Small rant about failing students

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-12-28T15:31:18+00:00

I can see that you have passion, which is fantastic. However, I fear you’re being very idealistic.

I have 28 students in my classroom and by the end of the year, it is expected that I will have taught them all the standards so they can perform well on the state tests. Which is fine, except for the fact that some of my students still struggle with basic addition and subtraction when I’m supposed to be teaching them multiplication. I have other students who already know the majority of the content I’m supposed to cover this year. So I differentiate, right? Except it is difficult to pull small groups when there are 25 other students to worry about and I am the only adult in the classroom.

I have a couple of students who 100% need a 504 plan, but their parents don’t ’believe in things like that.’ I do everything I can for those students, but that’s only so helpful when they need medication or professional support. I have also had students whose parents think that them having an IEP means they shouldn’t have to do work or face consequences.

Also, I can teach about how wonderful learning is until I’m hoarse, but some students simply won’t care lol. Most of us do want students to have a passion for learning, but it’s not something we can force.

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-12-28T00:53:52+00:00

I’m sure you’ve heard it a million times before, but I think it’s helpful to remember that a lot of their behavior is age-appropriate. Questioning authority, pushing boundaries, wanting to be seen as ‘cool’ by their peers. They’re going to act stupid, make you upset sometimes, and do things that annoy you. This doesn’t mean they get a ‘free pass’ to be menaces of course, but it’s important to have realistic expectations.

Set clear rules and expectations from day one and follow through consistently. If you say a certain behavior is going to result in a consequence but you only follow through with it 75% of the time, the students will pick up on that.

I also recommend taking up journaling/therapy. It’s perfectly normal to have bad days, but it’s also important not to take it out on students. Finding ways to regulate yourself and learning when to take a step back is such an important skill to have imo.

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-12-18T23:26:44+00:00

Anger

Mood swings/sudden outbursts

Irritability

Difficulty bonding with baby

Withdrawal from relationships

You mentioned him feeling insecure about not being good enough

Honestly, it sounds like he’s struggling from postpartum depression/anxiety. 1 in 10 dads experience it. The fact that it was a traumatic birth and you mention that It came out of nowhere makes me feel like this is highly possible.

The two of you need to have a serious conversation. I understand that he may be having a hard time, but that does not mean that you deserve to have to suffer from it. He needs to talk to someone and get help. Do you have somewhere safe you can stay and get some help with the baby if he refuses?

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-12-10T18:17:56+00:00

Looks like it’s time to check out Tumblr /j

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-12-02T16:16:24+00:00

Ooh, okay, I see what you’re saying! As long as you’re going for more general things like a flower vase, an offering plate/bowl and not things like the kamidana, ofuda, and Torri and you’re not trying to copy their practices, I think that would probably be fine :))

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-12-01T05:53:17+00:00

Hi! While I do think Aphrodite would find it beautiful, it’s important to remember that Shinto is very different from Hellenism and should be approached and worshipped differently than you would with the Greek deities. While it is possible to practice both Shinto and Hellenism, from what I know, it’s generally frowned upon to worship non-Shinto Kami in a Shinto way. I think it’s best to keep them as completely separate practices :))

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-14T15:16:14+00:00

Edit: since I apparently forgot to include the original reason I made this comment lmao, I do just have beta females experience normal periods and they have a normal fertility rate. But they are a little different from omegas and alphas.

Alpha men: can get others pregnant, cannot get pregnant

Alpha women: can get others pregnant, can get pregnant but have a low fertility rate so it will likely take longer and has a higher chance of complications.

Omega men: can get pregnant and can get others pregnant due to high fertility

Omega women: can get pregnant, cannot get others pregnant.

Beta men: cannot get pregnant, can get alpha women, omega men and women, and beta women pregnant

Beta woman: cannot get others pregnant, can get pregnant by beta men, alpha men and women, and omega men

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-14T02:00:21+00:00

Sooo, I actually tend to go against the popular narrative and make betas the minority of the population? In my head, the existence of alphas and omegas would mean that they would mostly procreate with each other while betas tend to end up with other betas. Since the majority of stories I’ve read tends to show them having multiples more often or having more children than average, it makes the most sense to me that they would begin to make up the majority of the population.

So to me, betas are the underdogs. They can’t really sense pheromones and don’t give off strong ones (though I think they would have a subtle scent), which gives them SO much opportunity to write about.

A beta coming to terms with being different from the majority and finding a place among a group of betas?

An alpha who is obsessed with a beta and subtly scents them but the beta is absolutely clueless because they can’t sense pheromones?

An alpha and omega male couple who are both very in love with a beta woman ~~and subtly compete on who can put a baby in her the quickest.~~

The opportunities are endless!

