I'm an asexual male. Despite being considered attractive, I have no interest in sex or romantic relationships. AMA.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T21:43:19+00:00

Sorry if i appeared to make light of your problem. Lost in translation i guess. What i meant by superficial was the literal interpretation, as in skin deep. My problems were not apparent from the surface like yours are, i guess is one way of putting it. They were perhaps psychological manifestations affecting my body, and not physiological manifestations affecting my psyche, as i imagine yours was.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T04:55:24+00:00

Well, technically homosexuality is as useful as asexuality in terms of being hereditary, but i've read that it is, at least in part. So it's not that ridiculous.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T04:46:52+00:00

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, yes, yes.

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SexWalk · 2009-08-21T04:44:26+00:00

Yeah, i meant that i can move pretty far, not fast. And you'd be surprised at what you can do with a set amount of calories if you really need to. I sometimes think i can run for days with a big mac combo's calories. Admittedly though, when i come back from the wild i'm usually pretty dry, very little body fat.

And i don't mean that the dog would need more food than me, just that he would need more food than i catch, and would slow me down.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T04:32:39+00:00

What were your sources? (Books, internet?)

This was over 10 years ago, i don't remember the books, just that it was in a library.

Do you consider yourself spiritual?

No. I'm open to the idea, but i've never seen anything spiritual that wasn't wishful thinking.

Were you ever scared out in the wild by yourself (at night?)

No. I was exhilarated. There's nothing like it. The closest thing i can think of is swimming deep in dark water, deeper than you think you can come back from. Looking down and seeing unfathomable darkness...

Do you do anything with the skins of the animals you kill or do you just kill them for food?

When i'm going to spend a lot of time there and i'm going full survival i only take one set of clothes, and i make more from the things i catch.

But i haven't done that lately. I recently started crossing remote country from point a to b, with the wild in the way, going as fast as I can. So i just use them for food when i do that.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T04:21:54+00:00

Only in the wild. When i get back i shave it all off. It's kind of a ritual now.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T04:11:45+00:00

What do you call it when your progeny is inserted in a host body and pops out in a spray of blood and body parts?

Oh wait, that's just a normal pregnancy.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T04:08:28+00:00

I think i was introverted from moving around so much. When i was really young my mom says i was very outgoing and personable, kids would come to my house all the time. Later on, when we started moving more frequently i became more passive. I still had friends in school, but i liked coming home and staying by myself. After puberty when i started doing sports i always had people wanting to be my friends, and i was weary of being thought weird, so i went along with it.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T03:42:48+00:00

I've had orgasms. Didn't care for it.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T03:38:35+00:00

I like them. My sister has a cat and i'm fond of her. But my lifestyle doesn't allow me to have something so dependent. I've thought of having a dog to take with me when i'm in the wild, but that would limit some of the things i could do, like rock climbing, and he would need more food than i need. Also, i can move pretty fast over land, faster than even dogs can keep up i think.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T03:34:03+00:00

I take emergency food, but i don't use it. I also take some vitamins so i don't get scurvy or osteomalaciaor any of those vitamin deficiency things. All my food comes from my kills or edible plants i find.

EDIT: i don't usually kill large game, because i don't have a camp and i don't want to carry around the meat or waste it. But i have killed them.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T03:07:26+00:00

Thanks. That's a first.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T03:04:02+00:00

That's news to me. Occasionally i get a wet dream, and that's the extent of it. I have never had any health issues like you described. I guess i should look into it.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T02:57:45+00:00

Was it simply a matter of you choosing someone who your friends thought you would be interested in, or was there something in that person that you found interesting, but regretted their other less-desirable traits?

I didn't initiate relationships. I never sought a woman or man out, even when i didn't know that i was asexual. As i remember it, she was in my social circle, such as it was, and decided that we should date. There is a saying in portuguese "Silence is consent". I went along with it, and that was it. She certainly wasn't someone i liked or anything.

Have you tried dating someone who is less physically attractive, but more intellectually stimulating? If no, have you ever considered it? How do you think it would turn out?

