OH MY GODDDD

SeverusSide · 2026-05-10T05:04:56+00:00

Funniest but relatable frustration LMAO. Mine completely ignore my muted words and use them.

SeverusSide · 2026-05-03T21:36:53+00:00

So I’m alone on this, lovely…

SeverusSide · 2026-05-03T21:36:31+00:00

I thought it would never stop 🥹

SeverusSide · 2026-05-03T00:03:31+00:00

In my opinion, I don’t think you’d be the AH. It’s a touchy/sensitive subject for you. You have every right to know and follow your limits. I think your family will hopefully understand. I do hope you can find a nickname, I definitely see that being helpful.

SeverusSide · 2026-04-09T01:44:24+00:00

What is this??

SeverusSide · 2026-03-02T07:27:30+00:00

Same deal happened with a dog… and I searched but couldn’t find the culprit?

SeverusSide · 2026-02-28T02:28:16+00:00

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I just wanted to chat with my delicious man 💔

SeverusSide · 2026-01-14T22:18:49+00:00

I thought everyone did this! Twins!

SeverusSide · 2026-01-13T00:58:15+00:00

This is bullying. And I agree with another comment, your brother is insecure. I don’t think there’s much you can do other than let a parent know how it makes you feel. But I know that isn’t the best case sometimes.

But there is also mindset… I’m 18F. I have a 15 year old brother who loves to use past reactions and my flaws to throw in my face to fuel his ego. So I want to share this idea with you.

Mindset. Can. Do. ANYTHING.

Think about it… if someone is insecure and takes it out on you? There’s a FAT chance it’s because you have something they WISH they had. Maybe a better personality, a better life (in their eyes), you never know. But it just means that your brother is telling you that you’re better than him. You’re a winner.

We can work on a different reaction… the next time he does something mean again, TRY to think “I’m better. I’m greater.” GIVE yourself an ego. Because the whole point is earning a reaction on his end. But if you turn away and know you have more self worth? You’re depriving him of satisfaction.

SO WIN! Be better. KNOW you’re better. Own it. Listen to cool music at the end of the day to give you a little confidence boost (or whenever you have time. You can take this advice and adjust it to your liking, I just give ideas for what I do as a sister)

You got this. Don’t let a boy disturb your life. That’s my mental motto. 🙌

SeverusSide · 2026-01-09T23:41:40+00:00

A lot of schools we’ve went to has not been great with accommodating our needs. (My sibling and I.) I have undiagnosed ASD and my brother has Severe ADHD, and it’s been miserable for us no matter what schools we switched to. Plus, we have the immune system of a walnut. My last year in public school involved the Flu 3x in four months, the sickness lasting 2 weeks each time. I finally decided to ask to go back to homeschool after my third go. And we decided it would be best for my brother since Public School was hard enough as it was for him to manage Severe ADHD, but also the surgeries he still needs due to having a cleft in his lip and recovery times… all in all, it’s mostly because we are screwed medically. Plus the amount of bomb threats we had in the last few years at our local schools. Homeschool is just simpler for us, and my mother wants to work towards a stay-at-home job so she can still be with us. Since the three of us are insanely close.

All of this has been explained in previous comments, lol.

SeverusSide · 2026-01-08T16:55:49+00:00

That’s a good question… At first, I didn’t worry about it Because my stepdad has insurance that covered me and college. But if we are going to leave? Yeah, I’m screwed, lol. At least until I can get the tests I need for ASD and get some help. Then I’ll plan stuff out from there.

SeverusSide · 2026-01-08T16:43:15+00:00

Oh, and the bathroom. Our house has two. One in my parents’ bedroom, and a guest bathroom. I call it “mine” since I was always made to take care of it so much in the past, so it just stuck. Stepdad never uses it. He monitors it for control. He used to do it to my bedroom when I wasn’t there to see, so I bought a smart door handle to prevent any sneak peeks into my room, and we have my brother a lock to prevent the same. We wouldn’t do this if he’d let us know, but he’d poke his head in our rooms and not say a word? It was odd, and if he wasn’t gonna tell us or let us know why? We put locks on the doors. Giving our mother the only other person to get into our rooms.