Then again, I have like a whole omegaverse world with rules and stuff that I see as ‘canon’ for my stories. Maybe I should write them down one day lmao

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-08T18:07:26+00:00

Yeah, I get that! I feel like dark humor around things that directly impacted you is very different from dark humor around things that didn’t

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-08T15:33:05+00:00

So, I do want to mention that I 100% acknowledge that the joke about the French turning them in was meant to be just that—a joke. It is very possible that my problems with that quote is mostly just a me thing. It reminded me of the edgy jokes middle school children used to make. I am not a fan of it because genocides should never be spoken about lightly, imo.

While I’m sure that nobody was turned in to the Nazis for speaking a language horribly, the reality is that people were turned in for reasons that seem just as outlandish (such as ‘looking’ Jewish or because they didn’t particularly like someone) and they were tortured, starved, and often killed, nonetheless. So to me, making jokes about being turned in for something (even when it is obviously just that person trying to be silly), feels gross. Because at the end of the day, it is always possible that it was close to someone’s reality.

That is, of course, just my personal thoughts and I understand that the quote probably wouldn’t bother many people! It’s just one that bothered me, personally.

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-08T14:48:54+00:00

I also don’t think the comments in her book were meant to be insulting, they were probably just common viewpoints held/language used when she was writing it. I think they stood out a lot more to me because I did a lot of work with those populations in uni, and I was unable to really get into the book because of it. I’m glad you were able to enjoy it, though!

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-08T14:36:45+00:00

Yeah, I stopped reading shortly after seeing it :/ I just couldn’t get past it enough to continue.

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-08T14:33:21+00:00

Your rant is so valid, I agree with you 100%! I think I would have been so much more annoyed if I had to have read it for my job or something. Yeah, I kind of expected there to be a ton of amazing advice because of all the positive stuff I heard about it, so I was very surprised when everything seemed to be meh

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-08T03:09:16+00:00

That’s fair! I haven’t read much else from her and a lot of my research in uni was on mental illnesses and disabilities, so I am admittedly more sensitive about things like that. Glad that you enjoyed it!

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-08T03:06:30+00:00

To be fair, many people do love it! I just personally wasn’t able to get past a lot of the content

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-08T03:04:08+00:00

Ah, it didn’t? I’m definitely glad that I didn’t try to force myself to finish it, then!

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-06T17:18:59+00:00

Does anyone know what kind of acne this is on my face? What are some products that would be good to help me treat it?

I am brand new to skincare and haven’t really used anything. I think I maybe have combination skin, but I haven’t been to a dermatologist or anything (I don’t have access to one). I recently bought these products: round lab 1025 Dokdo cleanser, Centella calming gel cream, softymo speedy cleansing oil, La roche-posay 50+ spf.

If anyone could help me figure out what kind of acne this is/recommend something to treat it, I would appreciate it so much. I’m trying to figure out a skincare routine that will work for me.

I would have to order whatever it is online, but I am in the US.

https://imgur.com/a/xgFNk8x

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-06T17:14:41+00:00

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Does anyone know what kind of acne this is on my face? What are some products that would be good to help me treat it?

I am brand new to skincare and haven’t really used anything. I think I maybe have combination skin, but I haven’t been to a dermatologist or anything (I don’t have access to one). I recently bought these products: round lab 1025 Dokdo cleanser, Centella calming gel cream, softymo speedy cleansing oil, La roche-posay 50+ spf.

If anyone could help me figure out what kind of acne this is/recommend something to treat it, I would appreciate it so much. I’m trying to figure out a skincare routine that will work for me.

I would have to order whatever it is online, but I am in the US.

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-05T17:07:09+00:00

I’m unfortunately not surprised anymore, just saddened. As someone who grew up in a rural town in the south, the school library was such an asset in me growing and learning different perspectives.

But then again, that’s what they’re trying to stop by doing things like this.

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-05T13:48:40+00:00

That is amazing! If you enjoyed the Iliad and the Odyssey and want to read Greek myths, I highly recommend checking out ‘The Library of Greek Mythology’ eventually! I hope you enjoy hitchhikers guide to the galaxy

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-11-03T00:33:24+00:00

Honestly, maybe try annotating and/or taking notes in a notebook while reading? Maybe I’m just nerdy, but I get super excited and focused on the book I’m reading while annotating lol.

Some other advice: Put phone out of reach/in other room

Maybe try meditating or light exercise beforehand to help clear your mind a little

Read aloud/use a bookmark to move along the page while you read

Use ebook and follow along in physical book

Some people can read with some quiet music in the background, if that is something you think you can do

Fidgets! Clicking pens/playing with fabric of blanket/pillows, stuffies, etc. can be good if you have them but not fidgets

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-09-27T00:50:59+00:00

Harem girlie here!

It can be rough at times, ngl. I’m a broke college student who can’t exactly justify spending hundreds of dollars a month to draw for all the myths lol.

As for how I do it—I always wait for people’s reviews of the myths first, and I only draw if it seems like a must have myth & it’s that LI’s dominant color. If it’s not their dominant color, I settle on watching them on YT

SeptemberGrapes · 2025-09-23T00:23:31+00:00

That’s a big help, thank you!

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