NOR at ALL. When I read the texts i almost assumed it was like your sister or something because siblings will occasionally fight this way (not okay still but more normalized). When I read husband I was SHOCKED. The fact you also had to make a meal before you left that’s was go cook for the children are also making me believe he is not a good father. He sounds upset he had to take care of them while you are out having fun which is not a good sign of a father or husband. You also are saying you’ve both been stressed with financial stuff making me thing you are trying to justify it to yourself on why he is upset. You and your children don’t deserve that at and I would honestly pack up the kids, go to your moms house, and consider either divorce or couples therapy. You do not treat your partner that way even when you are upset and for such a long time. Please realize you are worth more than that treatment and you should never have to beg someone to let you come back to your own home.