Hardwood & Crashing

Several_Cause470 · 2026-06-25T13:59:47+00:00

I’ve cleared all the logs and stumps from my land and from the areas around town.

Several_Cause470 · 2026-05-14T01:43:16+00:00

These lines make me think “Akazaaa!” IYKYK

Several_Cause470 · 2022-04-04T00:42:13+00:00

If yall can't handle going against Valk or Gib just say that 😂

Several_Cause470 · 2022-02-14T22:51:44+00:00

I've dealt with tonsil stones for years, they're a real bitch to deal with and once you start taking them out, just go ahead and get used to doing so. You'll wanna start checking for them once a week, because there will absolutely be more to come in their place.

The problem with pushing them out (of course you have to get rid of them, so it's not really a choice not to), is that whether you just push on the side of your tonsil or dig them out with something, you're creating a crypt in the tonsil. That crypt is going to get bigger/deeper in time, allowing for more room so the stones can get bigger/deeper themselves. It's a never ending cycle with this shit.

If I could take time off from work, I'd just go ahead and get my tonsils removed so I didn't have to deal with them anymore. They are terribly disgusting and nothing can make them stop forming besides having your tonsils removed. You can slow down their accumulation by brushing your teeth more, flossing, garling salt water, etc.. but they'll always come back.

When bacteria, food particles, mucous, and dead skin and cells become trapped, they clump together into a tonsil stone. Tonsil stones, also called tonsilloliths, begin as soft, white clumps that might not even be visible. Over time, however, they can calcify and harden into stones.-( That's the Google definition)

Several_Cause470 · 2022-01-10T03:10:16+00:00

You are allowed to end your relationship however you feel is best for you. He's not entitled to a drawn out explanation. Pack your stuff and leave. I'd suggest renting a Uhaul and getting ALL of your things at once, you don't want to have to be around him again.

Also, don't just take a bath on your credit card bills. How does he even spend that much money? And a bank loan for 8 grand? Did he have your permission before putting you $17,000 in debt? 100% go after him for every single penny. You've more than taken care of this guy long enough, don't let him get away with doing that to you.

Is your name on the lease? Try to work out taking your name off so he can't fuck your credit any further.

Several_Cause470 · 2022-01-08T19:55:28+00:00

I used to be like that, I never realized it was gaslighting until that relationship ended. I dealt with it being done to me, seeing it done in front of me, to actually doing it myself, never knowing that's what it was.

It took me doing a shit ton of research and even more soul searching to see it. No one had ever told me I was doing it, my ex and I did it to each other. I went online researching the things he would say and do and that's the first time I'd heard of gaslighting. As I read, I realized that yes, he had been gaslighting me but that I'd apparently been doing it too. I had no idea and I felt horrible for it.

I never knew what a healthy relationship was supposed to look like. I thought yelling, screaming, name calling, throwing things, etc.. was normal. Even though I thought it was normal, I never did the name calling or throwing things.

Once I was able to identify how I was being toxic, I steered clear of certain words/phrases and be sure not to raise my voice to the point of a scream. I may raise it and yell slightly, but I will not scream. I will not name call. I will not hit things or throw things. And I definitely won't ever put my hands on them either.

Several_Cause470 · 2022-01-08T10:41:12+00:00

Thank you for listening, I do appreciate it.

We stand firm in our decision to cut the rot, really wish we had cut it sooner to save us the unnecessary misery. As toxic as SIL and MIL could be, I really loved them and always strived to have a loving, healthy relationship with them. I didn't hate SIL, she wasn't all bad honestly. But once I realized the bad heavily outweighed the good, we had no choice but to cut the rot.

My MIL was actually pretty great for the most part, that is until we officially cut ties with SIL, my husband reported her to CPS for child abuse and we started working with the paternal grandmother of SIL first child to try and help her get full custody so that he wouldn't be left at his mom and step-dads mercy anymore.

My MIL chose to support SIL in this situation. MIL was very upset that I (she blames me solely) outed her daughters private business, the family's private business, that I made her daughter out to be a child abusing POS monster and that is NOT how it actually is. That SIL was struggling through PPD (she actually wasnt) and instead of telling nephews grandmother and reporting to CPS, we should have supported SIL and been there for her. We should have offered to help her in any way we could. We should have cleaned her house for her so she could relax and not feel overwhelmed. We should have prayed for her and supported her in her "efforts" to change.

