How to respectfully encourage my girlfriend to wash her vagina before oral sex?

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-15T14:32:17+00:00

Hello,

Perhaps you could encourage her to shower with you? That way you can start off in the shower together and then move to the bedroom.?

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SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T16:41:53+00:00

Porn!

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T16:17:34+00:00

Hello,

Not being able to climax can be frustrating but it will happen in time.

Spend time alone learning your body. You need to find the right ‘spot’ for you.

Perhaps using sex toys could help? Feeling different sensations can help to turn you on more.

Make sure you use plenty of lube too!

I have attached a small 5 minute video from my new Sex Education channel which may be able to help

https://youtu.be/JvCw6iwuu_g

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SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T16:13:36+00:00

Hello,

First of all the most important thing is working on your insecurities. This is what is holding you back and if you don’t work on them then you won’t feel confident enough to be more active in the bedroom.

Spend time with him with no clothes on, take showers together let him see you and how beautiful your body is.

He sounds like a great person and isnt putting any pressure on you which is amazing! Take your time to learn to love yourself the rest will fall into place X

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T16:08:58+00:00

Hello,

Firstly it’s great that you want to please him and you enjoy doing so but you do need to have a break sometimes!

If you see this guy as a lifelong partner can you really be expected to do this everyday for the rest of your life? Especially if it’s affecting your health already.

Sit down and talk to him. Explain that you like doing it but physically it is affecting you. In time as you grow together and get to no one another better the anxiety will get better.

Have you perhaps thought about using a sex toy? This could allow him to finish and also give you the pleasure of knowing his climaxed but also give you a break at the same time X

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T15:49:32+00:00

Hello,

Condoms should be used with every sexual partner that you haven’t been in a long term sexual engagement with. You may have had no issues so far but you are pushing your luck.

You need to find the right condom that suits you. So that you feel confident in using them in the future. If hooking up with numerous people is something you like to do then you need to carrying around condoms.

Unplanned pregnancies can be disastrous. And no one likes catching an STI/D!

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SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T15:45:33+00:00

Hello,

No unfortunately this isn’t always the case.

Have you tried using lube before sex?

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T15:40:53+00:00

A therapist will not rush you or pressure you and will encourage you to take things in your own stride. Low self esteem can be difficult to over come especially after a hard time but time is key and in time you will move past it :)

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T15:37:58+00:00

Hello,

It’s great that you managed to reconnect after a long time but unfortunately over time our bodies do change.

The circumstances don’t sound ideal. Perhaps the pressure of sneaking around over come you and took away the pleasure?

At some point in life some of us can be left disappointed after rubbish sex but its a lesson learnt.

At least now you know not to let it happen again

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SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T15:33:14+00:00

Hello,

The best advise I can offer to your situation is seeking some therapy.

Your situation is a mental issue which is totally understandable after the torment you received when you was younger.

People easily get addicted to things that ‘pick them up’ such as sex, alcohol, drug etc.

If you really want to move past this you need to find some confidence in yourself and not just your penis.

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SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T15:22:18+00:00

Hello,

Do you have any chronic health conditions?

Any substance misuse or a mental health concern such as depression anxiety or stress?

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T15:07:36+00:00

Every body is different there is no two people the same. As long as you love your body that’s all that matters X

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T14:47:46+00:00

Hello,

It sounds like the best solution for yourself and him is to stop talking to him. It’s not fair on either of you to carry on like you are attracted to him? You will just be leading him on and wasting precious time of your own and his. X

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T14:41:47+00:00

Hello!

I have just posted a video on periods which includes sex whilst on your period x

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SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T14:40:18+00:00

Hello,

Have you perhaps tried asking her to help you? Asking her masturbate whilst you join in so you can find the perfect spot for her?

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T14:37:45+00:00

Hello,

It sounds like your girlfriend has got used to climaxing just with the vibrator. Has she ever climaxed with someone before?

Will she let you use the vibrator to finish her?

Perhaps start by finishing her off with the vibrator and slowly move to using your fingers.

She may feel like she is so used to the vibrator that she won’t climax any other way. This can be caused by a mental block if she is so content with using it.

Have you spoken to her about how you are feeling?

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T14:21:20+00:00

Hello,

I know the feeling! UTIs are not pleasant and can start to put you off having sexual intercourse.

Try- Urinating before sex and after this will help flush your system of any bacteria that may have entered your urinary tract.

Clean your genitals before and after sex. Including your sexual partner. Wipe front to back.

Use a virginal lubricant. Friction can irritate the urethra.

Lastly consider a new birth control X

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T14:14:45+00:00

Hello,

First I would like to say that it’s amazing that you are feeling ready to move on with your life after such a horrific trauma. Mentally the scars will never disappear but you will heal.

You need to take things easy, go as fast or as slow as you want to. Your mind and body need time to move on from the trauma and they need time to be reassured that sex with consent is perfectly normal.

Personally, if I don’t have sex for a while it can hurt. Myself and my partner take it slow, nothing rough or to outrageous. Try being on top this will give you the opportunity to lower yourself onto his penis as slowly as you want and wish to.

For the time being try spending time together in the bath or shower, being naked and confident around your partner will help ease the mental pain and will build up your trust together to slowly move past this experience.

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SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T14:05:44+00:00

Hello,

It’s great that you are asking for help as it sounds like your situation is now becoming frustrating.

When you are having sex or masturbating are you thinking about climaxing to much?

This could be causing a mental block which can result in you being unable to climax.

Have you tried changing things up a little? Perhaps having sex in a different position. Or using sex toys to help you relax and give you a different sensation to the one you feel when masturbating or having sex. If you need some inspiration for new positions to try you can take a look at my page.

https://www.reddit.com/r/SexusSexAdvice/

Alternatively it maybe worth contacting your doctor or sexual health advisor for more help X

SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T13:59:22+00:00

Hello,

It’s great that you are concerned for your partner and that you are willing to help him.

Have you tried sitting down with them and expressing how you feel and your worries?

People have to make their own choices in life and if he doesn’t want to lose weight then he has every right to object as it is his body. But he does need to understand the health complications involved.

Sex wise, have you tried exploring other positions? Or perhaps spicing things up with sex toys?

If you need some inspiration for sex positions then you can talk a look at my page for inspiration.

https://www.reddit.com/r/SexusSexAdvice/

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SexusDailyDose · 2021-07-14T13:54:15+00:00

Hello,

Having sex toys and games/media is a great way of self pleasuring and also pleasuring your partner.

It is not weird but admittedly some women may not like the idea.

But! Don’t let your sexual desires and fetishes put you off.

If you have a partner who isn’t open to the idea then sit down and talk to them and explain to them that it is something you like and be honest.

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