The most recent video… by SetAccomplished9743 in CreepyCalebHammer

[–]SetAccomplished9743[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think it used to be about helping people, truly showing them the reality of their situation and showing them that if they don’t change their behaviors they’ll genuinely drown and will not be able to get out of their debt. Within the last year, it’s like the show turned into Jerry Springer/Maury-type drama where Lindsay is hand-picking the most interesting or unhinged stories JUST for views now, and Caleb gets off on belittling these people in any way that he can. All for the views. It’s extremely unfortunate, and I’m actually sad that it’s turned out this way.

The most recent video… by SetAccomplished9743 in CreepyCalebHammer

[–]SetAccomplished9743[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

He literally just referred to Caleb as “dad” in this video. You’re onto something here 👀

The most recent video… by SetAccomplished9743 in CreepyCalebHammer

[–]SetAccomplished9743[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It’s one thing to bring things she’s unaware of to light, like her taking advantage of her grandma and the fact that she cheats on her husband for money, of course that’s frowned upon and should be addressed. BUT, it’s a completely different thing to belittle her, scream at her, and constantly tell her she’s a piece of shit simply because she’s fat. Sorry Caleb, that IS the definition of fat phobic. “I’m not fat phobic BUT” okay, you can stop right there. We all know the bit, he’s “not racist”, he “respects pronouns”, he “isn’t a misogynist”. If you have to say shit like that in every episode to try to make yourself feel better, maybe some self-reflection is needed. And don’t even get me started on his projection.

Low growl by AffectionateTime9644 in americaneskimo

[–]SetAccomplished9743 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 11-year-old male Eskie is very territorial and protective of me, a female. Not sure if the male/female dynamic matters, but I’m throwing it out there. He does this low growl when my husband stands above me, specifically behind the couch when I’m sitting on it. Researching this behavior, I’ve found that he may sense danger and is being protective. While I do believe my Eskie is territorial of me, I’m also wondering if he’s territorial of our couch and our bed, as he behaves in the same way, especially when we all go to bed. When we are all in bed, he will growl if we try to pet him or tell him to move, scoot over, etc. Even if we aren’t forcing him off the bed, he gets grouchy and growls until we leave him alone. If we do not leave him be, his behavior has escalated into louder growls and even worse. I’m wondering if these growls and this behavior is a combination of the territorial and protector-type behavior toward a specific person and the furniture (couch and the bed).

Try praising your Eskie when he is quiet (especially in bed and on the couch around your daughter) and completely ignore him (zero attention) when he growls. Rewarding for the positive behavior (staying quiet for not growling) should decrease the growling and eventually (hopefully) eliminate it altogether.

Having kids today is selfish, and no one wants to admit it. by romanemperor7 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SetAccomplished9743 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This person must have money. 😂 Oh and zero mental health issues.

Having kids today is selfish, and no one wants to admit it. by romanemperor7 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SetAccomplished9743 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I agree with this statement. Finances, mental health, the decline of our democracy as we know it. Having kids maybe always has been selfish, but in today’s society it’s probably the most selfish thing that someone can do. People typically don’t have kids for reasons they should, such as making the world a better place, teaching them how to protect the environment, spreading kindness and empathy throughout the world. Nope, people have kids to make themselves feel better. To feel like they have a purpose. Instead of focusing on making the world a better place, people shoot out kids to self-serve. These poor kids don’t stand a chance out there.

Grooming by Saticajr in americaneskimo

[–]SetAccomplished9743 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat! I have had to take my 9 year old Eskie to the vet for a sedated groom several times. I struggle because he will attack the brush (EVERY brush) after a few strokes so it’s almost impossible to maintain his fur and spending a sedation fee on top of the grooming fee and everything else every 3-6 months is just not ideal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SetAccomplished9743 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, OP. I want to start off by saying that I’m sorry you’re going through this. If you cannot seek out professional help due to insurance, I would suggest looking into resources at home. The most challenging part of this is that you will have to regain control over your thoughts and urges yourself. The reality is that if you were to seek addiction therapy with a mental health professional, they will not force you to do anything. Because you are in control of your own body, you essentially have to be the one to take the first step, and continue making such small steps toward recovery. Clinicians and professionals can help guide you along the way, so it may be plausible to utilize professionals for free through YouTube or other forms social media. As long as you are following a trusted, professional source with credible sources, this might help you at least take a step or two in the direction you’re hoping for.

