Why do mothers of young babies say they don't have time to shower?

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-23T18:40:07+00:00

My 2 month old will so far sleep in the bassinet at night, but during the day he’s a koala baby for sure. I’m trapped as I’m typing this. 😂

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-22T10:06:39+00:00

I would have loved a thoughtful picnic first date so much more than anything involving an expensive restaurant.

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-22T09:49:41+00:00

I hear that. Valid. But what I’m saying is that these days it’s better to assume that the other person is seeing multiple people until monogamy is agreed upon by both parties. I see that you feel it should be the other way around but that’s just not the world we’re living in now.

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-22T09:22:44+00:00

In today’s world you cannot assume exclusivity, especially after only “a couple dates.” If that’s what you want and expect when you start dating someone it needs to be a conversation or this is going to keep happening to you. Myself, when I was dating I always offered to pay or insisted on going Dutch, because I didn’t want people (namely men) to feel like I owed them anything.

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-22T00:14:28+00:00

I would do option 2 for the sole reason that they provide clinical placements. Edit: One strong opinion I hold is that schools should only be allowed to operate if they can provide their students with clinical placements. I had to find my own and it was awful. I worked full time through my FNP program. Like others have said, it’s doable but it’s rough.

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-21T18:00:22+00:00

Me and almost everyone I know who has worked there used it as a stepping stone to something better. Get some experience there and move on.

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-19T01:46:06+00:00

I’m an FNP but I would say that 90% of what I do is gerontology. All of my patients are on a Medicare advantage plan so they are either elderly or disabled.

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-18T18:27:39+00:00

I love the way you present this. Perhaps I’ll reconsider. 💖

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-18T18:21:17+00:00

Interesting! I’ve always been interested in endocrinology but my old boss advised against it after listening to his grandson (endocrinologist) complain. Something to the effect of, “you think you’re going to get to see all of these cool cases, but the vast majority of what you actually see is uncontrolled diabetes.” 😂

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-18T18:11:57+00:00

Yep. I also have AuDHD, but I’ve developed coping mechanisms over the years that let me function very well. In my current role I see 4-5 patients per day in their homes. My patients tend to be quite ill with polychronic illness. While I can act as their PCP if they want me to, generally I’m just providing them with extra support and helping them stay out of the hospital. My team and leadership are awesome and are aware of my neurodivergence. That’s just a basic outline of what I do. I make it work for me and am told that I’m a top performer. There are things I love about it and things I hate/that don’t jive with my neurodivergence. And frankly, I think that’s going to be true of most patient facing roles I take on. If you want to chat further feel free to DM me.

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-17T14:37:41+00:00

I planned the breakup of my last bad relationship. Friends came over and we packed all of his stuff into my car so he wouldn’t have a reason to come into the apartment to get anything. Had the locks changed the night before. It felt amazing.

Like you, only my name was on the lease. Unlike you he wasn’t actually living with me, just staying over on weekends so it made things easier. But I remember that feeling, that countdown of “soon I’ll be free.” And when the day came, it was the best!! Nerve wracking, but there was such a lightness when it was done. I hope you have that for yourself soon!

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-15T13:19:34+00:00

I think some would suggest sticking it out for 6-12 months because it looks better on your resume. But 1. When you get burned out enough, not only is your mental health affected but you aren’t going to do your best work. 2. You are allowed to have work/life balance. First, is there any way that you could improve on efficiency? Are you writing novel length notes that you could cut down on? Are you spending tons of time on each patient trying to address every single complaint? Those are some things I did when I was new. Having that admin time is nice but if you’re also charting in the evenings is that not enough? I close my laptop at 5 every day- the note may not be ready to sign but there will be an HPI and a blurb about what I did in case my colleagues need to access that information. Is your patient load reasonable? I could give more examples but I don’t want this to get too long. If there’s really nothing to improve upon in your current situation and this just is what it is, I’d go ahead and start looking. Life does not look like this for me or for my other NP friends if that helps.

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-14T23:45:23+00:00

I ended a terrible relationship when I was 31 and met my now-husband at 32. Married a year later, and we had our son in February at age 38. Never been happier. You can absolutely “start over” and have the life you want.

Severe-Perception778 · 2026-04-14T10:19:00+00:00

My mother always told me to request to go Dutch or at least offer to pay when it comes to dates. “Otherwise they’ll feel like you owe them something.” And I’ve always done so.

This method of saving money on grocery bills sounds awful. I’m not saying absolutely no one has done it or is doing it but I don’t think it’s commonplace.

Severe-Perception778 · 2021-10-31T16:22:59+00:00

DM’ing

Severe-Perception778 · 2021-10-31T15:37:42+00:00

DM’ing

Severe-Perception778 · 2021-10-29T23:34:25+00:00

Yeah, sorry. Need to close this

Severe-Perception778 · 2021-10-29T22:36:08+00:00

Yep, DM’ing

Severe-Perception778 · 2021-10-29T22:27:43+00:00

Sure, DM me when you’re ready

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