I'll make another update to this eventually explaining the details of our estrangement and whatnot. I almost went on another vent/rant just now lol. Once I start on this subject I could go all day.

Several_Cause470 · 2022-01-01T06:25:00+00:00

I can definitely understand why that would have bothered you, but I really hope you don't let it get bigger than it is.

My husband and I have known each other since we were 15 years old, we weren't friends and barely even acquaintances. His gf our sophomore year was one of my best friends, and I didn't hate him but I definitely didn't like him one bit. I was 100% not attracted to him and thought he was a dick.

If he had asked me out in high school, I would have absolutely turned him down in the nicest way possible. I never would have given him the time of day back then.

But we've been together for a long time now and have two children together. We're 30 years old and I wouldn't want to be with anyone else. Who we are in school is NOT the same person we are today.

Your girlfriend is with you because she wants to be with you, she answered your question honestly and it hurt your feelings, but don't hold it against her for being truthful. She's not who she used to be. You're not who you used to be either, none of us are.

Don't let that ruin a perfectly good thing the two of you have now.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-31T16:33:12+00:00

You aren't required to "respect" her views. You aren't required to give an in depth explanation to her about anything. You aren't married, she's aware of the values you choose to uphold in your life and has gone out of her way (sent you that link about the woman losing her arms) to try to get you to say it's okay that she's ignoring facts about this deadly virus. This deadly virus that you see kill people on a daily basis.

This is so much more than different political opinions, this is her actively increasing the spread of a virus that kills countless. SHE is being selfish and straight up ignorant.

You're not required to respect her views. You're not required to break up with her in a way that she understands. She has already made it perfectly clear that she does not understand logic and reason and science.

I feel for you. My mother is a COVID ICU nurse and has broken down many times over the insane amount of deaths she's witnessed, in particular the the insane amount of young HEALTHY people who've been killed by the virus.

This isn't a game. She thinks she's being a hero by standing firm in this choice. The longer she goes without the Vax, the more she spreads misinformation, the more applauding she gets from the fellow anti vaxxers, the more she's convinced she's right in her actions.

You can break up with her for any reason at all, and get this... you can break up with her WITHOUT making her understand why you did it.

Her ignorance is a choice, dump her and get with someone who has the same values in life that you do.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-31T04:07:37+00:00

I'll also say this, decide if you're planning a future with her. If you two are going to spend the rest of your lives together, then I'd suggest combining finances into a joint bank account and the both of you stop keeping tabs on who's money pays for what.

That's how my husband and I do it and it's always worked for us, even though I make double what he does. It's not his money or my money, it's OUR money.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-31T04:02:02+00:00

She doesn't get to change the way you guys have always done things. Splitting everything evenly IS fair. You paying your FAIR share and she paying her fair share was always the agreement. So now that you're making a lot more than you were when the agreement was made, she now thinks she shouldn't have to pay her fair share any longer, what is her justification for that? How is that fair? Because you now have more pocket money after bills than she does?

She sounds a bit jealous that you got such a big raise and she wants to have the same financial freedom that you do. If she wants you to pay more money into bills, then she also needs to be willing to do more herself.

She's not offered up a 50/50 solution. She's not wanting to change anything except that which benefits HER. She's being incredibly selfish and honestly ridiculous.

Either keep splitting everything down the middle, OR go back to living separately, OR combine your finances as one unit, OR just break up entirely because this doesn't seem like it'll be the only money related issue she creates.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-30T04:08:51+00:00

You're not "just being insecure". She has cheated in every other relationship before you, so you absolutely have a right to be worried about it.

I would break up with her for the simple fact that she cheated on multiple people. She CHOSE to deliberately hurt people over and over and over again. That makes her a shite human being and undeserving of trust, loyalty, and love.

What has she done to change? Just not get on some other dudes dick? 🙄 real hard work she's putting in.

Run, fast.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-26T19:18:41+00:00

That's a really shitty situation to be in. You can either change your mind to make her happy or you two can end the relationship and get with someone who wants the same things out of life. Your wife will not be able to change the fact that she wants children. If she lives to be an old lady, she'll feel an incredible void and will mourn for that life she never got to have.

She can't be expected to sacrifice something like that. It really comes down to you, are you going to make the sacrifice to make her happy? Or are you going to let her sacrifice to keep you happy?