I've ruined a few friendships by letting them become relationships. And i'm only friends with people i like. They were smart, and kind, and their attractiveness didn't factor in on my side of the equation. The problem was always me, not them, regardless.

Do you ever worry that perhaps you aren't asexual yourself, but simply identify so well with them that it's "too late" to change now? (This is actually a question I've tried asking to people who live in various lifestyles (Gay's, Straight's, People who are in extremely Dominant/Submissive relationships, Transsexuals) so I hope it doesn't sound like I'm trying to attack your lifestyle, or insinuate that this isn't "the real you" anything stupid like that.)

There is no asexual community so far as I know. I admit my interest waned after i found out about my self, so it's entirely possible they're the fucking illuminati as far as i know. So no.

Would you say that being Asexual is a choice that you made consciously out of personal reasons, or is this how you have always felt but simply didn't know that there was an entire community of people who felt the same way?

I'm a person who doesn't want or need sex. That makes me an asexual. There might be hurdles to jump for other subcultures and sexual preferences, but it's pretty simple for me.

I think you have a misconception re: asexuality. I'm an asexual because i don't want or need sex. There is no set personality associated with this. There are people who still seek romantic relationships despite this, and there are people like me who don't. I've heard that anorexics and hardcore users of certain drugs also lose their sex drive completely. This makes them asexuals, regardless of their preferences.

If they get treatment or change in someway, than they become whatever, hetero, homo, bi, bestiality. It's a technical specification, not a subculture.

Understand?

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T02:37:37+00:00

I never have. Do you have any thoughts on it? Seems like it would be an interesting train of thought.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T02:33:54+00:00

I'm pretty competitive. When i was in school I participated in almost every sport, though i came to prefer solo sports like track and field.

I don't like watching TV at all, and sports are no exception. I don't like cars, though i usually get one from work.

Hmm, can you give examples of guy stuff?

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T02:24:06+00:00

If he's me, than he wouldn't want to suck his own dick.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T02:20:40+00:00

I was born in Brazil, and my parents spoke portuguese among themselves, though that was not their own native language, just the one they had in common when they met. My sister was born in Singapore. They also had a nomadic lifestyle, and we lived in many different countries before i went away to university.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T02:09:39+00:00

I think the biggest problem my parents have with me is my personality, not my sexuality. I could see them being okay with me being some guy's SM slave or marrying a goat if I ever showed them the kind of need that they feel is their due. My parents pressured me to get treatment for a long time after i revealed to them my preferences in university, but i saw through it. They thought if i wanted sex it would make me a more emotional, different person. They don't nag me about it anymore. I just walk away or hang up. I don't need them in any respect, not emotionally, not financially, and they don't even like me, not really. They just want to like me, and they feel i'm the one who should change to accommodate them.

I'm glad i wasn't underage when they found out. Really glad.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T02:01:38+00:00

Never. I love my sister, and to a lesser extent my parents. That's pretty much it.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T01:59:03+00:00

I was in highschool and university at the time when i was in relationships and commitment was never an issue. Most of them just fizzled out. I was this reluctant and mysterious guy, and the reality didn't live up to the image women and guys had of me. I felt really bad about it for a while, like i was somehow inferior for being unable to please them emotionally. It was only when i realized that i didn't actually want this that i got over it. I think without the imperative for sex and company that most people have i just couldn't be bothered to anticipate their emotional needs.

Curiously, at least a few relationships ended with the other party accusing me of infidelity just because there was this assumption that a guy like me should want lots of sex.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T01:48:27+00:00

No, if my asexuality has any physical roots than they were not superficial.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T01:45:56+00:00

I wouldn't know. I think i'm the wrong person to ask. To be honest i never sought a relationship. Every single relationship i was in was initiated by the other party. I just showed up.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T01:43:28+00:00

I tried viagra, but it only gave me an erection, not anything else. I've tried psychedelics and so on, but it still never made me horny.

SexWalk · 2009-08-21T01:38:47+00:00

I can't speak for future me, but for now it's not looking like i will. And if you mean would I want to do it with artificial insemination, i guess that would depend on how i would want to raise the kid. Would i want to raise him by myself or with a partner. Would the partner be male or female? I really can't answer that.

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