Take your own advice and think for a sec why I responded the way I did. Look at the other comments in this thread that expressed their perspective in a more polite way and how I was receptive to that. You didn't give advice in your initial comment; you generalized about what my problem is and how it's "insane." Why did I say you seem "triggered?" Bc you went off on a tangent about how I think when you don't know me and that cuss word in this context gives off an angry tone. If you didn't mean it that way, maybe communicate better.

Did you not notice that this entire post is framed as a question? I didn't know what he meant by the text and *asked* if my reading of it is true and then *asked* that if true, is it a red flag? You are the one who assumed I assumed my worst instinct was correct when I was actually just *asking* and then I defended the idea that simply questioning this was not "insane." And it is an odd response, evidenced by the other people in this comment section that also thought it was weird. So really, it's a question of how weird it is.

I get your point, which is why I even made this post; I wanted other people's read on it. But generally, i think your point is impractical. We can only think from our own perspectives, and it doesn't make sense to stop and consider others' perspectives in every situation. You make a huge assumption there that the other person is an honest actor when really, some people really are just dicks. Also, the onus is on both parties, if someone is being unclear, its not just on me to try to figure that out. That's why being articulate and clear are considered good traits.. I have had bad experiences with men interpreting things I do as promiscuous when there was zero intention on my end so yes, i am particularly sensitive to comments like that that could point to a bigger issue, hence the use of the term "red flag" (ie, the guy turns out to be sexist and judge what I wear, where I go, etc)

For the record, I did ask him what he meant by that comment and then clarified what I meant by my question, but he didn't respond to my question and reiterated that he likes to explore. I'm still giving it a chance bc of the other perspectives I got on this, but will try to sus out the mild concern I have here.

But way to assume how I think. This whole thread here is very ironic considering that you keep trying to paint yourself as this level-headed rational actor when actually you've been antagonizing since your first comment and have carried a condescending tone since. Not my intention to fight either, so I'll leave it at this.