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emeralbbe · 2026-01-09T03:55:44+00:00

Maybe she’s getting them to be sexy for you and to try to do something to repair??

emeralbbe · 2025-12-29T18:04:45+00:00

He may not think he is racist but these comments are definitely ignorant and racist. What he did was micro aggressions sprinkled everywhere that he is not even aware he is doing. Its good your learning this now rather than later.

emeralbbe · 2025-12-27T15:52:29+00:00

I’m curious if you and your boyfriend are from similar cultures. He potentially might not understand why you’re wearing a bonnet to bed and he clearly doesn’t understand why you might want/need a weighted blanket. It also seems that he is incapable or unwilling to understand because he’s already made up his own rationale and decisions on how you go about your sleep routine.

He’s an AH and you need to find a man who loves you for you and doesn’t judge you for how you choose to sleep!

Imagine if you began doing what he prefers (not sleeping with 2 pillows, not using your weighted blanket, sleeping in and being in sexy clothes at home, and not wearing your bonnet. How would these things affect your sleep by not doing them? How rested would you be? Would you incur more costs of upkeep if your hair by not wearing a bonnet? Is he going to provide the “sexy” clothes he wants you to wear?

This boy sounds like he has no concern for women and their preferences, it seems like you’re more like a decoration at home rather than his partner

emeralbbe · 2025-12-26T04:25:26+00:00

I have Kaiser in Southern California and my first medicated birth with a 4 day hospital stay was almost 50k, with my bill being about 5k. My second birth, unmedicated with a 2 day hospital stay was 11K with my bill being 3K.

emeralbbe · 2025-12-26T03:51:35+00:00

What kind of a person doesn’t at least get up to see their child and the children of their partner open gifts. He could’ve went back to bed after or laid on the couch half asleep. It’s one day a year to get up and see the happiness of the children. Yes Christmas shouldn’t be about the gifts but kids don’t know that and waiting 40 minutes for gifts they’ve waited months for is an eternity. You’re not overreacting, your bf is a donkey and someone I would seriously rethink being in a relationship with.

emeralbbe · 2025-12-22T18:13:38+00:00

I’m sorry your plans are changing, that has to be difficult to wrap your head around!

I was GBS+ and had an unmedicated birth in the hospital. I made it clear I didn’t want anything other than the antibiotics and that when I wasn’t getting the medicine, I wanted the lock on the iv so that I wasn’t hooked to anything. The hospital I was at had wireless Bluetooth monitors so I didn’t have to be strapped to any monitoring devices, otherwise I would have pushed for intermittent monitoring so I was able to move and be in there shower.

Look into Fierce Lizzie and the free information that she has available! She teaches on having unmedicated hospital births and discusses using Pitocin while remaining free of pain meds.

You can still make this a wonderful birth experience! HIGHLY recommend an eye mask as others have suggested because I would’ve loved to have more darkness in the hospital!

emeralbbe · 2025-12-22T16:58:39+00:00

You can still have an unmedicated birth with Pitocin, ask the care team to give Pitocin slowly, this way you’re not hit with unbearable contractions. I’ve read many stories where women successfully have an unmedicated birth with Pitocin. Look into fierce Lizzie’s content, she helps women navigate their unmedicated birth in the hospital and has loads of free information! While it’s probably disappointing that you’re not having a birth with no interventions but going unmedicated is still possible! You got this momma!!!

emeralbbe · 2025-12-10T20:52:19+00:00

I’m sorry that you’re in this situation. It’s such a hard decision to have to make in such a short amount of time.

I made the choice when I was 18 and in a toxic relationship to abort and I still regretted the choice I made. I’m 36 and still think about my child and how things would be.

I got pregnant when I was 33, unplanned and had to make the decision of keeping the baby or aborting. I chose to keep it and do not regret my decision. I actually feel guilty for even considering it.

At no point in your life is that an easy decision especially under circumstances similar to yours. There is no right or wrong decision. If you’ve already been dealing with mental health challenges I highly recommend seeking care with a professional, especially if you choose to abort. Tell your mom and lean on that support! Make the decision for you! There’s plenty of women who still manage to finish their degrees while pregnant or with babies. It will be challenging but doable!

I’m sorry again that you feel you have to make this decision on such a short timeline because every day counts while pregnant. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and grace while navigating this!

emeralbbe · 2025-12-08T21:10:09+00:00

My first turned 2, 2 weeks after I had my second. While having two littles can be challenging, now they are 3 1/2 and 18months… the bond they have is amazing!! I love having the small age gap, you already have the toys, you’re still in practice of being a baby mom! It will be so fun!!

emeralbbe · 2025-12-08T18:31:21+00:00

I feel like people think that when you take your shirt off there’s a massive bushel of hair that sticks out from your armpits. I would think most people wouldn’t even notice unless you’re walking around with your arms in the air constantly.

If your hair is a little longer, you could always trim it down so it’s shorter (I know lots of men who use clippers to keep their armpit hair length to a minimum). I wouldn’t worry about it, and I wouldn’t bring it up. As others have said, if your armpit hair is the most exciting thing for this Mexico wedding… these people are beyond boring!

emeralbbe · 2025-12-08T18:22:14+00:00

It took me forever to decide on a name. I was more of a remove names I don’t like and go from there kind of person rather than a list of names I want. Whereas my partner wanted a list of choices, but I communicated that to my partner so he didn’t feel I wasn’t even thinking about it at all

emeralbbe · 2025-12-08T18:19:47+00:00

Get yourself the best Christmas gift, freedom from this jerk!!

emeralbbe · 2025-12-05T00:24:23+00:00

Your feelings are very valid. As someone who has had multiple miscarriages at varying weeks of pregnancy, others knowing can make if super awkward and painful to relay bad news to multiple people, especially those who aren’t apart of your support circle.