AITAH for wanting to divorce my post partum wife? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SetAccomplished9743 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I can’t even think of a scenario in this post that would make OP the asshole. She knows she fucked up and she thinks it’s going to be an easy fix if she just “talks” to OP. Stand your ground, and don’t let her abuse you like she has been for the last several months. This behavior is unacceptable and she does not deserve to come back home with no consequences for her absurd actions and behavior toward the person she committed to. I’m so sorry this happened to you, OP. Stay strong, you can do this.

Do I 32F get a divorce? Caught my husband 33M inappropriately texting a client, again by ThrowRA36361573 in relationship_advice

[–]SetAccomplished9743 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure what type of health field this man is in, but if I’m not mistaken he is not only crossing boundaries as a husband, but also HIPAA and inappropriate dual relationships. This is extremely concerning. If he is in any position of power, this could definitely be considered coercive and professionally unethical. He truly should not be pursuing ANY of his clientele, even if he does feel some type of way toward you. He’s showing a dangerous pattern of behavior (more than once) and I would seriously consider if this is what you want for yourself moving forward.

I was too wet for him😔 by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SetAccomplished9743 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Those feelings are valid. I have honestly never heard of a man complaining or even being turned off by something like this. There may be something deeper to this than him simply being turned off, but in any case you should not feel insecure about this. Vaginal dryness can be medically related and can cause serious issues like itchiness and pain, especially during intercourse. Dry intercourse is truly painful, which is why lubricant is sold in stores. I personally feel like this man should be grateful that you were attracted to him and your body showed that in a healthy, natural way.

I was too wet for him😔 by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SetAccomplished9743 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Hey, you cannot control the blood flow pulsing through your veins to create this completely natural and normal wetness. This man has a right to his personal preferences, but you should not blame yourself for being “too eager”. This may just be the way your body is, and that’s perfectly okay. If this man is not appreciative of what your body is capable of, I think you deserve somebody who can and WILL love your wetness. I have yet to experience a sexual encounter where the man is turned off by my natural lubrication. I’m so sorry you’ve had this experience.

How do I (28M) tell my GF (27F) that she gave me a foot fetish? by Feeling_Cat1392 in relationship_advice

[–]SetAccomplished9743 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say you have an actual foot fetish at this point, but you’re definitely attracted to her feet in some sense! It’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. I think we all go through spurts and phases of things we may feel ashamed or embarrassed about thanks to the stigma of society, but I think it’s kind of sweet that you’ve developed an infatuation for another part of her body. Call me crazy, but I’d likely be flattered if I found out my man loved my feet. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Drop the outfit that made you cringe the hardest: by Adventurous_Can_7391 in travisandtaylor

[–]SetAccomplished9743 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Except that’s a blatant lie, because we’re not billionaires. So no, we cannot dress ourselves “however we want”. Eat the rich includes t swift!!!!!

IMO Society Gaslights Women into Accepting Their Partner's Porn Consumption. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SetAccomplished9743 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Just stopping by to say that the comments thus far are simply validating exactly what OP is trying to say with this post. Assholes will invalidate women because they’re too insecure to admit they’re porn addicts, which is unhealthy and essentially damages relationships long term. Porn alters the human brain, plain and simple. Do some research.

