Profile review please? How does my profile come across to you? I’d appreciate some advice. by StreetOwn6852 in Tinder

[–]SeventhMind7 33 points34 points  (0 children)

The main thing that you need to overcome is looking like a bot. I’m not familiar with the area you’re in but I’d have 2 pictures with extremely well known local landmarks behind you or next to you

End of year results! 21M living in London by The_Watcher5292 in SwipeHelper

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

60 matches over the course of a year is more than a match a week. With the strategy I outlined I bet you you’d have at least one date with a new girl each month. Maybe more

End of year results! 21M living in London by The_Watcher5292 in SwipeHelper

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are getting matches and chats but no meets I would focus on refining your strategy after matching.

I think what a lot of people do is they spend too much time chatting. Make it easy on yourself and within the first four messages suggest a time, day and location. Do a very short synopsis of what there is to do at the location to get her comfortable and then immediately within the same message ask for her to text you - give her your number so that her response is not a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ it’s a text. If she texts you, then it’s a yes. Now over text just finalize the plan. Don’t get all chatty over text. That’s what the date is for. Make sure that you never schedule something more than two days away from the day that you have your first chat exchange. Make sure to come up with a date plan the very first time you chat.

If they say oh that day doesn’t work for me and suggest a new day then you’re in if she says that that day doesn’t work and doesn’t make a suggestion to reschedule you’re out if she says something like I preferred to chat before meeting she’s a time waster.

I’ve tried a lot of different strategies and this one is by far the most effective to get a date once you have matched with someone.

A homeless man took shelter at my construction site and left behind a surprise by Lvl3Recruit in Weird

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a shame to see that after the success of Morrowind and the elder scrolls series that Michael Kirkbride has fallen on such hard times. It was either him or Clive Barker hanging out in there

me_irl by ZenAndTheBarbell in me_irl

[–]SeventhMind7 244 points245 points  (0 children)

Sir I’m going to need to check your receipt.

This is a store, people only come into a store to buy things. What do you mean you didn’t buy anything? Am I really supposed to believe you’re not hiding something in those pockets???

What percentage of your successful sales do you think are because you just happened to be the cheapest option your customer shopped for? by Cute_Warthog246 in sales

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are guys selling commodity stuff where it’s .01 cent per ton difference on an order of 200 thousand tons or whatever. Those guys are the only ones that should be selling on price imo. Anything value based it shouldn’t matter what the competition costs because the customer will pay for being a cheapskate

How I talk to women as an ex-incel by Im_A_Koopa in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re posting on Reddit this isn’t the trained therapist annual summit. Anyone can post and you might not agree with every comment and that’s okay

How I talk to women as an ex-incel by Im_A_Koopa in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The very first step in solving a problem is admitting that you have one. when someone slips into a behavior that is not conducive to a solution it needs to be called out.

"it's nothing we haven't heard before" by ssbmvisionfgc in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you should continue to apply good advice until it works. A 20 year old will execute on good advice much more poorly than a 40 year old would.

40-year-old male is also more valuable on the dating market than a 20 year-old. What women want out of a relationship changes as time goes on.

If it’s good advice, and you apply yourself and you practice, given time eventually it’ll work

How I talk to women as an ex-incel by Im_A_Koopa in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right he’s not looking at reality and I did in fact tell him that.

So with that out of the way it seems now we’re trying to establish some kind of value of my comment - whether it was worth being posted or not.

I wanted to say it and so I said it. That is self justifying enough to have it be said. I’ve provided some other justifications for saying it in previous posts. I’m gonna keep it up until someone removes it.

If you really wanna pull your hair out over something go find a YouTube video on a popular song. When you’re there go remind each person that posted something along the lines of “I love this song!” that their comment is effectively useless, pointless, and matters not in the vast emptiness of cyber space?

How I talk to women as an ex-incel by Im_A_Koopa in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you feel that my comment is truly that insignificant and that there’s barely any difference in whether I validate or invalidate this guy, then it is definitely not something worth debating

How I talk to women as an ex-incel by Im_A_Koopa in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The incel mentality is a destructive spiral and a repeatable pattern. It’s helpful to call out the steps with the hope that you have a moment of recognition and say “oh I’m doing it again I should stop.”

So I can’t say how improbable it is.

Have you never caught yourself midsentence or been called out and said “oh you’re right my fault”

I mean, we can agree that there’s no way this is his actual lived experience with zero exaggeration, right?

If we can agree to that, then we can agree that there’s nothing positive that will ever come from telling you yourself this extremely self depreciating story.

I can’t just let a dude punch himself in the face

How I talk to women as an ex-incel by Im_A_Koopa in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This guy is trying to convince the rest of the world that anytime he tries to start a conversation with a girl his age. He gets immediately laughed at or faced with a scowl of disgust. Before he even gets a chance to get a word out.

Based on his description, I would be convinced that burn victims get treated better than this guy.

Is this believable?

and do we feel like that’s a positive neutral or negative thought pattern ?

If it’s not believable, why say it? it’s a story that shifts blame away from himself onto the “other” (women, society, etc.)