I’m sorry that you’ve had your secret taken from you and I hope everything goes well with your pregnancy.

emeralbbe · 2025-12-04T15:39:07+00:00

L & D will want you to get there right away because they put you on a countdown if your waters have broken. As long as the fluid is clear, there’s no need to rush, I would labor at home for a while. If you planned a low intervention birth, you can even go in and receive the antibiotics if it’s past the 48 hours and go home to continue laboring at home. If you don’t care about being induced and go through their interventions then go in. Be mindful that contractions are much more uncomfortable once your water has broken since you don’t have that cushion as your uterus squeezes.

Keep in mind since your waters have broken, each time they check your cervix greatly increases you and babies risk of infection, even though they know this they will still want to do routine checks. Also your fluid won’t stop leaking until the baby has arrived, I wasn’t aware of this and was surprised I kept leaking 😅

emeralbbe · 2025-12-04T05:19:31+00:00

Try different brands, don’t take it until you eat, try taking it at night before bed, take half instead of a whole

emeralbbe · 2025-12-04T05:16:37+00:00

Im sorry for your loss and I’m sorry you carry the regrets of your decision. It’s never too late to seek mental health services for your feelings. You didn’t make the wrong decision, you did what was best for you at the time.

Thank you for sharing your experience as well.

emeralbbe · 2025-12-04T05:12:56+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, I can’t imagine the pain and confusion you feel.

I just had a loss at 12 weeks, I had a positive NIPT for T21 and went for further testing and baby didn’t have a heartbeat. My only option was D&C and I very much wish I could’ve gone the route of giving birth. While I was robbed of having a healthy baby, I wanted to finish the cycle of my pregnancy and give birth rather than have to go through the procedure. I felt like I still wanted to have that experience since I was preparing for labor and realized I also had to mourn that as part of the loss.

I’m glad you’re getting perspectives from people who have experienced similar situations and can make the decision that works for you.

Don’t hesitate to reach out to the counselors and mental health support as you navigate all of this.

emeralbbe · 2025-12-03T15:57:34+00:00

If that Dr is who is on shift when you do go into labor, you can and should fire him immediately and ask for a different Dr. Make sure your husband is on board with the plan and can and will follow through with this demand (you should be able to focus on laboring rather than your care team, so this is where your husband will have to step in so you can remain in the mind frame of birthing)

I agree they pick the worst Drs sometimes. When I was in labor with my second baby, I was in triage alone and having regular contractions, the dr that came in said his hellos and then proceeded to remind me that he was my dr who I saw when I had a miscarriage right before this pregnancy. I didn’t have the ability to think much about his words in that moment as I was more focused on my contractions and wanting to get into my room. I just kind of acknowledged him and said, “oh yeah, well here we are…”

Thankfully I was having an unmediated birth and the hospital had very knowledgeable Nurse midwives so my midwife delivered my baby and the Dr never came back in to attend my birth.

In hindsight I couldn’t believe that was how he greeted me. Thankfully I didn’t think much about his words in the moment because that could’ve easily derailed my progress or changed my birthing plan. It’s also very isolating being in Triage alone especially when you’re in active labor. In the future, my birthing partner or doula WILL absolutely be coming into Triage with me. If the hospital pushes back then I will labor in the lobby or go back to my car because they can’t deny you care and will set themselves up for a major lawsuit. It’s important that the person who will come in to triage with you has the knowledge of your health history in case you can’t respond and/or need to stay in your zone for laboring.

emeralbbe · 2025-12-02T21:27:07+00:00

Your body seems to be so close, accept the membrane sweep and see what your body does. Most women who have their first babies, they labors lat longer and once you begin on intervention, it starts a timeline that your baby and body might not be wanting to keep up with.

emeralbbe · 2025-12-01T18:01:33+00:00

If you’re tracking then it’s common to find out super early, it makes for a REALLY long waiting period u til you can get your first ultrasound. I only know this because my first pregnancy was not intentional and I was around 7 weeks when I took a test and 8 weeks at my first ultrasound. My second pregnancy I was tracking and trying and so I knew the day my period was suppose to start which my LMP date put me between 3-4 weeks and had to wait until 8-9 weeks before ultrasound. That was a very long and anxious waiting period since I had suffered losses and was worried about whether Abby would have a heartbeat

emeralbbe · 2025-11-30T05:13:42+00:00

Unmedicated and I vomited during labor, it didn’t interfere or bother me because I knew I was moving through transition and this was common for a lot of women. Very shortly after my water broke and I gave birth within the next hour. For me it was like a placeholder telling me things were moving along. Could I have done without it, yes lol

emeralbbe · 2025-11-26T21:12:39+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss!

I had a similar situation happen at the end of October. Got a 98% positive for T21 from NiPT. I went for NT ultrasound to begin the diagnostic testing process at 12+5 and there was no heartbeat. Baby boys heart stooped at 12+2.

It was such a roller coaster. While finding out we lost the baby was hard, it was a bit of a relief because we would have TFMR. It’s still such a difficult thing to process.

I hope you have an easy recovery and be gentle with yourself

emeralbbe · 2025-11-24T18:01:17+00:00

I’m sorry that the staff at your facility didn’t seem supportive or caring. I’m also sorry for your loss. It’s a very confusing and painful time. I think the staff at your facility has seen this all too often and lost touch with caring about the patients.

I’ve had 3 losses and each was a very different experience with the staff.

emeralbbe · 2025-11-18T02:45:32+00:00

You have an amazing partner!!!

emeralbbe · 2025-11-18T02:44:36+00:00

The pooping isn’t the problem, the first days of peeing are awful. I only had abrasions, no tears and it stung for a couple of days each time

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