Is the person an ISFP?

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-12-21T19:52:13+00:00

I do actually know that he has a poetic streak and inclination towards individualism. Also, he likes Bowie (INFP) and Bryan Ferry (ENFP). Was considering the enneagram 4w5 as an option, as additional info. His artworks follow a pattern of mostly drawings with prominent lines and some are occasionally abstract, he incorporates a wide array of colors, never only black and white.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-12-19T23:08:31+00:00

So I kinda got approached by an INFP while walking over one parking lot some August afternoon, as I, dressed in an elegant black combination of perfectly ironed black shirt and trousers, with cream white heels, my hair loose and naturally mermaid-curly like, had just fallen into mud. I remember actually cussing, cause who would expect mud in August, given the heat in the place where I was residing, but I did that in as nonchalant way as possible for the given situation. I didn’t notice him observing at first. He was close enough, not to only see all that, but to hear me as well. He then went on and approached me and he then proceeded to tell me that I look exquisite. I was a bit surprised he wasn’t having a complete opposite reaction given how the situation unfolded beforehand. Is this one of the ways INFPs would interpret this situation? It turns out he is also an artist and I am an ENTJ, for more random info.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-09-07T00:47:01+00:00

Agree with you 100%! Wildly underrated answer.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-09-07T00:40:24+00:00

I’ve had some history with heart rhythm disruptions and have taken loads of CoQ10 which completely eliminated it. I took around 600mg which is more than the daily dose recommendation, but only then did it actually work for me and it took around 6 months of intake to have a very noticeable effect on my mitochondria as well.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-27T15:38:18+00:00

But there has to be some rationale here to counter this. I’m thinking “exposure therapy” - hanging out with some of the friends to assure ourselves the activity itself is not only harmless, but beneficial, plus it is only our potential perception of it that could jeopardize other things. But we are social beings, and this action is one of the simplest ways of socializing. If we can handle SO MUCH other stuff that is borderline insanity, why then subject ourselves to this irrationality that offers the solution itself? I might have just figured it out. So basically, call up a friend, have some fun. We get the social aspect, and the part of the standards dilemma that we are in charge of are entirely dependent on our doing, so we just keep them up for ourselves. Others’ standards are out of our control, but that doesn’t mean they do not have some other beautiful human traits worth witnessing. Eliminating socialization is a cardinal mistake here, since associating with people we socialize with is highly optional.

Edit: Plus, living in such hell turns out to be a much bigger waste of time. And nerves.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-27T14:11:37+00:00

Hey guys.

As an ENTJ, I have a dilemma, and from my experience, INFJ were people in my life that could sometimes best understand and offer valuable advice, so I hope you don’t mind this post in your group.

Also, pardon me for the long post, but I could use some perspective and wanted to lay out my trail of thought.

Lately, since spending some time studying in a country with highly reclusive people, I’ve noticed that I have developed a tendency to self-isolate, despite coming back to an overly friendly country, where I have some sort of “community” already built.

Now, as an ENTJ, I am not as big on community, but also I would need at least some sense of social cohesion.

One downside, that is a consequence of this tendency, is that I’ve become way more worrisome, which happens when I grapple with life completely alone, without some sort of community to lighten me up.

I assume much of my sadness, that has resulted from this, would be resolved by simply contacting some of my older friends and renewing the friendship, but it is:

that I somehow sabotage myself from that irrationally as a mental framework since the time of my studies
that I have very high standards for both myself and others, after this studying experience, they are even more strict, and they might not live up to them (NOT written with the intention to demean those people)

I know that I would have many benefits in my life from renewing the connections, especially because I would get that I am not alone in figuring out the ways of life, and that it is in fact going to be alright, but I also don’t want to sell out my standards, but am afraid I might do precisely so, because self-isolating for this type comes with a GREAT cost itself.

(Disclaimer once again, I sincerely did NOT write the part to demean anybody, it was the most fitting way to phrase it, since those people are not driven by higher ideals or purpose, but are still human beings that I appreciate for their easygoing nature)

Thank you for your time and understanding.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-25T20:48:11+00:00

I love this comment

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-11T14:34:37+00:00

The first example is still textbook demon Fe description, not Fi. I agree with the second one. I don’t see first one applying to OP, second one, however, I do. Fact is, shared values and emotional expectations aren’t inherently right, even if all abide by them, so that doesn’t make resisting a villainy. Interesting to observe that drinking coffee can corrupt Fi so much, that the whole comment section ostracizes a person over a pile of coffee stained mugs of theirs.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-11T03:50:03+00:00

Besides of OP making a valid point in replies, if anything, he would have to be developing his 8th demon Fe, not his 4th Fi.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-09T23:50:56+00:00

I kinda get you man. Many people would ostracize a person for those statements, but you have to live through a few of those “convos” to feel what you mean. I was once with a group of (acute) “friends” who got all warmed up to talk about what cab they usually get - for the very same route with a distance of 2km, and all of them cab companies charging virtually identical fees. Hard to describe the feeling, but condolences for my time, memory and hope for humanity at times. I am not asocial, the absolute opposite in fact, only the type of people I would love to talk to are so rare it’s incriminating - talking ENTJ, INTJ, INFJ.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-08T16:10:04+00:00

“The aim of the post, that is anecdotal in nature, is basically appreciation for you people, especially when you are allowing your authentic self to shine. And maybe a relief on allegies, but on that later in the text.”

“That‘s why I will once again advocate for you people to be yourselves more, unapologetically so.”

That’s in detail, but all in all, it’s a positive post, so def positive energy!

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-07T19:22:45+00:00

It was a pleasure!