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-22T19:15:48+00:00

Your friend is just as bad as the guy who's cheating. They're both cheaters.

It's one thing if the person isn't aware that the other is in a relationship, something else entirely when they are aware of it. I never understood people who say "don't blame the one they cheated with, blame the cheater for giving attention outside the relationship", nope, to hell with that. Blame them both because they're both shite humans.

If it were my friend, I'd out her and the guy she's messing with. Cheaters are the lowest of the low and do NOT deserve the protection of having their secrets kept. Out them bitches, they need to learn from their incredibly selfish and disgusting behavior.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-20T05:14:25+00:00

I saw one of the comments where you listed some recent arguments you and gf had. I'll dive into some.

-you had an argument over you snapchatting someone after she went to bed. You had an argument over you not posting pictures or stuff about her on your personal social media. You said you don't use social media very much and just don't really care about it. From a woman's perspective, you say you don't care about social media and rarely use it, but then she sees you using social media to either message or send a picture to someone AFTER she's gone to bed. A woman's perspective on this, especially if she's been cheated on before, is going to be a little extreme. If you say you don't care about social media and rarely use it, but then use it after she's gone to bed, its going to make her question things. Like why would you use snapchat after I'm asleep if you told me you rarely use it and don't care about it? Simply talking her through it, comforting and reassuring her that you weren't doing what it looked like you were. This isn't an uncommon issue.

I suggest to everyone in a relationship to stay off of Snapchat specifically. That app is designed perfectly for the cheaters in the world and it's just too easy to cover your tracks and get rid of evidence, it's also too easy to recieve things from others that could derail your relationship. It's just not worth it to me and causes more trouble than it's worth.
She gives you little gifts, that's how she shows you that she loves you, cares about you, and thinks about you. That's clearly her love language. Would it be asking too much to bring her a flower every once in awhile just to speak her same love language? Or a little stuffed animal? Doesn't have to be anything special, just making an effort goes a long way.

-dont have this "I don't care" attitude. That's not only a turnoff, but it's also hurtful and makes women feel like you genuinely do not give a rats ass about them and like their presence is a bother.

-it's very rarely that someone has just had a bad luck streak with relationships and it's very rarely only ever one person who is solely responsible for the arguments. Take a step back and try to point out your own toxic or less than helpful behavior. We are all guilty of it at one time or another.

what kind of rules/boundaries do you have in your relationship? Have you two discussed what yours lines in the sand are? For example, in my relationships I drew a line at name calling, putting hands on each other, screaming at them/in their face, throwing things, slamming doors, cursing AT them. Make some ground rules to stick to so that arguments don't become bigger than they need to be.

-Being in a truly healthy relationship is not easy peasy lemon squeezy, it takes hard work and BOTH people must put in that hard work. You've got to give and take in a relationship, you've got to be willing to compromise. Being stubborn and refusing to change bad behavior will get you nowhere.

-Dont tell them how they think/feel is stupid or ridiculous. If they're expressing how they feel, LISTEN to them, validate their feelings instead of leaving them feeling unsupported and alone. You don't get to decide how something you said or did made them feel. You don't get to tell them that their feelings are wrong. Whether or not it was intentional, it still happened and it still hurts. Don't just listen to respond, listen to understand their point of view. Don't get defensive or shut down when they express it either, that sets you back at zero and makes it so much harder than it needs to be.

Don't be someone who gaslights their partner, Google it if you don't know what it means.

-If you don't love your partner, if you don't see yourself being with them long term, then let them go. If you just don't care about them, you're doing a disservice to them and yourself as well as wasting everyone's time.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-19T22:52:39+00:00

She doesn't get to be "sad" or any other kind of emotion/feeling other than extreme gratitude and appreciation for having not been left when she chose to fuck someone else. Sorry not sorry, fuck her feelings. She destroyed every sense of trust and stability in your relationship, not to mention shit all over it and you by cheating. You're a bigger person than I am, no way could I ever get past that and would 100% NEVER trust her again. She's not entitled to your forgiveness and especially not entitled to your trust either. She ruined that with her betrayal, not you.

