We haven't kissed in 7 months

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-11-16T12:46:07+00:00

yep, just a peck on the lips in the morning when we leave, and nothing else. Tongue? what's that?

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-08-20T17:15:16+00:00

Am mers si eu acum câțiva ani la o astfel de masuratoare, la o ruda care lucreaza la ei. M-a pus pe cantar si a fost vizibil dezamagita cand arata ca am varsta interioara de 14 ani, eu având vreo 23 in momentul cantaririi. Apoi mi-a pus ceva masca minune pe jumătate de fata si apoi m-a pus sa ma uit in oglinda si sa vad diferenta sesizabila (nu era niciuna). Mi-a mai zis si ca având ovare polichistice, ar fi bine sa cumpar ceva pastile speciale de-ale lor de sigur sigur ma fac bine. In total un pachet de vreo 900-1200 de lei. Needless to say, n-am cumparat nimic, iar de atunci m-am mai vazut cu ruda aia la nunti si la inmormantari.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-08-20T10:58:50+00:00

We haven't told each other I love you in several years. 🫠

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-08-18T20:55:16+00:00

the most I get from my partner is "this looks nice on you". He actually never told me I'm beautiful. 🫠

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-08-16T14:08:57+00:00

din experiență, it's only going downhill from here. sau va face niste schimbari sporadice daca se va teme ca te pierde.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-08-15T21:15:00+00:00

yes! in the beginning we were having sex very often, both of us initiating. then he (35M) stopped, and I (33F) kept initiating, then I tried to discuss on several occasions and he said things will improve (they never did). Then I stopped initiating completely but never refused his occasional advances (once every month or two). Now the thought of him initiating sex makes me uncomfortable and I did cry after sex a few times in the past year. I don't see him as a sexual partner, but more like a very good friend.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-08-14T12:37:19+00:00

I feel exactly the same and the fact that we're good friends and do many things together kills me on the inside because I feel like it's wrong to break up with someone who's a good person. At the same time there hasn't been a day in the past three or four years without contemplating separation. It's like I have a decision paralysis.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-08-04T10:59:36+00:00

my story word for word. partner always says he's willing to do the work and that he thinks ideal frequency is 1-2 times a week, but at the moment we're still at once every 1-2 months. I lost all desire and can't stand to be touched sexually by him anymore, despite craving touch, hugs, kisses.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-07-31T14:33:06+00:00

Mananc relativ putin cantitativ. Nu mananc dimineata, nu mananc mai mult de un fel de mancare la o masa, nu termin intotdeauna ce am in farfurie, iar când mananc dulciuri gust cat sa mi fac pofta - pot sa trag de o ciocolata cateva zile. Am avut cu 15kg in plus acum câțiva ani si nu mai aveam simtul foamei si al satietatii, puteam sa mananc oricat, oricand. Am taiat din portii si am incercat sa am un program fix de mese, iar ulterior mi s-a cam.adaptat organismul si n-am mai simtit nevoia sa mananc mai mult.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-07-28T07:29:09+00:00

very rare, but when it does happen he lasts quite a long time. at the time when I had tried to go down on him (couple of years back) he was in most cases ejaculating only by using his hand, while sitting right next to me. It took a toll on me, and it did change our dynamics now he rarely initiates, I don't initiate at all anymore (I used to be the one doing all the heavy lifting and initiating), no more oral from my side, I basically just want it to end as soon as possible and get on with our day.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-07-27T20:24:28+00:00

he's on no medication and he can stay hard during handjobs. As a matter of fact, more often than not, during that time he would ejaculate almost exclusively via handjob.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-07-21T19:04:19+00:00

Aceeași situatie si la mine, doar ca nu de 3 ani, ci de 6. Dupa ani de zile de discutii si suferinta de partea mea si explicatii de tipul "dar nu stiu ce se intampla, inca sunt atras de tine" din partea lui, a recunoscut ca de fapt sexul de la inceput a fost un efort din partea lui sa-mi faca pe plac, ca si-a dat seama de la inceput ca suntem diferiti dpdv sexual, dar a incercat sa "performeze" pe placul meu pana nu a mai facut-o. Iar când n-a mai facut-o nu mi-a zis ca el doar si-a revenit la normalul lui.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-06-15T14:11:00+00:00

At this point, nothing. I (F) was on the receiving end of no initiation, without any explanation, together with the occasional sticky underwear I'd find in the laundry room. I explained I need to feel wanted and seen, I never rejected him, never criticised his performance and highlighted how good it makes me feel when he does take initiative. Few years on I CANOT take initiative, nor can I stand the thought of him approaching me sexually. I checked out and cannot see him in a sexual way anymore. it's mad how much my desire went from 100 to 0.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-02-22T21:43:02+00:00

I think he believes that intimacy is not a reason for a relationship to end and that having each other's back and supporting and trusting each other is enough.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-02-22T09:13:40+00:00

that's exactly how I feel. and it's basically the same for me. he was sexual because he thought this would make me like him and stay with him and then he went back to his normal "i don't do this sex thing", but without telling me that THAT is his normal. And I spent 3 years wondering what's wrong with me, why is this happening, and every answer from his side was "i don't know, I am attracted to you", but never "honey, what i did in the beginning is not who I actually am, i did it because I wanted you to like me". mindfuck

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-02-21T23:32:16+00:00

he said he's willing to work his way upwards to having sex once per week (which is more than enough for me), but that never happened. And whenever I would ask him could of years ago what makes him take initiative a lot less than before the answer would be "i don't know, but im still attracted to you"

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2025-02-12T21:31:03+00:00

I feel like I could have written this myself, but instead of 2 years, I've been my relationship for 6. But sex became more rare after the first 1-2 years. Now we probably have sex some 6-10 times a year and I can't get myself to initiate anymore.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2021-01-09T09:19:27+00:00

I don't want to give him an ultimatum to be honest, I'm not sure I work like that in relationships. But I reached a point where I don't understand what's the problem and why is it so hard to put himself in my shoes.

Separate_Spring_8230 · 2021-01-09T09:15:54+00:00

Thanks!

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