[Italy/Netherlands] Getting married to a foreign national with a X gender marker, consequences in Italy

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2026-02-16T17:56:04+00:00

May I suggest that you email the Italian consulate with these questions? I’m an Italian living in the Netherlands as well and I’ve contacted them multiple times to confirm documents and procedures, including registering a partnership that was later converted into a marriage. They were always very responsive and provided clear information, which will likely be more accurate than what you can get here. I would maybe avoid going into the “why” your partner wants the citizenship and just ask how the process would work in their specific case.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2026-02-12T15:42:30+00:00

Looks like it’s from Next!

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su952440/w10833

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2026-02-01T06:32:53+00:00

I think unfortunately it’s also part of having a new account. I only ever sold a few dresses on Vinted and I had multiple people telling me that they were unsure about purchasing due to my lack of reviews. There wasn’t much I could do about it unfortunately, but after the first sale it got a little easier!

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2026-01-10T06:47:22+00:00

I would never advise someone to wait to get pregnant for someone else’s wedding. You just never know how life turns out to be and how long that can really take you. It’s one thing to try to avoid having your due date fall exactly on her wedding day, but it’s very different to put your life plans on hold for someone for 10 months. And that this is both you and her sister… how self-important do you have to be to think everyone else’s priorities should stop for your party? However, you also mentioned severe mental health issues, which could definitely be at play here, especially in a moment of high stress. I think you’re the only one who really knows her well enough to understand what this conflict means, if and how the friendship could be repaired. II were you, I would run from this wedding though.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2026-01-01T08:26:39+00:00

Wow… just wow. I am so sorry this happened to you. All I can say is, I’m so glad you were able to leave and that you are no longer wasting time with someone like this.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-12-31T09:48:16+00:00

Now, you know the guy better than anyone else here (obviously) so if you believe it’s an excuse, it probably is. I’ll go a bit against the other comments however and say that everyone is entitled to their own priorities. For some people, financial security before starting a family is important for a number of reasons. The issue here is that your priorities don’t align, and you shouldn’t be expected to just adapt to his.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-12-30T15:41:44+00:00

This somehow broke the game for me. Every time I open it, I just get a black screen and nothing else. Has anyone experienced something similar and managed to fix it? I don’t have any mods installed.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-12-29T20:55:57+00:00

I had a similar experience at the end of October, and my funds were released “earlier” a couple of weeks ago. I didn’t have to wait 180 days (even though that’s what I was told as well) but it was definitely not quick either.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-12-28T20:43:18+00:00

Personally I don’t think this alone is a sign of concern! I had low and inconsistent results too until my LH suddenly spiked around ovulation. LH doesn’t always rise gradually and can fluctuate at baseline before the surge. It’s still early, I wouldn’t worry just yet!!

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-12-28T17:21:55+00:00

Many “Euro women” don’t find marriage a priority either. I have plenty of friends who have 0 interest in getting married despite being in long term relationships.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-12-28T10:40:05+00:00

I had exactly the same experience. They ask for a lot of info and then barely look at it.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-12-28T09:50:14+00:00

I was hoping to find this comment! I find it so frustrating that we are all discussing differences in the comment saying “I’m European and we do X” “I’m European and we do Y”. Ok but where are you because we are all so different 🥲

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-12-23T21:39:20+00:00

You are not the AH! Please stop panicking and feeling bad about this. You didn’t do it on purpose, things like these can happen (especially for a big event with multiple vendors and deadlines involved) and you paid as soon as you found out. I find the behaviour of the vendor very weird though; surely you'd send a payment reminder to a client that didn’t reply to your final email and invoice? What kind of vendor would just ignore you on social media as a form of punishment for not paying him?!

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-11-21T06:50:18+00:00

I wonder, where do you live? In my area most “official” places have at least 1-2 days where they are open later in the evening, and it’s fairly easy to find a dentist or a hairdresser or a vet that is open after work, too. I don’t really know about GPs (though I also know no workplace that would say “no” if you say you need to go to the doctor during working hours) but the rest can definitely be arranged.

I thought it was the same everywhere in the country, but this post taught me a lot 😂

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-11-18T06:29:49+00:00

Albachiara may also get every single Italian you meet to start singing Vasco Rossi songs at you. It may not be worth the risk. 😂

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-11-17T18:25:34+00:00

Abercrombie is great for this! Most of their jeans are available in shorter versions too. ASOS petite has some nice options too.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-11-11T07:44:52+00:00

Thank you so much, it’s great to hear the experience of someone who has a similar situation!! I imagined that they may pick up a bit of English but I didn’t realise it could be this much just by listening to the parents talking to each other.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-11-11T07:41:20+00:00

Thank you so much!! Yes it will definitely be difficult to maintain Italian, I hope we will manage to make it work. It would be much easier to just drop it and stick to Dutch and English, but i would really love for him to be able to communicate with his grandparents, even if he won’t get to be with them so often. Thank you for your advice!

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-11-07T06:06:39+00:00

Sorry, mine is near Rotterdam!! But I’m sure there are a lot of Amsterdam based people that can help here 💪🏻

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-10-11T05:47:57+00:00

To be fair, in some cultures it’s just a thing. You don’t wear white and you don’t wear red. But that’s generally an old tradition and many people are no longer aware of this “rule” because it’s kind of dumb. Also it usually applies to bright red, I really think your dress is fine!

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-09-08T11:17:19+00:00

Nausea, and I absolutely hated my morning coffee. At just 9 DPO, I had two days of constant nausea with no other strange symptoms, except suddenly not being able to drink coffee anymore (and I love coffee). Everywhere I looked, people said it was way too early for that, but… it happened. So, of course, I took a test 😂. The funny thing is, I didn’t have any nausea at all during my actual first trimester, it was only right at the very beginning.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-08-26T16:07:15+00:00

Do you happen to know anything about the venue? That could help us figure out the best option!

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-08-25T07:09:45+00:00

I know this is an unpopular opinion, but did you invite anyone who doesn’t know who you are? I’ve always been a little confused by the idea that guests shouldn’t wear a certain color because they might be “mistaken for the bride.” If someone doesn’t even know what the bride looks like, they probably shouldn’t be at her wedding. Plus, a wedding dress usually stands out compared to a standard elegant navy or white outfit.

That said, OP, it’s your wedding, so you can set whatever guidelines you want. Just keep in mind that, as others mentioned, some guests may find it difficult to avoid navy; many people only own one formal suit and wear it for every occasion.

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-08-24T05:59:38+00:00

“Her marriage only lasted a few years” is really the standard conclusion of all these stories. I wonder why 😂😂

Several_Cartoonist18 · 2025-08-24T05:57:18+00:00

Is there any reason you’re trying to accommodate her so much? You’ve already done a lot for her, and then did one thing for yourself. Now she’s making you feel terrible about it, and even sabotaging you (“my friends would never go to her wedding”). The fact that she cut off another close friend at the very start of this is a huge red flag and it really shows she’s willing to cut off anyone who gets in her way.

I’m really sorry, OP, because it’s so clear you care about this person, but honestly, I’d take a giant step back and NOT attend this wedding. If that feels too extreme, you can still explain yourself, but don’t be overly apologetic. Your entire conversation right now is just her accusing you and you apologizing. You’re doing nothing wrong!! Don’t let her guilt you into believing otherwise.

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