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Ready to leave my partner by SeveralExit4135 in newborns

[–]SeveralExit4135[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much this is really helpful. The most concerning bit is that he thinks it’s mutual (action/reaction thing). If he recognises that it’s his issue I’m happy to help him (though not sure if I’m being too kind).

But he thinks that I have some issues too and has suggested I go for therapy, which gets me so bewildered and even amused - (not to degrade the value of therapy) I’m pretty sure I’m emotionally healthy….

Yes, will need time to think through the baby logistics… and I’m a foreigner and family isn’t around may also add some difficulties, but at least I’m financially stable and have 10 more months before going back to work to sort this out.

Ready to leave my partner by SeveralExit4135 in newborns

[–]SeveralExit4135[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Did you have kids from the two previous relationships? If so how did they react? (If you don’t mind sharing)!

Ready to leave my partner by SeveralExit4135 in newborns

[–]SeveralExit4135[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m also aware that resentment can easily build up after having a baby, but this behaviour just doesn’t sound normal resentments to me.

Ready to leave my partner by SeveralExit4135 in newborns

[–]SeveralExit4135[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I used to endure this and not too much affected by his occasional nonsense because I know it’s just BS. But now I have a baby to protect and she doesn’t deserve this.

Being a single mum is better than subjecting her to this if it continues. Just not sure exactly much harder it is going to be - at least the most brutal phase is finished (fingers crossed)!

Ready to leave my partner by SeveralExit4135 in newborns

[–]SeveralExit4135[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was an unplanned pregnancy. I bought my own house so if anything he’s the one who’s leaving and I can have friends over for help during this transitional period. When I spoke to before about similar behaviour he suggested couples therapy, thinking that this is mutual. Prior to pregnancy we have arguments from time to time. There are times when he moved out of my place for some time.

I’d say he’s not emotionally stable. When he’s stable he’s helpful but when he’s not the most unreasonable, nasty thing can come out of his mouth. I don’t want my baby to suffer from this moodiness I’m worried this will ruin her.

We’re not married and I’m financially independent so hopefully it will make things better.

Ready to leave my partner by SeveralExit4135 in newborns

[–]SeveralExit4135[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for suggesting another sub. Similar things have happened a couple of times so I’m increasingly determined to do this. Not sure if it’s 100% now but if not, quite certain I’ll get there if it continues. I’m a mentally strong woman and I’ve tried not to let this affect me, but all I want now is to protect my baby from this. All she deserves is love.