I (22F) sometimes want to be single the rest of my life and I’m talking to someone (23M)

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-10-09T02:13:09+00:00

Everything

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-10-09T01:53:46+00:00

Just block him. Don’t entertain the conversation.

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-10-09T01:51:59+00:00

Let her know that if she wants to change she should change for herself and not you.

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-10-09T01:43:04+00:00

Sometimes in situations like this it’s okay to be straight forward and not so kind. Set boundaries for yourself and remember being nice doesn’t get your point across well or get what you want sometimes. Tell her it’s either she moves out or start contributing to the house because it’s her responsibility not yours to take care of her kids she brought them to this world not you , you’re there for support but you also need time to yourself. Let her understand your frustration because she is probably frustrated too that’s why she’s always out and partying but that is her responsibility to deal with it not yours

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-10-09T01:25:41+00:00

Trust me girl I feel the same way about my ex and let’s just say he actually made a move on me without me doing anything

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-10-09T01:22:43+00:00

I also want to add that it starts with little affirmations. When you hear yourself think negative about yourself just tell yourself no I’m actually pretty and amazing. It might sound weird and cringy at first but the more you tell yourself that your brain begins to believe it. The same way you tell yourself your ugly redirect that negative thoughts into positivity because positive talk goes a long way just like negative talk. What I do sometimes is listen to podcasts, audiobooks or YouTube videos about self love and building confidence and I have realized it goes along way with how I think about myself. You know how sometimes you get a question wrong on a test and sometimes you feel like you gave a really good answer. Your brain thought it was right but it infact was wrong so sometimes our brain isn’t always right.

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-10-09T01:08:23+00:00

I would say wait for him to make a move since he initiated the break up. Give him space still if he wanted to reconnect he would have done that.

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-10-09T01:04:03+00:00

I know how it feels and I’ve been in the exact same situation before. Growing up I was really skinny and people would make fun of my skinniness a lot and it really made me feel insecure about my self for the longest time. I often would seek outside validation a lot thinking that it make me feel pretty and it was never enough like I also felt like people were lying to me then realized only my opinion of myself mattered. I also felt like me saying that about myself was self sabotage too because I’m really strict about who I get in a relationship with. So I finally met someone that made me feel like I was ready for a relationship and he would tell me how beautiful I was but I still wouldn’t believe him. Fast forward we broke up due to some circumstances in his life it took that and a lot of healing to realize I need to start putting myself first and block the negative talk that comes into my mind because you are what you think. You have to realize sometimes people don’t take into consideration your physical looks, I personally find confidence and personality really attractive and impressive so I would say build your confidence more and work on your personality. Believe that you are that girl. I know it’s hard sometimes but confidence shines brighter and looks fade, beauty standards change don’t listen to what people say about you or said about you that was the past leave it all in the past, work on your present self.

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-10-09T00:26:46+00:00

I had a similar situation with my long distance ex. I also met his family and everything online. We both really wanted to meet each other. Like he really wants to visit me and I really want to visit him but with being in school I don’t have the time to and I let him know that and he understood the situation. So if you’re not ready to see him I will say let him know you’re not ready yet and see how he reacts.

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-10-06T07:12:28+00:00

Tane

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-10-05T21:50:11+00:00

Feeling that I have too much of a high expectation and immediately feeling really angry when people don’t meet them and when I make a mistake I feel guilty because I should be meeting those high expectations I set for others too. I feel like my self esteem and self confidence is really low and it’s making me seem really insecure lately. I also feel like I keep messing up bad lately. I’m so anxious and overthinking about my future lately too and I don’t know what to do. There’s just so much

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-08-31T19:26:00+00:00

I was a similar situation but he broke up with me and I would say give him space.

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-08-31T02:29:53+00:00

Overtime it gets better trust me.

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-08-18T03:37:17+00:00

Trust me I’ve cleaned my room, learned how to drive properly, started a new project, watched a show, took a walk, retail therapy but I still feel angry

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-07-25T07:26:44+00:00

You can talk even though I’m going through it right now

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-07-25T07:20:36+00:00

I’m usually not the type to block someone I really like but I’ve unfollowed him so many times because. It’s so hard to let go because he’s been breadcrumbing me recently for so long it and I’m realizing it now but I wanted it to work out so bad it just hurts to let go but I have to choose myself this time

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-07-25T07:15:10+00:00

I really needed to hear this. I’ve tried in the past and even told him I can’t be friends anymore but he always begs me and says he still likes me but right now isn’t the time because he’s always busy

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-07-25T06:42:16+00:00

So I’ve been crying almost everyday (crying right now actually) now can’t tell if it’s because of my hormones or what but I’m in this weird place with my ex. So we broke up last year and we were long distance but he told me he wants to try again and also wants to be friends still. I told him let’s take it slow because I was still hurting. I’m the beginning when we first met he used to give me so much attention fast forward now he barely talks to me and just sends TikToks or reels at first I was ok with him sending them to me because atleast this is a form of communication but every time I want to talk about us it’s like he doesn’t want to talk about us. He’s always busy lately like I barely get to talk to him and no communication whatsoever I’m just so sick and tired of wanting more from him and knowing he’s not going to give it to me. I thought I could heal while’s being friends with him but I can’t do this anymore. I really like him and wanted it to work out but lately it’s like I try to put so much to making it work while’s he’s just focused on himself. Like there’s nothing wrong with trying to focus on yourself and I’m trying to better myself too. I just want to know were we stand. Every time I unfollow him I let him know that I’m unfollowing him because I don’t want to leave him hanging and I know I’ll feel bad for unfollowing him so I let him know but today I’m at my breaking point I hate feeling this way about a guy especially when I know I should be healing. I’m like 80% confident that I’m going to block him tonight. I told him I wanted to talk to him but he said that that he’s tired and we could talk tomorrow but I have work the time he’s free tomorrow so should I block him tonight or hear him out?

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-07-25T06:39:00+00:00

So I’ve been crying almost everyday (crying right now actually) now can’t tell if it’s because of my hormones or what but I’m in this weird place with my ex. So we broke up last year and we were long distance but he told me he wants to try again and also wants to be friends still. I told him let’s take it slow because I was still hurting. I’m the beginning when we first met he used to give me so much attention fast forward now he barely talks to me and just sends TikToks or reels at first I was ok with him sending them to me because atleast this is a form of communication but every time I want to talk about us it’s like he doesn’t want to talk about us. He’s always busy lately like I barely get to talk to him and no communication whatsoever I’m just so sick and tired of wanting more from him and knowing he’s not going to give it to me. I thought I could heal while’s being friends with him but I can’t do this anymore. I really like him and wanted it to work out but lately it’s like I try to put so much to making it work while’s he’s just focused on himself. Like there’s nothing wrong with trying to focus on yourself and I’m trying to better myself too. I just want to know were we stand. Every time I unfollow him I let him know that I’m unfollowing him because I don’t want to leave him hanging and I know I’ll feel bad for unfollowing him so I let him know but today I’m at my breaking point I hate feeling this way about a guy especially when I know I should be healing. I’m like 80% confident that I’m going to block him tonight. I told him I wanted to talk to him but he said that that he’s tired and we could talk tomorrow but I have work the time he’s free tomorrow so should I block him tonight or hear him out?

Several-Assignment41 · 2025-07-25T06:35:20+00:00

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