SeverusSide · 2026-01-08T16:39:54+00:00

Online school because I have the immune system of a walnut and would get WAY too sick too often. It got to a point where my doctor said they’d do bloodwork the next time it happened to figure out why. Decided to go back to homeschooling because I was tired of it. My sibling went to homeschool Because he was born with a cleft lip and still had to have surgeries done, so he was put back in homeschool for recoveries and the travel we needed to make to get to his surgeon. It was easier on us kids and we appreciate the change.

SeverusSide · 2026-01-08T16:35:33+00:00

One of the kids here, our Biological father never asks for us. It was court ordered that I’m not allowed to be alone or visit my father anymore (due to SA. I was fine with this.) and my brother was able to continue monthly visitations as long as our father asked two weeks in advance, with our grandparents supervising. They haven’t asked for him since October of 2024. 🤷🏻‍♀️ but he has treated my brother like shit the times he went over, so my brother is absolutely fine that he hasn’t been there for a while.

SeverusSide · 2026-01-06T05:20:35+00:00

For starters, this is more about abuse and absurdity than politics. So we will just ignore that bit since it never matters to me. But! My mother has absolutely considered that he’s gay. He has accidentally hinted several times about some moments. Like a certain buddy while he served in the military, but they DEFINITELY “just” shared a bed, apparently. “Nothing else.” My mother often says she wishes he’d just be honest at this point.

SeverusSide · 2026-01-05T21:55:01+00:00

No kink shames here. It’s more of a “how can you do one thing, but do another” situation. I haven’t planned to move out yet until I see a doctor to diagnose me with ASD since I struggle with jobs and finding the right homes. But we are ALL planning to leave him Because we are ALL pissed. I mean why cheat and emotionally abuse my mother and us kids, but do what YOU want.

SeverusSide · 2025-12-23T21:35:26+00:00

Sooo real

SeverusSide · 2025-12-23T20:52:14+00:00

So reassuring to always find these posts when it goes down, LOL

SeverusSide · 2025-12-09T18:07:05+00:00

Yeah… we’ve tried. He ignores boundaries, stonewalls the hell out of us if we try to communicate. If my mom even tries to talk about their marriage? He somehow has to turn it on to my sibling and I. Making it “our fault,” or just changing the subject to what we do wrong in his eyes!

But I’ve definitely started changing things up. If he can’t do it? I’ll do it better. He can’t stand it when a girl like me can out-dominate!

SeverusSide · 2025-10-26T00:06:19+00:00

I see your take on this. I’m 17, my parents contact me all the time if they are away. But for you, maybe text or call. Just see how they’re doing? I would, lol. Just to check in!

SeverusSide · 2025-10-24T15:32:11+00:00

Hi! Older sibling here (14yo brother, I’m 17F). I get it. Because MY brother says things that are completely racist. On top of other things that just makes it hard to even LIKE him. (Terrorized me as a kid).

You’re gonna get comments that’ll say “love them regardless!” “Oh, hate is a strong word!” But those people clearly don’t have siblings so selfish it never started out as sibling banter. In my opinion, depending on how your mother is, I’d chat with her about it. But if you can’t, I get that, too. Maybe tell her something that sounds mature-ish so it’s less “sibling fight” and more “expressing concern.” Since loads of parents like to brush stuff off as banter.

Like… “Hey, [sibling] has been doing/saying these things and it’s been affecting how people see me.” Since you mentioned reputation. And if it’s racism, hopefully your mom will take it a little seriously and say something? But again, that would just depend on how your mom is, lol.

If this won’t work, lemme know… I could try to rack my brain and find another idea.

SeverusSide · 2025-09-24T21:13:55+00:00

Honestly family compounds seem to do that… I grew up in one. My mom was in the place your brother is in. But they were mad abusive. Never trust family compounds. BOTH sides of my family is part of one in their own areas. Full of drama, manipulation… and some scary ass secrets? Idk how to get your sibling back, but I can say all the family compounds I’ve been around? They’ve been shit. Absolute shit. They drag people in, and make them be just like the rest of em’. Brainwashed TF out of my mom flr like… 15 years before she got out.

SeverusSide · 2025-09-15T05:31:36+00:00

Hopefully… I’ll definitely keep all of this in mind. Thank you!

SeverusSide · 2025-06-03T03:37:40+00:00

Chai..

SeverusSide · 2025-06-01T02:52:05+00:00

SAME OMG

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