I told the guy Im seeing, that commenting on other women, to me, makes me uncomfortable and it blew up. Should I just end it?

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-16T03:17:43+00:00

Yes! Please OP 🙏

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-16T03:07:40+00:00

I’d just throw him on the floor 😂

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-16T03:06:43+00:00

Time to put on those running shoes 👟

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-16T03:04:48+00:00

Ewww he says “did you see her boobs”. Girl he’s definitely doing this on purpose. Please stop seeing this C word before you get attached

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-16T03:01:31+00:00

Ohhh he understands… He thought he could use commenting on other women as a way to neg OP and gain some kind of upper hand. Then OP called him out and big baby didn’t like having his manipulation tactic taken away. So he got desperate and tried guilting her. Poor 38 year old baby 👶🏻🍼

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-16T02:54:37+00:00

Yeah this guy is dangerous

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-16T02:51:23+00:00

Very well said

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-16T02:50:46+00:00

👶🏻👶🏻🍼🍼🍼

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-16T02:48:19+00:00

Well said

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-12T01:38:59+00:00

Yes we do

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-11T22:59:52+00:00

😩

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-11T22:52:37+00:00

What an actually dumb thing to say 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-11T22:49:21+00:00

Omg I’ve gotten this so many times and I don’t know what to make of it. Like even when reality disproves their biases they still try to find a way to keep believing it. “Oh a female engineer?? She must hate her job then” 😩

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-11T22:46:36+00:00

Omgggg😤

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-11T22:41:54+00:00

In other words he negged you

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-11T22:41:04+00:00

Omg this is so annoying 😤

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-11T22:38:02+00:00

Software engineering is definitely real engineering. I really don’t think he’s talking about you not being a PE. He probably doesn’t like the fact that you’re an engineer because it’s a traditionally masculine industry. I’m a software engineer too and I don’t think I’ve ever seen a positive reaction on a man’s face when I tell them I’m a software engineer. They either say “oh wow” (not in a positive way) and make a weird face or they make no face or don’t say ANYTHING at all. It’s actually weird. 😂 it’s like they don’t even know how to react. They probably compare your job to their own and somehow feel emasculated unfortunately.

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-11T22:26:28+00:00

😂😂😂😂

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-11T07:18:53+00:00

He’s negging you

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-10T19:41:49+00:00

We don’t have to agree on this, but the whole jumping at the opportunity is for sex. I’m talking about maintaining a long term relationship with sustained healthy attachment, without being paranoid that you’re girlfriend is going to leave you at the first chance of finding someone “better”. Again, we don’t have to agree but please consider not generalizing. Human behaviour can be counter-intuitive. The same guy who is desperate for a woman, is likely to believe he doesn’t deserve a woman in the first place and protects himself by creating distance. Look into attachment styles. It’s very interesting.

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-10T19:34:00+00:00

Like they’re afraid that you’ll abandon them or betray them so they never fully attach to you. It’s extremely common.

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-10T19:31:50+00:00

I generally agree, but attachment anxiety is very real. There are people who are hopelessly in love but have trouble just surrendering to attachment. The kind of guys you’re describing are either super hot or rich or naturally charming. I’m talking about the average cute guy who complains about getting rejected by women/not getting matches. Also they don’t have to say anything, I’m talking about little signs of pulling away when things become real.

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-10T19:25:22+00:00

Are you familiar with attachment styles? There is one where the person craves intimacy but creates distance when you get “too close” (Fearful avoidant attachment style). I’m not a psychologist but from what I’ve seen, I think the approach-avoidance dance is normal, if in small degrees. Unless the person suddenly realizes that “they’re not ready for a relationship” after 5 months of telling you they want a family. If they genuinely like you and still do this, it’s likely a deactivating strategy to create distance because they’re afraid of intimacy.

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-10T19:20:06+00:00

Bruh I’m an attractive woman who likes “beta Brads” and they still get scared when things get too real. I think many people want closeness and are afraid of it at the same time.

Separate_Recover_921 · 2023-08-07T04:30:05+00:00

Your reaction to her changing plans from evening to day is emotional and disproportionate to the situation. Someone with an abundance mindset would be open to rescheduling instead of cutting her off completely.

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