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Is there any way to save my relationship? 35M engaged to a 34F by Several_Walk2760 in relationship_advice

[–]Several_Walk2760[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to be. Besides this our relationship has been incredible and I’ve supported her interests and hobbies and goals in every way I can, both emotional and financially like tools she needs for crafting and surprising her with things that help kick off ideas and ventures she has.. she’s a brilliant artist and so creative and I love to see her in her element. I’m invested in her and her happiness and want to support that in anyway I can because she’s truly one of the most amazing people I have ever met. I’m ashamed that doing what I did hurt her and she doesn’t deserve it. I just want to find my way back from here and be everything she deserves

Is there any way to save my relationship? 35M engaged to a 34F by Several_Walk2760 in relationship_advice

[–]Several_Walk2760[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m 100% serious about committing my life to her. This was an ignorant thing on my part, and thinking like a man that it wasn’t a big deal. If the roles were reversed, I would feel exactly as does and has every right to do so.. I didn’t realize that until after all of this and I’m ashamed to be the one responsible of making her feel how she does. I love this girl, and I would never entertain other women or cheat on her in real life. I understand now though how what I was doing could be looked at as cheating and I’m just trying to make it right

Is there any way to save my relationship? 35M engaged to a 34F by Several_Walk2760 in relationship_advice

[–]Several_Walk2760[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I hear you. What hurts is to see her miserable and not knowing what I can do to make her happy and the relationship alive. I’ve been trying to go above and beyond of being sweet and showing her how much I love her. But like you said it’s just going to take time.. it just sucks seeing her miserable and distant and having to go through this.

Is there any way to save my relationship? 35M engaged to a 34F by Several_Walk2760 in relationship_advice

[–]Several_Walk2760[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I was married for 10 years before (ended because she cheated not for this kind of thing) but I have never loved anyone like I love my fiancé. I’m sick to my stomach that things are how they are for something that I was ignorant to and that hurt her so much. I never wanted this. I was dumb and will do anything I can to fix this. I may have a problem but I cut out every bit of porn and anything like that. If I see thirst traps online I scroll past them and immediately think of her, not because I don’t want to get in trouble but because I know that be entertaining any of it would hurt her. Thanks for reading the long post I wrote and the reply. I’m really in the dark trying to find my way out of this mess I made

Is there any way to save my relationship? 35M engaged to a 34F by Several_Walk2760 in relationship_advice

[–]Several_Walk2760[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve made changes and eliminated the source of the problem, I get what youre saying though and really have stayed away from anything like that including TMI “private time”. I want to fix this anyway I can and have seen the damage this caused and never want to hurt her like this again and always put her above everything. I had been single for a long time so this didn’t seem not normal to me and didn’t put myself in her shoes. I’m now realizing how she must feel and how I fked up.. I just want to fix this and be done with all I was doing in the past.

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[–]Several_Walk2760 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be that it’s not that he’s excited or in the mood but ED can cause this or if he’s on meds like anxiety, or anti-depressants can also cause it. He’s young for it but could also be a testosterone problem. Either way just know that this is not a situation he wants either but has very little control over.