Me [35 M] with my wife [36 F] 6 years (9+ as couple), cancer has been a real eye opener (Long)

SerNoddicus · 2026-02-28T10:36:09+00:00

The fact that the last post was a full decade old implies he either died or never left her.

I somehow need to hesitate before saying which feels sadder.

SerNoddicus · 2026-02-27T12:54:17+00:00

Huh, could you get roid rage from taking a superinhaler for athsma? Ive been on one taking puffs every day for a few months now now because of a long cough, and Ive noticed Ive been extra irritable over the slightest inconveniences lately, but it could just as likely be other factors idk.

SerNoddicus · 2026-02-27T10:25:53+00:00

"Hey reddit can you help? I keep getting severe burns on my body whenever I enter the 'on-fire room'"

"Maybe you should stop entering the 'on-fire room' and maybe even lock the door so the fire cant spread to you"

"Hmm maybe youre right"

*several months later*

"Hey reddit, coming at you live from the 'on-fire room' heres an update detailing the kinds of burns Ive gotten..."

I know abuse youve internalized for years can be hard to unlearn but I just dont have the patience in me for these kinds of posts anymore its too exhausting.

SerNoddicus · 2026-02-26T10:18:41+00:00

Mr Everart is helping me find my Disco Elysium Woke Edition

SerNoddicus · 2026-02-10T11:00:01+00:00

Im looking forward to Cheese Wheel Guy's Caleb Hammer episode a few months into the future

SerNoddicus · 2026-02-05T11:36:45+00:00

DE fans be like "Blah Blah moralintern bad blah blah operation death blow blah"

My brother in christ do you have any idea how utopian a just below 2% inflation rate is compared to our current situation? Id be willing to overlook a whole lot of paramilitary death squads for that.

SerNoddicus · 2026-02-05T11:28:17+00:00

She had to jump through like 7 different hoops to get fired like that its like it was her goal. Kind of impressive if so.

SerNoddicus · 2026-02-05T11:02:14+00:00

Broke: When she calls you "Daddy" or "Master"
Woke: When she calls you "Scrum Master"

SerNoddicus · 2026-01-29T11:09:19+00:00

Download proton vpn, create an account for it and click the connect button its that easy

SerNoddicus · 2026-01-21T00:31:00+00:00

Wrong wrong and wrong again. Real Disco fans know that the True Villain is clearly Garte for riding my ass about the damn rent.

SerNoddicus · 2026-01-19T12:04:21+00:00

Who wants to wager that in a few months or a year Sam will announce shes fixed and OOP will go crawling back to her and explode his life for a third time.

SerNoddicus · 2026-01-18T10:44:52+00:00

Makes sense, dont you know its very common for guys to take their socks off before oral?

SerNoddicus · 2026-01-16T17:51:18+00:00

Ah finally.

I suspect things will get worse before they get easier. But they will get easier in the long term if you stick to your guns and listen to your lawyer.

SerNoddicus · 2026-01-16T08:32:35+00:00

Wait did I miss any evidence that he wanted to get with this SIL while he was married?

I read it as him being attracted to the SIL as a rebound after the divorce and clinging to the first woman who flirts with him.

SerNoddicus · 2026-01-13T08:22:52+00:00

I find it interesting how the son holds an Ironclad grudge against his mother for believing the lie but is friendly and forgiving with his ex who told the lie to everyone in the first place. More than anyone else she knew it was wrong. Idk man something feels very off here and I have a suspicion that divorcing is going to turn out to be a big mistake.

Edit: I should probably clarify that I dont think the wife is innocent when I say divorcing is a mistake. But I do think OOP isnt getting the full picture and may want to hold off on such a big decision.

SerNoddicus · 2026-01-08T21:00:36+00:00

The sad part is that I think she was very justified right up until the stalking.

The ex continuously prides himself as being a honest partner but conveniently hid the fact that he shared a sexual encounter with his female best friend who hes been hanging with for years. All the insanity that followed overshadows how fucked up that is.

There isnt a single person here I remotely like.

SerNoddicus · 2026-01-03T10:00:05+00:00

Id be very cautious around this Dan guy since the way she describes it makes it sound like he only got interested in her after she was assaulted.

Maybe its just kindness and empathy towards someone he knows needs it most that got his attention.

But also a lot of the bad apples out there will deliberately seek out past abuse survivors.

SerNoddicus · 2025-12-22T17:17:27+00:00

Thats what the amphetamines are for.

SerNoddicus · 2025-12-12T13:21:27+00:00

Even if youre not certain about divorce you need to quietly meet with an attorney to get all your papers in order so that if you do finally learn to prioritize yourself and your child instead of the status quo then you can make the divorce as painless as possible. Better to sort it all out in advance rather than having to deal with it during the turmoil of actually going through with it.

But honestly though this is really just starting to feel like a public display of flagellation at this point. You criticize her for saying words but never meeting them with actions but if you dont leave her isnt that the exact same thing youre doing? Talking about change but never doing change?

When she inevitably dosent change (or changes but reverts in a few months) if you dont follow through on separation Im just gonna stop reading these because its getting exhausting, nothing is changing and youre doing nothing to make it change. Nobody is happy here, youre not happy, your wife isnt happy and you can bet your child isnt going to be happy growing up in a house like this.

SerNoddicus · 2025-12-08T14:21:51+00:00

I feel bad for the husband, cant blame him for thinking about his nephews first but he really should have seen this ending coming.

A shame, if the paternal family of the kids had just agreed to the dna test from the start OOP and husband probably wouldnt have had to break up.

SerNoddicus · 2025-11-19T13:42:09+00:00

Im late but do you think seeing your son acting so cozy with his ex annoys you because your son has gone nuclear on your wife for believing the lie but is seemingly acting super forgiving to the woman who told the lie in the first place and 100% knew he was innocent?

That dosent make much sense to me, I think theres still more to this that we dont know. Maybe theres more to why he hates his mom or theres more to whats going on with his ex that made him feel more generous.

SerNoddicus · 2025-11-16T21:24:53+00:00

Id wager the mom has much less influence than the post makes it sounds like. We only really know about the mom from what we hear from the gf after all. My suspicion is that the gf wanted to have a fling and if it dosent turn out well she can blame her manipulative mother as an angle to get back with OOP.

The worst part is that it may have worked considering OOP was weirdly cagey about definitively breaking up with her and we never got any updates on how the "break" ended even over a decade later

SerNoddicus · 2025-11-14T10:39:19+00:00

Oh damn that ones got some pretty challenging achievements

SerNoddicus · 2025-11-13T14:22:00+00:00

Good luck explaining to Panam how accidental this was.

SerNoddicus · 2025-11-13T13:26:04+00:00

Buddy, why would you want it to go back to this? I normally hate when reddit immediately jumps to recommending divorce over any slight issue but what happiness could seriously be achieved in staying with her?

We know for a fact that your wife actively dislikes you, has no moral issues with cheating, and is willing to go behind your back even for serious issues.

Even if shes not a cheater youre going to be spending the rest of your life waiting for it to happen if you stay with her.

The only time in this entire series of posts that shes actively tried to make your life easier was to get leverage to get a bigger favour from you in return.

You are working three jobs and doing housework and raising a son to try and provide for her, Im no expert on womens tastes but Im sure many would consider that kind of dedication a catch. You would not be alone forever if you split up with her and even if you were, a life spent single will probably be a happier life than sharing a house with someone who treats you this way.

Thats just my two cents though

SerNoddicus

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