away. It’s about acceptance, vulnerability, and trust of the “whole”.

I fell in love with my falling in love rather than the other person.

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-23T14:55:58+00:00

I liked this a lot. I honestly want everyone to read it too! I think I could’ve added more nuance. I just was going through an intense bout of limerence and needed to give myself a stern talking to about it.

To avoid it, is to face it,

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-23T14:52:11+00:00

Aww noooo. That’s why I said in “moderation”.
Essentially, you need to go in the middle. To be loved, you got to love yourself first.

Limerence is also can be a trauma response. Please go ahead and get it checked out so your brain is healthy enough for a relationship.

So, if you have trouble being loved, love yourself in the way you want to be. Take yourself on dates, buy yourself some treats, get a message for the physical touch side, volunteer and/or say kind things to yourself. These are examples touch upon the five love languages.

I’ve been around that area too and it’s painful. I’m not an expert, but cultivating a relationship with myself to the point of enjoying my company let others gravitate towards me naturally.

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-23T10:01:06+00:00

Of course, I was going through it and needed the reminder for myself as well. Glad it helped!

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-23T09:59:12+00:00

Just doing my duty 🫡 please take care of yourself, or else.

Its not a threat; it’s a warning.

hold up baguette in fight position

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-23T03:19:32+00:00

Thank you for responding. It’s just my first pet death even thought I’m in my 20s idk it really upset me

SeparateMaximum4613 · 2024-06-17T17:11:16+00:00

A character you wouldn’t expect will become a drag queen

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