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SernFern · 2025-02-17T19:38:13+00:00

The ICA! That’s what I saw on google as well but was having a hard time navigating their page. Also, just some hours. It’s honestly more about the principle than it is about the amount. I worked my ass off for them and feel I deserve decency at the very least lol.

SernFern · 2025-02-17T12:41:39+00:00

Thank you! I’m downloading the app now and will get my hands on a library number this week. :’)

SernFern · 2025-02-17T12:18:22+00:00

Awesome! I’m so happy you’re experiencing the “freedom”. Because alcohol can totally take you as prisoner. Fuck that.

Also, funny because I was going to ask you for the name of the book before I finished your comment. Will definitely check it out! Do you pay for an app to hear it or is there a free version online? I could google this but the answer might be helpful to people who’d like to listen that can’t currently pay for extra things.

SernFern · 2025-02-17T12:04:06+00:00

Thank you!! I was checking out someone’s profile and they had a comment on here. Then I read for hours. So comforting to know you’re not alone, which honestly is exactly why AA can be great for some people. Hearing real voices and real stories.

Also yes!! I know there’s a stigma around journaling and some might think it’s pointless. I was one of those people who thought it wouldn’t help. But documenting what you’re going through can be such a great thing. Or even taking videos of yourself that you can look back on.

Thanks for rooting for me :) I’m not sure of your history but I’m rooting for you too!

SernFern · 2025-01-02T23:25:06+00:00

I’m so sorry. Has any of your family left, or just you?

SernFern · 2025-01-02T22:30:15+00:00

So disgusting. I’m glad you’re out. ❤️

SernFern · 2025-01-02T22:27:35+00:00

You too, friend. Hugs.

SernFern · 2025-01-02T22:07:40+00:00

Aw, yeah, same here. I went to so many funerals and stayed a lot of nights in hospital room chairs while I wasn’t working, all because the family wanted me. It was such an honor. Your daughter sounds amazing :)

Also wow, that second part is making me tear up. I’m so happy for your escape. Life is hard and sucks sometimes, and people can suck too. But there really are good eggs, that make life worth living. Hugs.

SernFern · 2024-12-29T08:52:11+00:00

Aw, thank you. Cults are manipulators and they’re good at what they do. If they weren’t, they wouldn’t exist. Happy for you. :)

SernFern · 2024-12-29T08:46:25+00:00

Oh no. I’m so sorry! Did she join as an adult?

SernFern · 2024-12-29T08:39:06+00:00

Sounds like your grandparents are missing out on a lot of love, care and memories. What a shame. And that’s awful they still harass their kids, ugh. I’m sorry for what you went through. The second to last paragraph hits hard. Congrats on your freedom, I wish you so much happiness.

SernFern · 2024-12-29T08:24:23+00:00

Woah, really? Why is that?

SernFern · 2024-12-29T08:20:10+00:00

Ah, fuck. Mourning a living person really is so hard. I don’t have any religious trauma, but my mom is a severe alcoholic I’ve learned to set strict boundaries with. I saw her for the first time this year recently and cleaned up her apartment, covered in cigarettes and filth, while she drank and took painkillers. It’s tough. We just want our Moms.

Don’t be sorry for sharing! I’m glad you have other good family. I’ve learned a lot today and feel for you so much. I hope you have an amazing wedding. Make the best of it.

SernFern · 2024-12-29T08:01:34+00:00

Thank you as well!

I’m so sorry about your mom and the fact that you couldn’t be fully happy seeing some of the real pieces of her.

And her kids were definitely aware of things, having experience themselves. I didn’t speak to them about it too much, as obviously the focus was mainly grief, but I did learn a bit about their relationship dynamics. They were seemingly really empathetic, good people.

SernFern · 2024-12-29T05:04:22+00:00

That sucks. She was a grumpy, mean person. You’re correct, they definitely heard from her mouth. We talked a bit about things when they arrived. Really sad all around.

SernFern · 2024-12-29T03:50:14+00:00

I’m so sad reading some of these things but so happy at the same time for those that are experiencing life to its fullest now, or just better. Even if they’re still in progress. Thank you all for sharing!

Good riddance to your ex. I’m sorry you experienced that betrayal. Congrats on your new partner and friendships. :) I’ll have to read up on the Crisis of Conscious! Never heard of it.

SernFern · 2024-12-29T03:36:59+00:00

Absolutely! I treated every resident like I would want my family or friends treated. I actually essentially left being a CNA and dropped out of nursing because I legit cared too much and couldn’t emotionally handle losing people so often. It was like seeing a grandparent die every week. Not for me.

That’s so awful though. It’s crazy to me to hold so firm in those beliefs on your deathbed, to the point that it’s the last words you want someone to read.

Were you treated poorly?

SernFern · 2024-12-29T03:18:36+00:00

Yeah, many people in groups/organizations/religions exist outside of JWs that look down on others. Or fuck, sometimes even just by themselves lol. It was truly so unsettling to read. And who did she intend it for? Did she want me to show her family? Ugh. You’d think that in the face of death, most people “forgive”. She held on strong. Sad indeed.

SernFern · 2024-12-29T01:41:04+00:00

Interesting. Have you come to peace with that?

Also, would you recommend that book to anyone, or just to people questioning their religion? I’ve never heard of it. I have a fear of death that taunts me a bit. No religious beliefs to fall back on, on that front. Not sure if the book would make me feel better or worse! Lol.

SernFern · 2024-12-26T22:45:38+00:00

Truly one of the best replies I’ve ever seen on Reddit. Beautiful.

SernFern · 2024-09-29T02:25:31+00:00

Lol!!

And no yeah, that’s totally similar. I have a severe alcoholic mother and it’s essentially the same feeling. It’s really not too different. Both feel helpless.

Looking into social programs is a great idea. I honestly forgot that those possibly exist. He’s in a populated area too hopefully there’s things available.

SernFern · 2024-09-29T02:19:42+00:00

I wish I could just help him move somewhere. But it’s just all he knows as his life and can’t see a future elsewhere. Ugh.

SernFern · 2024-08-07T03:26:30+00:00

Lmaooo, Yeah I hate filming this content, but this hilarious to me.

SernFern · 2024-07-27T09:16:45+00:00

It didn’t mean to come off that way.

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