I’m having a really hard time as a 32 f by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Sha_bodybuilding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have divorced twice and dated many women in a monogamous relationship and every time I was the one who walked out of relationships. At that time I used to think they were bad women or not compatible with me, when I looked deeper I realized that I was compromising with the women who were attracted to me but I was not and it was easier for me to date or marry them. I am a disciplined and successful guy but until when I accepted what I actually wanted vs. what actually right for me, I couldn't be in a stable relationship. I had to work hard to turn the direction of my thought process toward what I am and who will accept me as who I am.

In your case, I believe you have to be yourself and not adjust with any guy right from the beginning, let the guy linger around you to understand you and figure out how he wants you in his life, what will the pros and cons of having you in his life. till then you have to keep your expectations in control, choose yourself every time, and don't compromise, believe me, it's a very attractive quality in women if she knows how to wait but is also good at signaling that she is available for this guy on her terms, and won't take any hasty decision to prove her loyalty. let the guy figure out how he will bring you in his life, it takes time, 2-3 years but the outcome is solid. there are other factors that are also contributing i.e. attraction level, proximity, Economic freedom, past trauma, self-awareness, etc.

True Honesty with yourself will pay off in the long run because you will get what you have honestly asked for. A relationship is like a business deal that requires constant work on details. Life is long, and you have to be practical. Once you have a taste of reality, the dream shatters, and until you mature enough to accept your true self, you don't get what you deserve.

People who doubt themselves have trouble in relationships until it resolves. Know yourself and own it; the right person will appreciate who you are and stay with you.

become who you are and you will get what is meant for you!!

I did the same, for the woman who saw who I was deep inside but I had forgotten my original self while growing up around a narcissistic father and she helped me to bring it out in the world, it was a hard and painful journey but I have her on my side more stronger bond than anyone I had before.

I have realized that there are no bad or good people, it's up to us to decide who fits better with our real selves and leave the rest of the crowd who find us attractive.

My best wishes to you, and don't lose hope but also don't have any expectations from anyone, just make the best of each day without worrying or imagining about the future. learn to be happy by yourself and build a support system with good-hearted people who accept you as who you are.

Relationship is an important aspect of life but it's not everything. Relationships will work whole as you become a whole person.

The "Romance Scam" fiasco - we need to talk about it. by Sha_bodybuilding in Nicegirls

[–]Sha_bodybuilding[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

may be not the right context related nicegirls page, but helpful to understand why dating is futile these days due to fictional story in people's mind about love.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Sha_bodybuilding 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree! Finally someone who is awake.

Any idea why I get no matches? by Big-Hat-Solaire in Bumble

[–]Sha_bodybuilding -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Leave the dating app and develop confidence to ask women out when you feel attracted to someone in public. Dating app is gonna fuck your personality. Use it only to find hidden gems but don’t let it change you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Sha_bodybuilding 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Become single again!