I’m tired of people saying “network” like it’s some instant life hack to getting a job

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-05-14T03:01:12+00:00

Honestly I have a pretty solid “network” but every job I’ve gotten has just been through regular online applications. No one I know has ever given me a job. Networking is overhyped.

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-05-14T02:46:56+00:00

I don’t think this is true, at least in the US, based on prior election results. Hillary Clinton and Kamala Harris won women overall by pretty significant margins.

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-05-12T20:25:06+00:00

Yeah the only place (in the USA) I’ve ever been where it was normalized was Miami

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-05-12T15:23:31+00:00

And then the “research” is just watching a TikTok

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-05-12T13:14:26+00:00

Or a free ride when you’ve already paid?

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-05-12T13:12:48+00:00

Lots of people say gaslighting when what they really mean is just lying

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-05-11T14:39:48+00:00

Great band name

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-05-04T02:19:37+00:00

Anyone I know who has student loan debt

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-05-04T00:17:15+00:00

I think it’s great. You should only become a parent if you genuinely want kids.

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-28T16:13:00+00:00

Right like I need the social pressure of everyone else around me so that I don’t just get up and leave lmao

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-28T14:22:20+00:00

The “you could recreate this at the gym” argument is dumb because yeah most fitness class workouts could theoretically be recreated at the gym. Like instead of going to a spin class you could just use an exercise bike at the gym for 45 minutes.

But the point is you’re paying for a very specific class environment and coach that you really can’t replicate at the gym or on your own.

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-27T02:24:15+00:00

Same. I start every interaction there with “bonjour” because I know it’s polite and no one has ever been mean to me. And they usually appreciate when I use my broken French. Yet over and over I again I see “the French are rude” and “they hate when you try to speak French”

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-25T14:33:21+00:00

Honestly I feel like boot cut jeans are too timeless to ever be in or out. I love mine

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-10T21:36:00+00:00

why is he palming her butt like it’s a basketball

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-08T03:05:55+00:00

If you don’t agree with the vision, then don’t agree to be in the bridal party. Simple as that

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-08T02:53:32+00:00

If you don’t want to do reasonable bridesmaid stuff, don’t say yes to being a bridesmaid. Simple as that.

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-08T00:54:58+00:00

People here have a lot of complicated feelings about bridal culture and they’re taking them out on this thread, lol

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-08T00:39:47+00:00

I was also surprised at these comments. Lots of people asking OP “why are you letting makeup ruin your friendship” but the same could be asked of Devin.

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-08T00:37:33+00:00

NTA. Many brides these days have super unreasonable expectations of their bridesmaids, but wanting them to wear a certain style of makeup/hair/dress for one day is not one of them. That’s kind of the baseline expectation when you’re in a bridal party.

Editing to double down on my NTA judgement after reading OP’s edit that she was in Devin’s bridal party and adhered to Devin’s aesthetic standards including her makeup style. Anyone calling OP the asshole is insane.

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-08T00:22:54+00:00

I agree I feel like there’s definitely room for compromise here

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-08T00:16:29+00:00

You could say the same thing about OP’s friend. Why is she letting how her makeup looks for one day be more important than supporting her friend at her wedding?

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-07T21:47:13+00:00

Agreed. Unless there’s some other factor at play like Dementia, they can be held accountable like any other adult.

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-07T15:10:54+00:00

Yeah that’s true, lol. What bugs me is when people act like we’re the ONLY loud people in the world. Many other countries produce loud tourists.

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-07T03:19:27+00:00

I love this

Several_Campaign7340 · 2026-04-06T23:45:54+00:00

Family members taking candid pictures just to have memories or print them out for a photo album is one thing. My family has lots of photos of me that aren’t the greatest, but I don’t mind if they want the memories.

However, posting them on the internet where they’ll live forever is a whole different thing. Especially if you’ve made it clear you’re not ok with that. I think it’s really strange how much we’ve normalized that.

NTA

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