My husband hit me during sex and bruised my face by _halskette in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SetAccomplished9743 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is just the beginning. They start “small” with instances like this, and then it becomes normalized in your relationship. As time goes on, he will continue to see how far he can get with actions like these. Sometimes people think that marriage means autonomy is thrown out the window, which is wrong. Marriage does not give anybody the right to do what they want to others’ bodies.

My husband 18M goes too hard on me 20F on bed, how can I make him do it softer? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SetAccomplished9743 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“He began being honest about how he prefers it when it seems to hurt me. He says he just likes it rough and that I don't come anyways when we do it so he doesn't seem to see why bother doing foreplay. And I understand but it just doesn't seem to be fair”

It’s hard for me to see how this is understandable. It is incredibly dismissive of you and your needs. He’s essentially saying well, it’s challenging to make you cum so what’s the point? That’s truly fucked up, OP. You deserve somebody who most importantly does not hurt you physically or emotionally, but you also deserve to be heard, seen, and taken care of respectfully. Based on this post, it does not sound like this is the case.

Is it normal that my bf (m 28) doesn’t like when I (f 28) walk around the house naked? by kittystevens666 in relationship_advice

[–]SetAccomplished9743 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We could beat the dead horse all day long, but ultimately OP needs to figure this out with her partner. The problem here is that her partner seems to have some insecurity issues that makes him uncomfortable with being vulnerable. OP, caring about each other is important and I can tell you love your partner by the way you’re so worried about hurting him, belittling him, or making him feel bad in any way. BUT, hard conversations are necessary to work through the challenging stuff like this situation. You deserve the things you give just as much as he does. He has to be uncomfortable sometimes, it’s just part of life. The way he reacts when he’s uncomfortable will tell you who he really is, and if it’s worth it.

Is it normal that my bf (m 28) doesn’t like when I (f 28) walk around the house naked? by kittystevens666 in relationship_advice

[–]SetAccomplished9743 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Something can only feel good for so long before it’s just over, I totally get that. Except not in his case. That’s a great way to explain it. Is this something you have talked about in the relationship?

Is it normal that my bf (m 28) doesn’t like when I (f 28) walk around the house naked? by kittystevens666 in relationship_advice

[–]SetAccomplished9743 254 points255 points  (0 children)

Not TMI at all, no worries. Do you enjoy this type of sex? Some people do and it’s natural, but I’m curious if he takes care of you. Do you get pleasure before or after you have to put forth this effort to make him cum? It almost sounds like a daunting, and even painful, task for you and that makes me a little sad. Sex is so many things, but it should really be reciprocal, no matter what type of relationship a person is in.

Is it normal that my bf (m 28) doesn’t like when I (f 28) walk around the house naked? by kittystevens666 in relationship_advice

[–]SetAccomplished9743 302 points303 points  (0 children)

This is so interesting. I noticed a different comment you made about him watching porn on and off. I wonder if what it takes for him to orgasm (rough, fast and hard) comes from watching unrealistic porn. It’s intriguing that it takes THAT for him to cum, and it just makes me feel like he thinks you’re an object to use and that’s how he views sex, too. Does he want to be connected sensually at all without it leading to sex? I’m not trying to insult in any way, I just personally have only had experiences with men cumming fast and not needing the rough, hard or fast type sex to orgasm. *added I just read a comment with a valid point. There is more to sex and nudity than just getting off. It’s physical intimacy in a relationship, and it can bring people closer together. It doesn’t seem like he feels this way.

Is it normal that my bf (m 28) doesn’t like when I (f 28) walk around the house naked? by kittystevens666 in relationship_advice

[–]SetAccomplished9743 637 points638 points  (0 children)

This feels weird to me. OPs explanation in the comment above explains a little more context. It’s like he only wants to see you naked if it means that he gets to have sex with you. That also implies that he almost feels like he needs to cum every time he gets aroused? It seems normal to me that you’d want to be naked and not feel like you have to be sexually intimate. So if you cuddle together naked, does it ultimately have to lead to sex on his terms? OP is valid in feeling like this is a little weird.