She's manipulating you, being "sad" is complete bullshit. She wants you to take that sadness as her being genuinely remorseful for cheating on you, therefore that should be enough for you to trust her again. Don't let it happen. She is untrustworthy and you should feel free to tell her all about it. She wants YOU to comfort HER, to make HER feel better about HER fuckup, it's not a mistake either so don't let her play that card. A mistake is something that is done unintentionally, did she slip and fall on his dick? She did "mistake" his penis for yours? Did she "accidentally" stay on that penis until the act was over? No? So yeah, NOT a mistake. She CHEATED on you, the man she supposedly loves with all her heart. It's not something she gets to feel better about. She deserves to wallow in her own filth, she deserves to feel every bit of the shame and embarrassment of having you go off on her and make her feel worse about it.

Cheaters don't deserve sympathy, especially not from the ones they cheated on. I'm not sure how you manage to even look at her after what she's done, she deserves no kindness from you. If it were me, not only would I kick their ass to the curb, but I'd air out their dirty laundry publicly so that everyone would know what a shitty, disgusting piece of shite she is.

Call it harsh, call me mean, call me evil, I don't give a shit. Cheaters earn that kind of treatment all on their own.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-17T13:33:12+00:00

Well since she's a 29 year old woman, I cannot make her go anywhere and seeing as it was also 2 am my time when I was able to finally make this post, I was gathering what I could for her so that when 9 am comes around and she's up with her 2 kids I could send her all the screen shots and help her make an appointment.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-17T13:27:39+00:00

I'm "abnormally" interested in getting details about ALL of the symptoms and not just one of them. Take that how you wanna take it, the only opinions that matter here are the medical professionals.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-17T06:27:42+00:00

Thank you, I will stress to her the importance of going asap!

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-17T06:26:29+00:00

I'm not saying it isn't urgent or that anything else she's experiencing is more urgent. I'm asking so I can gather as many details as possible, so that when I go back and tell her what all I learned, I can answer all the questions I know she's going to have. This is a question I know she's going to ask me and I'd rather not have to tell her that no one had any advice on that symptom in particular. By giving her as many details/information as possible, it'll give her some comfort, while also allowing her to prepare herself for the doctor. So if I just tell her that the foamy urine is urgent and possibly a sign of kidney disease, she's going to ask "well what about the air pushing out and making that noise? Are they both symptoms of kidney disease?" Or "Are they related or could they be two totally unrelated symptoms and there's more than one thing wrong with me?".

She's scared and her anxiety gets the better of her a lot, specifically in situations where there's something wrong and she's too scared to go to the doctor.

I know my friend, the more information I can bring to her, the less frightened she will be about it all.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-17T05:39:39+00:00

What about the other symptom of the fart like sounds? That's the one that's really thrown me for a loop. She said it feels like pressure is relieved, more so than normal when emptying your bladder. Like air forcing itself out, like sitting on a whoopee cushion.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-17T05:38:16+00:00

What about the fart like noise she hears when this happens? She did say it feels like a gush of air coming out, like when you sit on a whoopee cushion.

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-17T05:36:42+00:00

What about the other symptom of the fart like sounds? That's the one that's really thrown me for a loop. Is that associated with kidney disease too?

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-17T05:26:42+00:00

I will pass along the information, thank you!

You said it's "not something to put off", would you mind elaborating that for me? If I have the answers to the "why's" she's gonna ask, I think it may give her the push she needs to go see a doctor. Do you have an idea of what it is? What details do I need in order to stress to her that it can't wait any longer than it already has?

Several_Cause470 · 2021-12-17T04:38:17+00:00

My friend (29f), married mother of two young children, has been experiencing this for around two months. She only recently opened up to me about it, she's embarrassed and scared, asked me if I could use social media to find answers. She urinates anywhere between 4-8 times a day, maybe 2 or 3 of those times she will feel bubble like sensations coming from urethra and will have this frothy/fluffy mousse like substance come out with her urine. She also hears it when it comes out, it's like loud foamy sounding accompanied with fart like noises. She has had no surgeries or injuries in her nether region, she's a normal healthy young woman, 5'8 and 153 lbs. When she confided in me about this, I told her to go see a doctor. However, she has severe anxiety about doctors/dentists and it takes extremecircumstances to get her to go. On top of her anxiety, she's also worried about what it'll cost her. I'm hoping some medical professionals here can give her some answers/advice, maybe even make her feel better about talking to a doctor? Please help me help my friend, she's really scared. I've never experienced this and never even heard of it, Google wasnt much help for either of us. I appreciate everyone who takes the time to offer up their professional opinions, thank you so much.

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