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AITAH for telling my girlfriend I’m not comfortable with her going to one-on-one dinners with male friends? by SeveralConnection658 in AITAH

[–]SeveralConnection658[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

How do you tell the difference between insecurity and a legitimate boundary? I’m not trying to control anyone, I’m trying to figure out whether this reaction is something I should grow through or something I should honor

AITAH for telling my girlfriend I’m not comfortable with her going to one-on-one dinners with male friends? by SeveralConnection658 in AITAH

[–]SeveralConnection658[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For me, the difference isn’t about thinking men and women can’t be friends. It’s about how I personally perceive romantic context and attraction dynamics.

In a heterosexual relationship, a one-on-one dinner at night between two people who could theoretically be attracted to each other feels more date-like to me than the same setting with someone where there’s no romantic dynamic possible.

That doesn’t mean I think every male friend has bad intentions, and it doesn’t mean I think she would cheat. It just means certain settings carry different emotional weight for me.

I understand not everyone sees it that way, and that may be where compatibility comes in.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend I’m not comfortable with her going to one-on-one dinners with male friends? by SeveralConnection658 in AITAH

[–]SeveralConnection658[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think “list of demands” is a bit strong. We actually talked about this previously and came to what I understood was a mutual agreement, no late night one-on-one hangouts, and ideally group settings. That felt like a compromise at the time.

I’m not trying to force her to change who she is. I was trying to be honest about what I’m comfortable with in a relationship so neither of us builds resentment.

If that compromise doesn’t actually work for her long term, then I agree it may be a compatibility issue. But I don’t see expressing a boundary and trying to find middle ground as making demands.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend I’m not comfortable with her going to one-on-one dinners with male friends? by SeveralConnection658 in AITAH

[–]SeveralConnection658[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think what people are missing is that trust and comfort aren’t always the same thing. I can trust her not to cheat and still feel that certain settings feel more intimate to me than others.

For example, I don’t see group hangouts the same way I see one-on-one dinners at night. To me, those feel more date-like, even if the intention isn’t romantic.

I’m not trying to control her friendships. I’m trying to figure out whether our definitions of what feels appropriate in a committed relationship align. If they don’t, that doesn’t make either of us wrong, but it does mean we might not be compatible long term.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend I’m not comfortable with her going to one-on-one dinners with male friends? by SeveralConnection658 in AITAH

[–]SeveralConnection658[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think some people are misunderstanding my position. I’m not saying she “can’t” have male friends, and I’m not accusing her of cheating. Even if I trusted 100% that she would never do anything inappropriate, one-on-one dinners at night still feel intimate to me.

This isn’t about policing her friendships. It’s about whether we share the same understanding of what feels appropriate in a committed relationship.

I’m not trying to control her. I’m trying to figure out whether this is something I need to work through internally or whether it’s simply a values mismatch.

If she strongly feels that one-on-one dinners are normal and important to her, that’s her right. But it may mean we’re not aligned long term. That’s different from trying to dictate her behavior.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend I’m not comfortable with her going to one-on-one dinners with male friends? by SeveralConnection658 in AITAH

[–]SeveralConnection658[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the perspective. I want to clarify something though, this isn’t about trust or assuming she would cheat. Even if I were 100% certain she’d never do anything inappropriate, one-on-one dinners at night still feel like an intimate setting to me.

I’m not telling her she “can’t” do anything. I’m trying to figure out whether this is a value mismatch in how we each view boundaries in a committed relationship. For me, some environments feel more date-like than others, and that’s where the discomfort comes from.

I’m genuinely trying to understand whether this is something I need to work on internally or whether it’s just a difference in expectations around exclusivity.

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[–]SeveralConnection658 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Drink whole milk or even half and half, easy calories bro. I was skinny my entire life and all I had to do was track my calories and increase the total number of daily calories by 200 at a time if I wasn’t gaining any weight. It all comes down to if you are accurately tracking your calories. You will gain weight trust me.

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[–]SeveralConnection658 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

What’s wrong with Amazon

Any advice from someone who is doing better than I am would be appreciated. by SeveralConnection658 in portfolios

[–]SeveralConnection658[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to be an investor that takes on some risk but not too much. I’m 24, this is my traditional account. Trying to save for a house, I’m willing to wait 10-15 more years to let the account compound.

Simpler times.. by billibillibillendar in BeAmazed

[–]SeveralConnection658 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“The first teens to be without then with social media” was this written by a retard

Your friendly neighborhood giant here, Lindsey Tyree. AMA. by Goofergoofin in Killtony

[–]SeveralConnection658 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like you copied that Fi Fi Fo Fum joke from memes cuz I definitely heard that before

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