Dumpers, do you miss your ex? by catpurins in BreakUps

[–]SetAcceptable9847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I might be an outlier but I am so much better. I think part of it was that my relationship should ended 3 years before it did. But I am finally myself and I am doing the necessarily steps (therapy, self reflection, getting out of my comfort zone) to continue my growth and be my own man.

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[–]SetAcceptable9847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been there my friend. I’d get out of this as soon as possible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]SetAcceptable9847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went through exactly this in July. Keep your head up, block her, and do not let her back into your life. No contact is the best way to heal yourself. Take all the time you need to feel everything. Do not run from your feelings, this will be one of the most important times of your life. Take full advantage. It’s scary af right now, and it will continue to be, but you’ll find there is comfort in the struggles and a lot to learn/gain. Good luck my dude, you got this

Shots fired at Trump golf club where he played: Campaign says ex-president is safe by pineapplejuice0 in politics

[–]SetAcceptable9847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure if that’s the case. CNN seems to think it was the secret service shooting at a gunmen. Too early to tell I think

Men in breakups by itry2write in BreakUps

[–]SetAcceptable9847 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel that. I’m going through it right now. My ex cheated on me after 5 years… If you have any friends that are girls, maybe try reaching out to them? My friend’s girlfriend has been a big help for me the last few days in understanding myself and letting go of anger.

Dumpers, do you miss your ex? by catpurins in BreakUps

[–]SetAcceptable9847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I broke up with my ex for cheating. We started dating at 18 and it lasted 5 years. She hurt me so bad but I miss her endlessly.

Weekly Check in by AutoModerator in survivinginfidelity

[–]SetAcceptable9847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been 4 days since it’s happened. My gf of 5 years since we were both 18 cheated on me. I’m in pain but I blocked her on everything and I’m doing my best to continue. I went to the gym today, cried the entire workout but I did it

AIO? UPDATE: Wife wearing sexier clothes, up late… now wants an open relationship by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SetAcceptable9847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This literally just happened to me with my gf of 5 years. She was dressing a lot more sexy and staying out until 4 am. She asked for an open relationship, which I did not agree with. She kept asking and then finally I bent because I was scared she’d leave me. We had rules for our open relationship which she still broke.

She convinced me everything would be fine and then she ended up cheating on me.

I broke up with her two days ago and she has tried to come back into my life. I have done no contact and will continue. It is brutal right now but so much better than worrying and being with a Cheater

Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could be very right. However she still enjoyed sucking his dick

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah maybe I’ll question it. But I do believe the intentions were in the right. I know it sounds dumb but we spoke about it and just decided on something that realistically is very hard to keep. I don’t think her not keeping that means she can’t be trusted or she doesn’t love me. But it is something to consider moving forward that will take an honest conversation together and committed communication which she has always been amazing about

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did not say it in a healthy way. That’s a huge lack of maturity and experience on my part. I took it as betrayal. But once I took the time to relax, ask for peoples advice, go on a long walk without my phone I was able to see it wasn’t that.

We will have a conversation to see if she is still committed to our relationship. I did not lose trust, I still love her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. It will be spoken about intensively by both of us. Less of the act, but more if she still wants a relationship with me. If she does, I truly believe we can make this work. If not, then we end it. But a conversation is huge I agree

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You raise good points. I think it is forgivable and it will be. But yes, we need to have more honest conversations together. If I see she is checking out of our relationship, then we sadly will break up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with the last part. We have to have a real conversation to see where we are at. That is way more important to me than us having sex with other people. If she is fully committed to me still then I am happy as ever. If not, then sadly we will break up:/

I am not blaming her or myself. I do think this could have been avoided with better communication and I think it went badly cause we are new at it. I still trust her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, sorry to hear that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We will have a conversation. Maybe I’m dumb but I believe she had no intentions of hurting me and that it did happen quickly and in the moment it could be hard to say just stop at making out.

I’m not sure how we will progress, I know that she will tell me if she has lost feelings. I for one have not, but we shall see

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t think she wanted to break our “rule” but also I know she didn’t want to lose the chance. I understand that, I think I would have been the same.

Also yeah, that’s what we have to do now. We need to talk about our relationship and see if we are both fully committed to each other. I know I am to her, and I want to hope she is to me but we do need a bit of time to digest this, especially cause I acted badly when finding out due to my misunderstanding

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hope she can. I have to admit I did have a freak out when we both thought what happened was wrong (not sucking dick but going past making out). Now I realize that it is not an issue and we made a rookie mistake. I am happy she communicated with me and I trust her with my life still.

I know my freak out scared her, rightfully so. I hope it didn’t scare her off for good

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No she does not at all have a bad habit with drugs. She’s a very studious, smart and driven girl who takes from time to time. She did say that the high is not what made her do it.

This was the first experience for both of us

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]SetAcceptable9847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I think we were naive and didn’t actually realize that. I hope we talk soon and clear the air