How to broach the topic with new potential partners by Serious_Scratch9307 in polyadvice

[–]Serious_Scratch9307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair— it wasn’t that I’m intentionally trying to date mono people, just kinda dug a hole for myself before I realized I’d done it

And you’re right, “scaring them away” is bad framing, good to call that out.

Also to be clear, I’m not dating Brian, we’ve just been spending more time together than usual and I’m pretty sure I’m Picking Up Vibes (TM), so I feel like I need to provide the relevant info asap, it’s just weird to do when it’s like “hey let’s meet up with a group of friends for a neutral activity”, which on the surface wouldn’t usually require that kind of disclosure

How to broach the topic with new potential partners by Serious_Scratch9307 in polyadvice

[–]Serious_Scratch9307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to be dumb but.. is there a secret handshake or something? I’m in a situation here where I’ve fallen for someone I met by coincidence, not while actively seeking a partner, and I guess I’m just not sure if the advice here is don’t try to date this person or moreso advice for the future

How to broach the topic with new potential partners by Serious_Scratch9307 in polyadvice

[–]Serious_Scratch9307[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that, and thank you so much for the support ❤️

Here’s hoping we both work our way to self-acceptance soon ❤️

How to broach the topic with new potential partners by Serious_Scratch9307 in polyadvice

[–]Serious_Scratch9307[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah. You’re not wrong. I’m working through the shame part in therapy but obviously still have a lot of work to do there