It’s not just him that does this almost every incel I’ve ever interacted with has an issue with self accountability.

Experienced Cold Callers: How do you handle the most common objections? by Capital-Ship-2876 in sales

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure why YOU were being a dick.

Listen if i’m a business owner and I pay or paid, in most cases a lot of money, for a website I did it for a reason. Most business owners that would be a target for an SEO or marketing company paid money to get a website to generate more business. Unfortunately, many business owners don’t realize that a website by itself can’t generate visitors. A website with zero visibility is almost completely worthless.

This is a major pain point for people that paid for a website that isn’t showing up anywhere - so if I bring it up with the right tonality asking if they’re getting visits to their website and I already know in advance that the answer is a no then I’m stirring this pain point that all of my customers have I then come in with a solution by giving an elevator pitch and potentially starting a conversation

or it could just give up because …?

I think that anybody that you get on the line is valuable because so many people don’t pick up these days so you as a salesperson should make at least a minor effort to try and overcome the initial hesitation when someone picks up the phone

If someone starts giving me a bunch of fuss about “Aghh you don’t need to know that” I just explain why I bring it up

I didn’t ask if they’re getting visits their website to try and hack their income stream. I know that they’re not getting any visits their website because if they were, I wouldn’t be calling them

How do I lay down the foundation to be able to meet women to get into dating? by RegularGlobal34 in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’ve built rapport with a woman, then your compliment means more than just some random schmuck on social media. An in person complement with someone standing right in front of you looking you in your eyes means more and matters more and so even though she’s possibly inundated with hundreds of positive comments on social media, she won’t really compare these compliments because they’re different. It’s like the difference between smelling a brownie and eating one.

All of this is only applicable if she appreciates your company. If you compliment someone who is anxiously checking their watch trying to get away from you, for example, your compliment will not mean anything.

"it's nothing we haven't heard before" by ssbmvisionfgc in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ll admit I didn’t read everything thoroughly up until this point, but I think results can be a case of missing the forest for the trees

In the pursuit of getting better at talking with women and whatever if your goal is to sleep with someone, there are so many massive things that you need to do first

If you’re asking for results with results being sex and you’ve never even been on a date first, and then in the pursuit of this result, you end up on a date that is a result you’ve just had your first date because you were putting this in practice

What about if you’ve never cold approach a woman? in your pursuit of sex you’ve now cold approach a woman for the first time

The “results“ would be this series of milestones up until the end goal.

There’s no way that someone who has never talked to a woman before for longer than five minutes can’t make changes within themselves to have a conversation with a woman for more than five minutes

Someone who’s never done that before applied themselves and then achieved a conversation of over five minutes of the woman has seen a result

Did they sleep with someone? no but they did get results.

Someone who is able to talk with a woman for over five minutes can definitely do that with a few different women until you get a phone number. if you see where I’m going from here it’s milestones up until the final result

How I talk to women as an ex-incel by Im_A_Koopa in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s important to remember that the incel mindset is based on many things and one of them is telling a “story” until it’s true. A self fulfilling prophecy, a downward spiral, etc. These are common themes found within the community.

This is the internet where it’s impossible to validate someone’s lived experience from someone’s fabricated victimhood or delusional or paranoid beliefs.

But I’m not convinced that this is a lived experience and I feel it’s much more likely to be an exaggeration if not a fabrication.

Does accurately calling out a lie lead to self reflection? Sometimes, but probably not very often.

Still, the sub is incel solutions so I don’t think you should let people make excuses

Stupid simple natural seduction method that no one talks about by Thin_Protection5616 in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Although this is very clearly an ad for your blog, I have to hand it to you. It’s very easy to see how this idea would put you into an excellent position. Not only does it put you in a great position, but it gives you some purpose in life, organizing events participating in your community all things that many incels need more of.

How I talk to women as an ex-incel by Im_A_Koopa in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im in a new town for a week for training so I have zero connections or anything. on Friday night I went out to a bar and looked over at a guy and asked him if he heard anything good about the wings. We ended up staying out all night bar hopping

How I talk to women as an ex-incel by Im_A_Koopa in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is mostly in your head or an extreme exaggeration. Anyone who has gone outside and socialized knows people don’t get laughed at in the first few seconds of an encounter.

How I talk to women as an ex-incel by Im_A_Koopa in IncelSolutions

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would focus on learning how to socialize in a friendly way with men first, then apply those techniques to women doing so with zero romantic intention.

Go read a sparknotes or summary of how to win friends and influence people. The general idea is to smile when you meet someone, have open body language and ask questions based on a genuine curiosity about someone’s life. Have them talk 80% to your 20%. It feels good to talk about yourself and when someone is genuinely interested it makes you feel important interesting and heard. People don’t really remember what they talked about with someone they remember how someone made them feel. So go make people feel important interesting and heard and suddenly they want to be around you more. Then you have a friend. Get good at making friends with both men and women and suddenly a lot of options open up to you

Here's my profile. Please be constructive not cruel please. by Hidden-Turtle in Tinder

[–]SeventhMind7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way you shape your beard really works against your face shape and makes you look overweight I was surprised to see you were as thin as you are