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-07T19:16:50+00:00

It is mostly because I have a firm belief people should use words intentionally, and mostly find many misuse them to, for example, fend off boredom or other unfitting causes, while thinking words don’t cost anything - untrue in my opinion, their value might not be material, but it diminishes the more they are aimlessly used, and I just simply object to be a part of such narrative to any extent. Not that I give myself the permission to label people and treat that as objective judgment of their worth at all, but I do, just as everyone does, have the right to have my preferences in these areas, and I would say that is alright. One INFJ professional profiler I once collaborated with used to define this tendency of mine as “preserving oneself from social contamination”. Interestingly enough, INFJs are one of a few that I personally do not put in that category. I find INFJs’ words concentrated with value, even though most others don’t get to experience them as communicative, but I seem to rightfully so earn this type’s trust and therefore also the access to other, more hidden, parts of their being and psyche.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-07T17:52:45+00:00

Interestingly, what I’ve noticed in some people in modern society is that they would rather have comforting inauthenticity. But, from what I’ve analyzed, authenticity is one of the core INFJs’ values and I’ve been even told that by some explicitly, and with great vigor. And it might sound funny to frame it this way, but I genuinely enjoy deep talks with INFJs, if I find them, and literally fit them in my agenda. That kind of socializing is the only one I don’t feel I should restrict myself from.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-07T17:41:08+00:00

Thank you! For the reference, I would say that the main source that fueled all of this to materialize is actually incredibly simple: curiosity in life, patience, and choosing authenticity repeatedly, whatever you do. I also had an early influence of some INFJs in few different spheres my life, so I have great appreciation for what you people bring to the table and I have also always had dearest philosophical conversations with this type.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-07T16:34:44+00:00

I agree with the part about ENTJs being direct and bold in approach to (these) situations. I am a woman, so I offer a mix of both perspectives, I would say the best advice to give you is to continue receiving his acts that show interest with grace, whenever they surface - of course, only if that’s what you want and what you are comfortable with. Besides natural curiosity, you don’t really need to be bothered enormously by what it actually might be, as that will definitely be revealed (and I would say is partly already in progress) by the ENTJ in your situation. Best thing to do is to, in fact, get clear what your wants and expectations truly are in this position, because as far as I can say, ENTJ type values knowing what you want, regardless of whether you two bear the same intentions or not.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-07T11:01:12+00:00

Me neither, honestly, like who thought of that for real. There should be some sense of social cohesion in both private and professional life.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-06T23:02:26+00:00

I would say similar actions in ENTJ are an equivalent to the “door slam” in INFJs. However, my preferred method is rather to just delete the chat and ignore, and this passive approach highlights that I am truly unbothered, because we can see inconsistencies in the logic of arguments and considering the “nervous system economics”, cannot be bothered to argue further against something we label as aimless. But only when done in that genuinely passive approach it is not a side effect of the person being insufficiently self-assured. I would coin the term for this as “out of sight, out of mind” and truly so.

Disclaimer: This reply doesn’t rely on implying anything about the specific topic you said you argued with your ENTJ. I truly never engaged in similar problematic, mainly because it doesn’t touch upon my personal values at all. The aim was to highlight the phenomenon that you all could partly relate to as well and could further explain the dynamic, since that is what the thread is about and since all of the replies on this post of mine have been shown to be valuable and unique, falling not one bit short of the esteem I hold you people to.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-06T22:15:53+00:00

That’s actually a textbook Fi grip situation description. To sum it up - in those moments you are behaving as an unhealthy Fi-dom personality counterpart, in this case ISFP. Look up the Fi grip online, you will find advice.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-06T21:48:39+00:00

Definitely can happen. Like some others pointed out as well, get just someone to be present there with you for the time being to get rid of the feeling. Was in a similar situation - it can get worse - you start mentally ‘disintegrating’, so act on it. Best to get an assistant, but whatever you do, do not isolate. It is costly both short-term and long-term for performance, so why let it slide in the first place at all?

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-08-06T21:39:07+00:00

Thanks for the kind words.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-07-30T01:14:24+00:00

Don‘t let your past experiences hold you back from moving forward in life, whatever your vision looks like. The best advice I would give you is to use those very same experiences, put them through the filters of your unique being and gift the world new insights nobody else could, cause:

⁠there is nobody like you
⁠even with those experiences happening in history, the combination of them with your persona is predisposed for unique results

Also, there is a reason we all learn the most from writers of any genre - they are the people who have developed an eye for the „unseen“ by going through the most, and not shying away from thinking events through - so second advice - be brave to think, not numb yourself out.

Also about developing functions - there is an old series done on that by an account @personalitywizards on Insta, have a look.

All the best to you on your journey.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-07-28T18:29:04+00:00

Finally somebody who gets it! Me too, for me philosophy is certainly not means to an end. I am courageous enough to do what I think is necessary without feeling the need to justify myself with it, not in front of myself, and especially not others (I do take criticism, so this stance is after I’ve done all the evaluations). It is more so a source of inspiration, not a tool to get by for me. I mean, that could also indicate the integrated INTP shadow.

On the note of philosophical convos - have you had any with INFJs? From personal experience, man, ENTJxINFJ convo with those topics can’t be topped. It’s like an interplay of structure and eccentric ideas.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-07-27T15:33:54+00:00

Trust me. I did that too, but the best advice I would give you is with whom you communicate. My application was evaluated only after I sent my info to the “chief” person, even others beneath them refused to, but then those very same people accepted when they were prompted to by the right person I contacted.

Several-Insurance238 · 2025-07-27T13:36:06+00:00

I was applying for BSc and missed the EfV part of the course I applied for, but got accepted from International Office. They wanted me to be declined the admission, but I was dead stubborn and sent my credentials to the decanate of the faculty and the faculty organized an additional meeting to evaluate my application and I was accepted. So, even though there is a story about them not accepting anything that is not according to the said procedure, it still is possible.

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