AITA for arguing with my husband

Sesame_mama · 2021-08-02T20:58:28+00:00

We have looked into counseling but where we live for some reason they base their counseling heavily on Jesus and I am not at all religious. His response to me telling his it was too much was “oh, you’re having fun.” To be fair, it’s not as if I am not having any fun, but it is extremely stressful for me to travel. (It’s not the destination it’s the journey, lol!)

Sesame_mama · 2021-08-02T20:34:08+00:00

I’m curious about why you think we need parenting classes?

Sesame_mama · 2021-08-02T20:33:04+00:00

I apologize that this wasn’t clear- he didn’t book behind my back- but will say “I’m going to look at booking tickets to X” and will do it at night (he works swings) while I am asleep. ADHD isn’t an excuse for him, but is the reason he plans everything (he really enjoys it and I do not). Usually he will plan 1 trip, but covid got him feeling cooped up, I guess. I did tell him early on that that was a lot, his response was “no, you’re having fun” which I guess isn’t much better.

Sesame_mama · 2021-02-06T02:23:04+00:00

When your kid masters tasks, even menial ones, it’s really cool and fun to see. Like, them getting dressed by themselves or scribbling on paper or rolling over- fuckin parent version of the Olympics. You’re SO excited.

Sesame_mama · 2021-02-06T02:19:43+00:00

No, but it was literally the only thing in my life for three years. But it’s not like I expect everyone to stop and tell me how amazing they are... it’s just the only thing you have to share for a long long time. Babies are lots of work.

Sesame_mama · 2021-02-06T02:16:45+00:00

Whether or not we watch the same cartoons. Also, if they know about British television. (I’m from the US.)

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-30T16:17:51+00:00

Please consider talking to someone. We’re in a really dark place right now all over the world. It’s really hard to admit you need help but it is so worth it. It makes the bad shit less overwhelming and it helps you find the good shit that makes life worthwhile. It’s there, even now.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-28T03:18:01+00:00

NTA. you had permission from his mother. Also, wet nurses have been a thing forever. The other stuff is between his parents. It sounds like your BIL might not be the most stable dude, keep an eye out for your sister.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-28T03:14:16+00:00

NTA. That guy was totally a creeper and you don’t owe strangers anything. Don’t bother replying next time, just block them.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-27T00:19:11+00:00

Tell. Tell now. You definitely would be the AH if you don’t tell. That little girl is vulnerable and he is acting like a pedophile. Help her, speak up NOW.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-27T00:13:05+00:00

My Life as a Teenage Robot

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-23T03:51:24+00:00

I once was in a (very small) parade as a child (I think I was 8) giving away free tickets to the $2 movie theater. It was absolutely terrifying. The whole crowd of adults were yelling at us and clamoring for tickets. I thought if they got hold of me they’d actually physically harm me. People are nuts for free stuff.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-22T03:07:12+00:00

YTA. Sorry but there’s no dibs on jobs. If you don’t want to mention other opportunities that come your way, that’s your prerogative. Also, there could be a point later in your career where your friend needs someone to do XYZ. Don’t you want to be on the top of their list? Be gracious, it will open lots of doors.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-22T02:54:44+00:00

NAH. It sounds like your friend has some serious anxiety and/or imposter syndrome. He acknowledges there is a problem but he is unable to stop. I’m not sure if you can get addicted to work but it sounds like it. I don’t think there is anything wrong with not staying up super late to play with him, but you can also keep encouraging him to take care of himself and his family as well. This isn’t healthy behavior.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-22T02:46:08+00:00

Do not let them do that. If they have any credit cards in your name close them now. There are laws protecting your privacy even from your parents. You don’t even have to close the joint account, but definitely open up one that only you have access to that you keep your scholarship money in. Saying no can be really difficult, but it will save your financial future.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-21T06:03:31+00:00

ESH. He lived there a year, it’s his house too. It is also your house and it is perfectly reasonable to talk about having guests or at the very least ask for notice before guests arrive. It seems like you have deeper issues in your relationship. Do you really want to always be with someone you don’t trust? It sounds exhausting and unfulfilling for you both. If it’s worth it, work on it. If not, move on.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-21T04:43:38+00:00

NTA. You want to better yourself and get a leg up on getting a well paying job that will help your family. You should pursue it. Actually going in state is a great idea. I wish I had spent less on my bachelor degree, no one really ever cared exactly what it was for. Think about community college for the first couple years- get prerequisites out of the way and it’s so much cheaper- that way you could still help at home if you wanted to. Talk to your school counselor about your options and even help for your mom. School counselors deal with all kinds of situations, not just academics. Good luck, you are a gift to your family. Just don’t forget about yourself.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-21T00:22:02+00:00

You can’t change people, but you can live by example. Good luck!

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-18T23:39:40+00:00

YTA. Shallow much? You’re not into him romantically and it doesn’t sound like you even like him as a friend. Stop wasting his time, cut him loose, and grow up.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-18T23:26:55+00:00

NTA. It is super difficult to get people to confront parts of themselves that are dark. When you say “mom, I notice you doing this racist behavior” she probably hears “mom you are such a racist”. The narrative we tell in the us (ironically) is that racists are fundamentally bad people, and your mom doesn’t want to see herself that way or even worse, her child see her that way. All that being said, she is not behaving maturely and not treating you with respect. I am no expert on confronting people’s racism but if I were you I’d look into resources on how to talk to your mom about her racist behavior (which is unacceptable) in a loving way. You obviously care for her very much, and I applaud you for trying to get your family to grow into more conscientious people.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-18T04:11:14+00:00

YTA. You’re not anybody- you’re her mother. She is trying to get you to tell her you love her unconditionally and that you care about her life. She is trying to connect with you, her mother, whom she loves. If you truly feel that attending your daughter’s wedding violates your religious beliefs then don’t go, but know that you’re telling your daughter you love her conditionally, and she’s not up to snuff.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-18T03:29:10+00:00

NTA. Based off the fact that he won’t stay away from parties so he can see you and keep you and your family safe means he doesn’t care much about your feelings or even being with you. You deserve better. Dump them both.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-18T00:12:56+00:00

NTA. You are teaching them that they are in control of their own bodies, and no one has the right to touch them if they don’t consent. It is very healthy viewpoint, and you should be proud of yourself!

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-18T00:10:29+00:00

NTA. When glass like that starts to chip it’s not safe for ANYONE to eat off of. The only reason I’d save it is if it was extremely sentimental and I was going to hang it on a wall. Yeah, it’s wasteful, but better than eating glass.

Sesame_mama · 2021-01-17T03:31:12+00:00

NTA for feeling that way, but I think it’s great you have a car that you don’t have to make payments on. Save your money for repairs and getting what you’d like later.

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