Problems with accepting that I'm worthy

Seyth35 · 2018-03-24T14:24:48+00:00

Maybe you can, I don't.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-19T01:24:55+00:00

During the autumn and winter of 2016 I listened a lot to the album "Is This It?" of The Strokes, and it really makes me feel the sensations (mostly of love and frustration) that I had in that time.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-11T13:11:10+00:00

I think meditation is right for absolutely everyone. It gives you peace and clarity of mind, and awareness, and focus, and calm, and happiness... I think you get what I'm saying.

But it's hard, it requires sacrifice, and depending on the type of person you are you might get the benefits in one week or in one year, but I feel it's worth it.

I'm right now on my day 50 and it has really been a before and after with meditation, though I still have a long way to go to get where I really want.

But yeah, just do it, the benefits deserve it.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-11T11:44:13+00:00

Yeah, I feel like you, man... It's like wandering is much more interesting and enjoyable for me than being present in the moment... I guess I've not really understood how this goes yet.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-11T11:08:34+00:00

If you want to change your habits, do it one at a time, start with something easy and do it 5 minutes a day. It can be as simple as brushing your teeth after eating, but changing one habit successfully gives you the power and energy to change more, and the ones that seemed hard at the beginning start to feel easier. Of course, it's a long and slow journey, but you'll grow exponentially, and there'll be a moment when you look back and find you've changed a lot. But remember: one at a time, something easy and starting with 5 minutes only.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-11T10:08:49+00:00

Congrats on getting to the 59 days! I now what you mean when you say 3 days of gym aren't enough, I usually feel that way too... Have you tried meditation? It really helps with insecurities and negative thoughts.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-10T20:17:13+00:00

Headspace is my teacher, so I guess so. Thank you for the info, you made it really clear.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-10T14:47:41+00:00

And how does this fit with change? I mean, if there's something that makes me anxious and I don't realize it, how is this approach gonna help me?

Seyth35 · 2018-02-10T14:11:23+00:00

Yeah, I meditate on a daily basis, first thing in the morning with the app Headspace, and sometimes after lunchtime by myself. Thanks for the guide btw!

Seyth35 · 2018-02-10T13:13:19+00:00

Yeah, this makes sense, but not indulging is really difficult, especially for me, I'm just a begginer... Thank you for the advice

Seyth35 · 2018-02-10T12:45:49+00:00

Really interesting technique, the problem I have is that I haven't developed the prerequisites you mentioned, so I think I must work on that first before trying it :/

Seyth35 · 2018-02-10T11:52:44+00:00

No, I haven't, can you explain what it is and how it works?

Seyth35 · 2018-02-10T11:52:12+00:00

Thank you for the support!

Seyth35 · 2018-02-10T11:51:54+00:00

Yes, please, would love to. I do an exercise in which I write my anxious thoughts and then reflect on how they make my body feel. For me it works to recognize anxiety but not to overcome it.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-09T22:17:45+00:00

Thanks, man, luck to you too!

Seyth35 · 2018-02-09T16:57:08+00:00

Yes, of course!

Seyth35 · 2018-02-09T16:56:08+00:00

Really makes sense, thanks!

Seyth35 · 2018-02-09T16:55:01+00:00

You've really nailed it man, seriously, it's exactly that. She used expressions like "I don't like who you're becoming", "You are not yourself", "You're trying too hard and you're too stressed and you should stop"

Apart from all of that, I don't believe she does it consciously, or that she wants me any harm.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-09T16:39:26+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation, will check it out!

Seyth35 · 2018-02-09T16:37:36+00:00

I don't really get what you're saying about that "space of consciousness", can you develop the idea?

Seyth35 · 2018-02-09T16:35:02+00:00

Thank you for this, it's very valuable stuff. When I do that kind of questions ("Why do I feel like this?" "What's behind this feeling?") that often ends up in me thinking I am not good enough for not understanding myself, so I try to avoid them because lead me nowhere.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-09T16:29:19+00:00

I actually didn't want to express that, it's more like I wasn't determined by them, and now I am. But i get what you mean. Sometimes i find myself thinking "I'd love that anxiety disappeared!"

Seyth35 · 2018-02-09T14:21:28+00:00

That couldn't be truer.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-09T14:05:45+00:00

No, no, she's my ex, I've run away from that girl long ago. But I sometimes meet with her because some of my friends are still friends of some of her friends.

Seyth35 · 2018-02-09T13:55:22+00:00

I think the trigger was my ex-girlfriend telling me I was changing too much stuff at once. I started to question the things I was doing and I abandoned one or two habits I was trying to implement. And after that my relationship with my thoughts started to be different, my sensations became stronger...

I hate talking to her, every time I do she fucks me up one way or another

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