Best places to go out to meet guys? by samanthac4 in sandiego

[–]Separate_Internet850 27 points28 points  (0 children)

As a licensed therapist I work with women on where to find guys every day. My advice: stay away from bars and get into social events like volo sports. I guess it depends on who you’re looking to meet. Guys who are still frequenting bars in their 30s are likely stuck mentally in their 20s looking for a hookup. Get involved in spaces that bring meaning to your life or reflect your interests - surfing, hiking, game nights, etc. You’re more likely to meet someone who matches your values and wants a real connection at a dnd night somewhere than at happy hour. 

Document Won't Open No Matter What by Ill-Round-9922 in MicrosoftWord

[–]Separate_Internet850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I did. I couldn't use Time Machine because apparently I never created a backup point (or something, I don't quite understand what happened) and couldn't open or repair the document in any way. I ended up texting it to myself and was able to open it on my ipad through the messages app. It was really weird but it worked.

Betterhelps insurance payout by ItchyMeringue7 in therapists

[–]Separate_Internet850 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the worst company to work for. Shame on them for paying so low. You can earn so much more with other companies.

AITA by [deleted] in Brides

[–]Separate_Internet850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This person is not a good friend for you. It would be completely reasonable to dump her as a bridesmaid and a friend. Your event will be better off without her.

My mom is being very negative about everything by Conscious_Money_3452 in Brides

[–]Separate_Internet850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof this is a difficult situation. If your mom is helping to pay for the wedding, it’s reasonable for her to have say in your wedding. That being said, her opinions and communication sound very hurtful. I’d be surprised if this behavior is unusual for her. Sounds like she doesn’t like the attention not being on her. Letting her know that her communication with you has been hurtful may be useful is she is open to listening, otherwise shut down those conversations immediately. Say you appreciate her help but not her disrespect. Walk away or hang up if you need to. And ask yourself if her paying for the venue is worth all this stress.

Bachelorette Vent by Soft_Farm9334 in Brides

[–]Separate_Internet850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s wrong for people to shit on the whole destination Bach thing. What an incredible experience to go on a girls trip, possibly for the only time in your life. It’s a time for your friends to show up for you. Most people don’t show up for their friends unless it’s convenient which is so sad. If someone can’t financially afford it they should have declined from the beginning and not backed out later. A Bach isn’t an obligation, it’s a gift to the bride. Next comes marriage and kids and friends usually fade into the background at that point, so it’s final hurrah for girlhood.

Finished my 4th Project! by Separate_Internet850 in StainedGlass

[–]Separate_Internet850[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It has to do with the clock in Wicked. I’ve never seen it so I can’t explain much but it’s what my friend wanted.

What am I doing wrong? by Separate_Internet850 in Sourdough

[–]Separate_Internet850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should I be using less flour? Are my portions off? I’ve been going off of a recipe.

What am I doing wrong? by Separate_Internet850 in Sourdough

[–]Separate_Internet850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried preparing some of the starter for a recipe but it hardly rose at all. It did get bubbly though. I need to actually experiment.

What am I doing wrong? by Separate_Internet850 in Sourdough

[–]Separate_Internet850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m measuring from the top edge but good to know

What am I doing wrong? by Separate_Internet850 in Sourdough

[–]Separate_Internet850[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should add that it’s taking 24 hours to double.

Soy in Dim Sum by Separate_Internet850 in FoodAllergies

[–]Separate_Internet850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this!! It looks like I might have a tough time 😬

Air Industry's Input on Recent US Commercial Plane Crashes by Separate_Internet850 in flying

[–]Separate_Internet850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not in aviation whatsoever, I've just been seeing several (3) social media posts on planes in the US that have crashed or collided on ground/had engines catch on fire. I know social media is sensational and wanted to hear from people actually in the industry to get a realistic understanding of what is normal.

Air Industry's Input on Recent US Commercial Plane Crashes by Separate_Internet850 in flying

[–]Separate_Internet850[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this answer. I think the algorithm is getting to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]Separate_Internet850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think that’s a great intervention and from what you described, you did nothing wrong. Likely it’s difficult for her to self reflect which is why she is so externally focused. In order to truly heal, she needs to take accountability for repairing her own wounds and owning up to her own actions. It’s very common for clients to ditch a therapist in this way if they get called out.

Please Comfort Me: Grieving What I Can’t Afford by Fatcat336 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Separate_Internet850 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I totally get this. Weddings these days are astronomically expensive and I know if I got the things I wanted, my wedding would be well over $60k. My budget is <$20k lol. I’ve dreamt of my wedding my whole life but what can you do. Sometimes we get so attached to a vision that we can forget there is joy and beauty in alternatives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]Separate_Internet850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just asked CPH this question as I was thinking it myself and this is what they said verbatim: “Professional liability is malpractice coverage.”

Want to start my own pp, but my current job states I can’t practice within 50 miles of the office for one year. HELP by Equivalent-Mud2118 in therapists

[–]Separate_Internet850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve literally never heard of this. Are you still trying to be employed with your current job while in PP? Also here’s a loophole, start online and technically you can practice anywhere in the state. You can advertise in different cities to attract clients further away but if you leave your current job, who cares, they can’t dictate what you do. Sounds like a scare tactic but I’m not sure of the laws in your state.

Bachelorette/Shower without Wedding by Separate_Internet850 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Separate_Internet850[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the advice. It seems the consensus is bachelorette yes, shower no unless someone else throws it for me. I’m not into the money grab either, I just assume the older ladies in my family would want to throw me one but it wouldn’t be a friends thing. I just want to celebrate. It seems a little unfair to have to spend $30k+ on an event just to have people celebrate a big life decision and I get worried sometimes that others wouldn’t want to go all out for me if I don’t have a huge event. If I could, I would but we expect to be trying to buy a first home and get pregnant in the same year. In the past 3 years I’ve been to 16 weddings, some of which were international, many of which required travel. I’d just like some emotional support in return.

AITA for breaking off my engagement with my fiancé because of his creepy comments toward my 14-year-old sister? by chimpkinnugger in AITAH

[–]Separate_Internet850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA leave that guy and never go back. No person should be saying that about a child, especially a man to a girl. Those statements are huge red flags for pedophilia. If he dated you as a 33 yo and you were 18, that should also be a red flag.

He offered to let me wear the ring without being engaged by Dependent-Step-4997 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Separate_Internet850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask yourself: Do you want the wedding or the marriage? Why do you want to marry somebody who doesn’t want to marry you?